Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

for me, how long it takes is proportional to cost of services (higher the cost, the pickier and more careful I am) and uncertainty around the provider.
below are factors that make a decision easier to make (some are weighted more heavily than others):
pics available (including unfiltered, non-enhanced ones) (+)
reviews available (+)
active on social media (X, OnlyFans, IG, TikTok, etc) and comports oneself well/reflects an appealing personality (+)
posts on message board(s) and comports oneself well/reflects an appealing personality (+)
has a website, ads (on reputable platforms), and non-generic, chat-GBT-generated-type self descriptions reflecting an appealing personality (+)
common interests or interests that are interesting (+) (particularly important for SPs I'm planning on spending social time with)
does duos with and/or is associated with reputable SPs (+) (doing duos is immaterial; it's more the "endorsement" effect I'm referring to)
positive word-of-mouth from other SPs I see (+)
comports themselves well in direct correspondence (including by providing timely responses when coordinating date/time) (+)
has a no review policy (-)
no pics, only obscured pics and/or overly glamorized and enhanced pics, dated pics (-)
no reviews or few reviews from obvious shills (e.g., one post accounts) (-)
most recent review is several years old (-)
no social media activity (-)
social media or message board activity but conducts themselves poorly (-) (most the SPs who post on MERB conduct themselves in a way that makes me more interested in seeing them (or seeing them again, in some cases), including you @Lunaseraphim )
zero common interests and zero interesting interests (-)
ads are only on LeoList (-)
negative word-of-mouth from other SPs I see (- or +/- (neutral)) (I take this with a grain of salt but it doesn't help)
comports themselves poorly in direct correspondence, including slow response time and flakiness (-)

that being said, sometimes this all goes out the window and I just take a more impulsive gamble because my curiosity gets the better of me. sometimes this gamble has paid off and the previously "high uncertainty" SP has become my regular.

I'm curious about this idea of talking to other SPs about a particular SP.. I don't find it a good idea to gossip personally, and some people may not get along or not have good intentions. There's a SP I have had a really bad falling out with and who really betrayed me, but for this person's safety, I would NEVER say anything negative about them. SPs don't see how others work.. Unless we do duos together, there is nothing we know about the quality of other people's service. Also we they may not like each other for various reasons. I don't think its a good idea to ask SPs for personal info about other people.. Idk.

As for people who have only posted one or two reviews, I feel like sometimes a client may really want to support a SP if they haven't had any reviews in a while or if something bad has been written about them. A lot of people have accounts on here dating from a long time and don't really post or very rarely post..

The other things you mention make complete sense, if someone only has a leolist ad, no social media, no clear pics, that's obviously not a very good sign

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yep, you've gotten at some of the main underlying reasons for why I said I take any word-of-mouth references from an SP about another SP with a grain of salt and I'd encourage others to do the same. (And I'll just clarify that I don't actively seek out personal information about an SP (maybe what constitutes "personal information" needs to be fleshed out), and to the extent I happen to hear any, it's not typically a determining factor in whether I'll see them. In the cases for me where an SP has volunteered information about another SP, there was an existing working relationship between them, and I'm pleased to report that, at least in these cases, SPs were generally sensitive about what to share and what not to (e.g., compromising personal, sensitive information) about their colleagues because I only ever heard surface-level information (e.g., "she's gorgeous and likes when client's show up with flowers"), which is all I'm really interested in for my booking decision-making purposes (in pretty much all cases, the types of information I've heard are commonplace on most SPs ads and websites). I'm aware that industry feuds and competitive viciousness exist and I'm sure it doesn't always happen that way.) To circle back to the answer to your question, it's merely a single data point and, for the reasons you pointed out, a flawed one at that.

As for the merit of reviews from one post accounts, I'm generally always going to give more weight to reviews from accounts with a more extensive post histories. with the example you cite, while certainly a noble intention on the part of the client, one could argue that a review from a client who makes an account to write a review with the express purpose of helping to support an SP is more compromised in terms of objectivity compared to one written by an account that regularly writes reviews (there are exceptions here where, and this was a problem on the PERB board, perks-for-reviews arrangements occur behind-the-scenes).*

Edit: *But yes, wanting to support an SP and signing up to write an honest, objective review aren't necessarily mutually exclusive.

Oh I totally understand that if somebody just made an account today to write a review about a particular SP it wouldn't be trustworthy. I'm saddened that perks-for-reviews arrangements exist because a lot of clients actually don't check reviews and don't look at review boards. It's not something that I would ever think of doing personally, but I know that times are tough.. What I mean by personal information is things about the SP's personal life that could compromise their reputation or endanger their safety, for example somebody disclosing that a certain SP has an addiction or give someone's real name. I don't personally feel 100% comfortable with clients asking me questions about other SP's, however I always answer nice things because I am not someone who thinks badly of other people unless they have done something really wrong and I am not a competitive person.

 

[LC18]

[Clients]

Why do you say when planning a date with a SP or on a date with one “I’ve read your reviews” or “I saw in your reviews…” but never leave any yourself?

 

[MCTJ]

[Clients]

Why do you say when planning a date with a SP or on a date with one “I’ve read your reviews” or “I saw in your reviews…” but never leave any yourself?

I never refer to reviews when talking with an escort, but one reason I have for not leaving one is when I feel my review would not provide useful information beyond was has already been written in previous reviews.

 

[LC18]

I never refer to reviews when talking with an escort, but one reason I have for not leaving one is when I feel my review would not provide useful information beyond was has already been written in previous reviews.

You mean if 5 people already said she was good why would you be the 6th one?

I think it’s important to leave a review even if it wouldn’t add anything because some member may see your opinion as more valuable than someone else’s so the fact that you also validated or confirmed that the person wasn’t good would play a big part in their decision.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Why do you say when planning a date with a SP or on a date with one “I’ve read your reviews” or “I saw in your reviews…” but never leave any yourself?

That's something I've also noticed.. a LOT of my clients don't write reviews, and I'm never sure to what degree having recent reviews impacts how often I get booked.. because sometimes I get booked a lot despite having had no reviews in a long time and sometimes it's the opposite

 

[MCTJ]

You mean if 5 people already said she was good why would you be the 6th one?

I think it’s important to leave a review even if it wouldn’t add anything because some member may see your opinion as more valuable than someone else’s so the fact that you also validated or confirmed that the person wasn’t good would play a big part in their decision.

interesting perspective

 

[Fradi]

[Clients]

Why do you say when planning a date with a SP or on a date with one “I’ve read your reviews” or “I saw in your reviews…” but never leave any yourself?

I will only talk about a ladies reviews with her if she is the one that brings it up.
As far as writing reviews, apart from seeing Heaven ( she has disappeared since then ):in a duo I have only seen 2 other ladies in the past year.
These ladies are absolutely fabulous and I have reviewed them before there is not much more I can say about them.
Besides I think seeing them repeatedly says much more to them than any review could. They know exactly how I feel about them.
We have been friends for a number of years.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

You mean if 5 people already said she was good why would you be the 6th one?

I think it’s important to leave a review even if it wouldn’t add anything because some member may see your opinion as more valuable than someone else’s so the fact that you also validated or confirmed that the person wasn’t good would play a big part in their decision.

@MCTJ I agree with LC. Yes, the opinion of one might be more valuable than the one of others, plus it provides an update. Even if the 5th lasts were good, 6 months, a year later, a new review is welcome

 

[LC18]

@MCTJ I agree with LC. Yes, the opinion of one might be more valuable than the one of others, plus it provides an update. Even if the 5th lasts were good, 6 months, a year later, a new review is welcome

Good point. A review even if similar to others could serve as an update or a confirmation that the quality’s still the same whether it’s a positive or negative review.

See they are many reasons to post a review even if you don’t think it would be relevant in your eyes.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I don't fully understand your first question but I will answer your second one.

Honestly, I rarely check for social media. I only do if it has been mentioned in the reviews or if the SP advertises it. And when I do it it's mostly to see the up to date and non-professional photos / selfies, which are more indicative than professional shots.
But sometimes checking social media can result in me changing my mind. Red flags would be public drama with other SPs, shitting on clients for the sake of shitting on clients, any form of racism, not being able to clearly articulate, excessive flaunting of wealth. These kind of kind of behaviors

oh, that's totally understandable.
for my first question, i think i meant.. what makes a sp appealing to you when you read reviews about her?

 

[Murlockus]

hey an other day an other weird question !

questions about duos
i saw some providers mentioning '' Rate Match Policy '' on their websites
i understand what it means. my question is does every single provider do a Rate Match Policy ? or only providers that mentions it on their website follow that rule ?


2 birds 1 stone.
how you contact providers for duo ?
contact provider A then ask her if she's willing to do a duo with provider B ?
or contact provider A tell her ''id like to go on a Duo date with you''
i saw on websites ''duos available with my girlfriends'' but no names are mentioned does that mean they are opens to duos with any provider ?
ty for ur time i really appreciate it <3

 

[Lunaseraphim]

hey an other day an other weird question !

questions about duos
i saw some providers mentioning '' Rate Match Policy '' on their websites
i understand what it means. my question is does every single provider do a Rate Match Policy ? or only providers that mentions it on their website follow that rule ?


2 birds 1 stone.
how you contact providers for duo ?
contact provider A then ask her if she's willing to do a duo with provider B ?
or contact provider A tell her ''id like to go on a Duo date with you''
i saw on websites ''duos available with my girlfriends'' but no names are mentioned does that mean they are opens to duos with any provider ?
ty for ur time i really appreciate it <3

I prefer personally when rates are matched because often my duo partners charge more than I do, and it's honestly more polite and more fair to the provider who charges less, but you can still ask. I've accepted to do a duo recently during which I was supposed to get paid less than my duo partner, it was disappointing but I still did it. However we had to cancel because the client was not respectful.

When I've gotten approached from duos I asked a few companions if they were available on the day of the booking and then I show the clients the providers websites and let him choose. Sometimes people advertise duos with other providers. I think it's also perfectly acceptable to email 2 companions together and ask them if they would be willing to do a duo together. I don't have a duo section on my website personally because I'm still fairly new at doing duos, but I absolutely loved the experiences I've had so far even if I was shy at first.

 

[Murlockus]

I prefer personally when rates are matched because often my duo partners charge more than I do, and it's honestly more polite and more fair to the provider who charges less, but you can still ask. I've accepted to do a duo recently during which I was supposed to get paid less than my duo partner, it was disappointing but I still did it. However we had to cancel because the client was not respectful.

When I've gotten approached from duos I asked a few companions if they were available on the day of the booking and then I show the clients the providers websites and let him choose. Sometimes people advertise duos with other providers. I think it's also perfectly acceptable to email 2 companions together and ask them if they would be willing to do a duo together. I don't have a duo section on my website personally because I'm still fairly new at doing duos, but I absolutely loved the experiences I've had so far even if I was shy at first.

ohh ty for ur answer.... noted for matching rates o7

but what if you would book 2 providers not for the same amount of time ? like u would book A for 5 hours and B for 3 hours would u still match rates ? (i know its crazy i just had that question pop up in my goomba mind)

 

[Lunaseraphim]

ohh ty for ur answer.... noted for matching rates o7

but what if you would book 2 providers not for the same amount of time ? like u would book A for 5 hours and B for 3 hours would u still match rates ? (i know its crazy i just had that question pop up in my goomba mind)

I've heard of that happening! I don't think you would have to match rates in this case, but maybe like match B's rate to A's 3 hr rate, or vice versa?

 

[Murlockus]

I've heard of that happening! I don't think you would have to match rates in this case, but maybe like match B's rate to A's 3 hr rate, or vice versa?

noted ty.... i really appreciate ur fast replies have a good evening ! and take care <3

 

[LC18]

''duos available with my girlfriends'' but no names are mentioned does that mean they are opens to duos with any provider ?

Always ask them who they duo with. There’s a few people I wouldn’t want to do duos with, not because I don’t like them but just because we don’t have the same vibe and values.

Not everyone does rate matching but I personally find it to be the most polite/ethical. I remember one time receiving a duo request from a girl who wanted to be paid 1k while I would have been paid 300, I declined

 

[CuriousGent]

I prefer personally when rates are matched because often my duo partners charge more than I do, and it's honestly more polite and more fair to the provider who charges less, but you can still ask.

Always ask them who they duo with. There’s a few people I wouldn’t want to do duos with, not because I don’t like them but just because we don’t have the same vibe and values.

Not everyone does rate matching but I personally find it to be the most polite/ethical.

It does make a lot sense to prefer a duo with an sp you know / confortable with, chemistry, communication, there are so many variables already with three people involved.

Would you duo with an sp you know and are comfortable with but that has a different offering than you, for example you offer GFE and the other SP is more PSE/kinky and would have offerings like anal, rimming, Face fkng would you accept the duo at different rates given the offering is different?

 

[Julia Sky]

Price matching is the norm for many of us for obvious reasons. Typically double the rate of whoever charges more, but in some cases I don't mind lowering my rate if it means I get a duo, as I love doing duos.

I used to refuse duos because I was scared I wasn't good enough for duos. Now I've done them with a dozen different girls lol, how things change.

I will typically accept a duo with most girls (except rare exceptions) but I still prefer when the client (or provider) asks me privately before. I might feel uncomfortable if I get added to an email where both providers get a duo invite at the same time because then if one of us doesn't want to do it, having to say no in an email that the other provider (or the client) can read is awkward.

My preference, however, is definitely when a client lets me pick the other provider. Then I can choose my friends or someone I'm genuinely curious to do duos with, and that makes for a fun time usually!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It does make a lot sense to prefer a duo with an sp you know / confortable with, chemistry, communication, there are so many variables already with three people involved.

Would you duo with an sp you know and are comfortable with but that has a different offering than you, for example you offer GFE and the other SP is more PSE/kinky and would have offerings like anal, rimming, Face fkng would you accept the duo at different rates given the offering is different?

I think this is complicated. A lot of SPs have rates for both GFE and PSE. I think it would be strange to book one SP for PSE and the other for GFE. I can see why the rates wouldn't be matched in that case.. But personally I've done duos with people who offer PSE services and our rates were matched. The clients didn't particularly ask for anything that's specific to PSE like greek during those bookings