thank you everyone, lots of fine informative responses, i've learned alot now. I do have two questions, one is for EB... so you go out to restaurants, social time... do you get stares due to the age difference? Inquiries from a waiter hidden behind a quick 'joke'?
Secondly a question for anyone... you folks pay the monthly membership with your CC and you're okay with that? Or use something else.... BTC?
As to your first question, not as much as you think, although I recall a few years ago I was on a date at a restaurant and the lady I was with, who was 23, kept mentioning to me she thought we were getting stares from others in the restaurant. She seemed unusually paranoid, because most of the other women I have dated on SA really do not seem to care one iota. I can think of two incidents, and both arose with busybody, middle aged, female waitresses. In the first incident, I was with a 20 year old knockout mixed racial woman I met on SA. We dined at the same restaurant on two different occasions, and had the same waitress both times, a yakky, busybody type, the kind of person who is not bashful about asking questions. On the second visit to the restaurant, after my date got up to go to the bathroom, she said to me, "she is gorgeous, is she a model? and then, before I could reply, she said, "who is she to you??????" And I answered "I don't know" to the first question and "she is a friend" to the second one, which was asked in a low, conspiratorial tone of voice.
The second incident was similar. It was at a different restaurant, same kind of waitress, same kind of question except it was more of a statement than a question, commenting on how great looking my date was and asking if she was a model. It's possible that this waitress had lesbian interest in my date, but I kind of interpreted her comments as prurient curiosity.
Implied, but not stated, in both these incidents, was "hey dude, an older guy like you is really lucky to have some hot young pussy sitting at your table and I am curious how that came to be." But neither incident phased me very much, as I am single and really do not care what anyone else thinks. So I do not overreact and usually just brush off such questions or comments with vague and euphemistic answers. I told both of the ladies about the comments later on and they were amused.
As for payment for SA I do use a credit card but it does not appear as SA on your statement, it's the name of some unrecognizable holding company. It's a secure transaction and it's certainly not any more cause for concern than using your credit card online on Amazon to purchase shoes. All you purchase on SA is the right to send messages and interact with other users. There is nothing illegal about that in and of itself.
