you actually might be surprised at how many people do not deliver the promised service and/or time promised. Add in emergency "I have to go" phone calls, and the various "oops" excuses and the possibilities for under-delivering services are virtually endless. Of course, most girls are reasonably honest. Of course, most guys are reasonably honest too. I've never heard the expression "douche canoe" before (made me laugh. thanks) but personality issues are not a one way street relegated strictly to men either. To be perfectly clear, I'm not minimizing the issues that SPs face with problem clients, but I'm likewise not forgetting the issues with problem SPs either.How is paying upfront undercutting your security? I mean, upon arrival, not before. She’s already there in person in front of you and so your odds of not getting service are very slim (unless you behave like a douche canoe) whereas she has absolutely no idea If you even have the money or not. so her odds of being scammed are exponentially higher than yours. Malice aside, let’s consider forgotten envelopes, rate misunderstanding and the likes all could be non malicious reasons to the girl not being paid which is eliminated by paying upon arrival.
can you imagine how any dude with any sort of tiny complaint would try and negotiate after the fact, withhold part or all of the payment etc if we allowed this?
Having said all of this, I also make some distinction between what is expected culturally here and what it the case elsewhere. I understand that paying up front is desirable for SPs here and is the norm, particularly if you're dealing with non-indy SPs. I totally get this. I'm also aware that the prevailing attitude outside of North America is to laugh at guys who pay up front and to comment loudly "rookie mistake" when they come complaining about how they got screwed (not in the fun sense) somehow. I'm trying to reconcile the one with the other and to see what crossover there is. I have no issues whatsoever with whatever rules the ladies here want to make. Everyone is entitled to their own rules and preferences with respect to how they conduct themselves. Doesn't mean I'm going to follow them, but I never try to sway people away from their own personal ideologies.
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