You will probably surprised to learn that according to several studies, the average duration of intercourse is 5 to 7 min. Google if you don't believe me.
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I had one client who liked 30 minutes + of penetration, in my whole 10-year career, so it doesn't seem to be a preference for a majority, but I'd like the experience of my colleagues as well. If some breaks for oral or manual play, kissing or caressing are taken it could be absolutely fine, but a non-stop 45-minute jackhammering is simply horrifying.
yep. on average from penetration to ejaculation with total arousal and nothing impeding on orgasm with or without condom for men. women take about double the time to reach orgasm according to studies.
people need to stop using porn as reference or hearsay from their friends. everyone loves to overstate their prowess in bed
And the majority can't reach it from penetration alone!
Maybe for you, but I would wager most women are just humoring you after 20.
I am definitely not talking about 45 minutes of jackhammering. I am more of a slow and steady wins the race and sometimes vary my speed. Definitely, breaks for oral, manual, kissing and caressing. I have only had one really intense wham, bam, thank you mam type of experience that was like 10 minutes tops probably less. I do like a lot of foreplay and a lot of DATY.
I think there are a lot of factors on reaching orgasm. My stress level, how relaxed I am, how much I have orgasmed leading up to appointment. I don't like to drink alcohol before. I like to go through a period of at least 1 to 2 weeks of complete abstinence if I have an appointment coming up with an SP. Also, I try not to watch too much Porn. I think porn addiction is probably the most detrimental thing to good sex.
Also, I love to DATY and love to take instruction from the provider when something feels good for them or to try to learn different techniques. I recently saw the Nina Hartley, Sunny Lane video on DATY, and it was very eye opening. I once motorboated a girl in college during DATY and she thought it was the wildest thing on earth.
I am sure that many women fake. An Asian provider in NYC once told me she came five times, and I smiled because I just new it was BS.
It's hard for a lot of women to have an orgasm, and I think that there's this pressure on everyone to cum but pleasure is available without reaching that point. If someone didn't have an orgasm it doesn't mean they didn't enjoy the sex.
Which leads me to my question for clients : do you expect your SP to have an orgasm or to fake one?
Personally I've never faked it because I focus on the gentleman's pleasure. It doesn't mean I'm not enjoying the sex, and I think sometimes my responses get misinterpreted as a lack of pleasure and interest which doesn't correspond to the truth. I may be more timid in how I express myself specially if I just met somebody but that doesn't mean I'm not having fun
I don't necessarily expect an SP to have an orgasm or fake one. I expect them to be present.It's hard for a lot of women to have an orgasm, and I think that there's this pressure on everyone to cum but pleasure is available without reaching that point. If someone didn't have an orgasm it doesn't mean they didn't enjoy the sex.
Which leads me to my question for clients : do you expect your SP to have an orgasm or to fake one?
Personally I've never faked it because I focus on the gentleman's pleasure. It doesn't mean I'm not enjoying the sex, and I think sometimes my responses get misinterpreted as a lack of pleasure and interest which doesn't correspond to the truth. I may be more timid in how I express myself specially if I just met somebody but that doesn't mean I'm not having fun
My strongest memory of sex was just a look on my ex-college girlfriend's face with her head turned to the left and the soft grunt/sigh she made as I entered her from behind in greek for her and my first time trying anal. I can still see and hear that clearly in my head. I get far more pleasure from visual and aural cues from a provider that are real than a SP faking an earth shattering orgasm or telling me how big I am. Cannot stand it when an SP calls me daddy(usually asians/ some latinos in NYC).
My biggest expectation is that the SP be fully present and engaged maybe even more so if they are non-agency Indy who may see less clients in a day or week. Especially if I booked a multi-hour with them. Don't want someone who is going through the motion or feels like a script. If an SP has a true orgasm in the process great. One SP told me she was cumming and I could feel her contract and it seemed real. I stay away from SPs that advertise themselves as squirters though. It seems gimmicky to me. One asian SP I had slapped me in the face and dug her nails into my back during sex, I had read in some of her reviews she gets a little physical. That was a real turnon, she would slap me and look into my eyes but, was not telling me to stop or that it hurt. It made me f her harder and she loved it. Don't know if she came but, the next time I saw her was even better and she was not as physical. I do like a good moan or sigh every once in a while if it seems natural.
There are some SP's who squirt for real, but I assume it's not something you can do on command. I don't personally do things like moan really loudly or fake orgasms or dirty talk or call guys daddy, it's just not me lol. I think some guys are into it and may be expecting it, but I assume that a lot of people are like you and just want a genuine experience. I think that a lot of people confuse being fully present like you're explaining, and playing a role like this. It's completely different.
I would never slap someone in the face.. I can see how it could be a turn on, but this needs to be agreed on prior to the session imo lol
Minimum 5-6 otherwise I won’t bother writing a review.
See, I think the reason it was such a turn on was because it was so unexpected. I read in a review she gets a little physical but, knew nothing else of what that meant. I think if I had agreed to it ahead of time and knew it was coming it wouldn't have had the same effect. It was like being shocked into a higher plane or level of existence. I wouldn't recommend an SP do this though with clients they are meeting for the first time like she did with me, no idea how they will react. Better with someone you have a good rapport and trusting client/sp relationship with. The bottomline is if at any moment the SP lets me know they have to tap out or something doesn't feel right to them, need more lube etc, I am stopping no matter how hard I am going.
How about a good slap on the ass to some of the guys who want it and need it.......like the dude in 50 Shades of Grey, and probably some of these guys, although some of them like i lovethaifood may prefer having their heads dunked in the toilet bowl, like this:
I can usually do it, more-or-less on command, but I have to be warmed up first.
absolutely.. i usually play dreamy ambient music to set a certain tone. i wouldn't say it's necessarily erotic but it creates a romantic ambiance
I'm impressed! It's only happened to me once and I didn't realize it was happening lol the person I was with told me
I think I mean more for arousal. Like I often make playlists for sessions. Try to tailor it to the SP if I know something about their tastes. I like music with a tempo like The Weekend After Hours. Music in the background is always great to set mood but, I am talking more like can a properly prepared playlist really get you going and aroused during a session. I actually created a poll of what genre of music people like to have sex to. I never really thought music could do that but, recently someone played this song that I would never listen to normally and the lyrics were so explicit. I was surprised I liked it. By someone named Khia, think it was called My Neck, My Back. Led me down a rabbit hole of musicians like someone named CuppKake or something. Missy Elliot, Lil Kim etc. I hated WAP by Cardi B and Megan thee Stallion when it first came out. Didn't get what was so great about it but, a younger female friend told me it was very liberating to hear a woman sing like that, when usually only men could sing so explicitly. Did some research, there is this old recording by Lucille Bogans called Shave Em Dry that had some pretty shocking lyrics for 1935. I remember when I thought Madonna and Alanis Morisette sang shocking lyrics. Whole new world. I was surprised though that I found this raunchy female rap to be something I would like to listen to possibly.
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