Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

bonjour,
the usual protocol for incall is that the sp is already showered and the client takes a shower to freshen up upon arrival, would you ladies be displeased if the client asked for you to take a quick shower right after him, while he is drying himself and rinsing his mouth with mouth wash?

This is something that would personally bother me because before an appointment I have showered, covered myself in pleasantly scented body lotion, put on deodorant, my makeup and hair are done, etc. I've actually never had anybody ask me to do that.. If they did I would not get mad at them but all the work I put into making myself presentable would be ruined

 

[Lunaseraphim]

If a client came to you with a video that they thought could be you being filmed unknowingly but, he is not sure it is you, how would you take it? I am really bad with faces and the video is sort of hard to make out with the lighting and image could be sharper but, the body is very similar from what I remember and her pictures that are on her site and elsewhere. It is only one camera that never moves. The SP never really looks at the camera like she knows it is there. Part of me is like not my problem, other part of me is like well if it was me I would be pissed. You can also hear her voice at times but, it has been so long that I really am not sure if it is the same. Also do I really want to bother the SP with this? I am not a regular. Have only seen her once. How will the SP take it if I am wrong? I probably am wrong but, when I first saw it I was like holy crap that is scary how much it looks like her to me.

I think it's a good idea to let her know. Some clients film providers without their consent

Very bad advice. I would 100000% prefer a client lets me know so I can send a DMCA notice to the website in question. It has happened to me before and I was able to get the videos taken down. Wouldn't be possible if I wasn't made aware.

I agree 100%

 

[Wearethenight]

I think it's a good idea to let her know. Some clients film providers without their consent

I agree 100%

Also, I have been reading that this is also illegal in Canada and the United States not only a dmca notice but if they can find the person who did it he can face criminal repercussions and be put on a sex offenders list and rightfully so. I would 100% let her know.

 

[lovethaifood]

I think it's a good idea to let her know. Some clients film providers without their consent

I agree 100%

You and Julia have both given me a lot to think about.

I went back and looked at the poster of the videos profile on the site he posts on, and there are like 6 or 7 videos with same man all in the same room and same bed with the camera in exact same position with different escorts. It is not one of the biggest sites out there but, still I think fairly well known. The video that I think could be an SP I have been with is less than 2 years old. The poster has been a member of the site for around 2 years. There are comments from other viewers ranging from complaints about putting his highest viewed videos behind paywall, to how authentic his hidden cam videos are and better than anything that is studio produced and to keep posting more. He has 70 plus vids and in the ones that are in a different room, location or in a vehicle you cannot see man's face POV or it is blurred. Some, the woman seems to know they are being filmed so I am sure he got some of these videos from elsewhere.

Anyways, I go long periods of time without watching porn because I don't want to desensitize my brain to being turned on by women. If you have never seen the movie Don Jon with Joseph Gordon-Levitt it is worth a watch. Made me think a lot about abstinence and porn addiction like social media addiction can be a time killer. Hell I bet I go through different phases of MERB addiction. I saw this NYU professor say on YouTube that todays youth will on average spend 20 years watching social media/ til Tok reels in their lifetime. I was just feeling kind of horny in bed and fantasizing about SPs and this came up when I searched around and went down the rabbit hole. I will figure it out soon enough if I decide to email the SP. I guess I worry if it bothers her and she doesn't want to see me again but, if I had to put a percentage on chances it could be her I would say one third because of certain factors.

 

[lovethaifood]

Also, I have been reading that this is also illegal in Canada and the United States not only a dmca notice but if they can find the person who did it he can face criminal repercussions and be put on a sex offenders list and rightfully so. I would 100% let her know.

Thank you, did not know that either.

 

[DouMan]

Ii guess I worry if it bothers her and she doesn't want to see me again

Come on bro, you seem to be a nice guy but the story is shifting slightly.

In the beginning your concern seemed to be how she may be upset if ever it was her in the video. Now it seems more to be that your worried YOU may lose the lady for whatever reason.

Many collegues have strongly suggested you tell her. If ever it is her it is up to her to decide how to react and steps to take.

Step up to the plate and tell her. Chances are she will thank you for your concern and get on with her day in whatever way she deems fit.

 

[lovethaifood]

Come on bro, you seem to be a nice guy but the story is shifting slightly.

In the beginning your concern seemed to be how she may be upset if ever it was her in the video. Now it seems more to be that your worried YOU may lose the lady for whatever reason.

Many collegues have strongly suggested you tell her. If ever it is her it is up to her to decide how to react and steps to take.

Step up to the plate and tell her. Chances are she will thank you for your concern and get on with her day in whatever way she deems fit.

Look, I am relatively new at this. Haven't seen an SP since May for my birthday and before that since last March when I went to Montreal. Have only seen approximately 20 providers in like past 3 years and I am very picky and choosey when I decide to see someone. I do.a ton of research. Have only ever repeated with one provider and it was not as good the second time around. I blame myself for not being in better shape. I also generally tend to air on the side of being responsible for my own good time. One time I saw a SP whose pictures were way off but, had one of the best times and she wanted to put me in BBFS but, I said no. When people complain about passion, acts, restrictions, DFK or what not, my attitude is I am hooking up with a really hot girl and yes I am paying for it but, also a benefit is it is drama free compared to being in a relationship. I have had girlfriends that were more passive like a starfish in bed than my worst SP experience and more expensive date than an SP. I am leaning towards telling her and to be honest this is not the first time I have seen a video online of a provider just the first time I have seen a video of a provider I think I may know. That is the thing I am not certain. If I were 100 percent sure, I would have told her immediately. I came across a video of fairly popular agency girl that I had wanted to see and I know 100 percent it is her and it honestly made me not want to book with her anymore. She may or may not even know it is out there but, she knew she was being filmed.

One thing I will say is that the three women in Montreal I saw were all incredible and the last one even jumpstarted my dead car battery on my last day there after our appointment. That is service..

 

[Julia Sky]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

 

[lovethaifood]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

Ok I just figured out how to screenshot. Pretty simple. Shift-Command-3. Going to write an email and hopefully, it does not matter. This guy is definitely a jerk though. He is in other videos in other rooms as well and seems to do car videos with a camera under his steering wheel. No way any of these women know they are on camera.

 

[Wearethenight]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

Also, as Julia mentioned even if it's not her, it will be appreciated if you tell her and she will be thankful. Plus this can prevent this freak from doing it to someone else without their consent. Trust me If someone video taped me without my consent, I will raise hell and take every course available legally.

 

[lovethaifood]

Also, as Julia mentioned even if it's not her, it will be appreciated if you tell her and she will be thankful. Plus this can prevent this freak from doing it to someone else without their consent. Trust me If someone video taped me without my consent, I will raise hell and take every course available legally.

Ok, all done with it. Not going to think about it anymore. I am glad I sent the email.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I guess there is a hidden camera genre of porn but I know for sure that in certain spas there are cameras in the rooms.. Who knows what happens with what's being recorded. I also think some people are very tech savvy and could hide a camera anywhere, specially if it's an outcall situation. Filming somebody without their consent and distributing it is an assault in my opinion.. I think the SP will be grateful to find out if this was put out there without her consent. It's very jarring to see images of yourself in lingerie being stolen by websites so I can't imagine finding out that this type of content being out there

 

[LC18]

I certainly hope whoever that SP was, that you didn’t send her a lengthy email that’s as confusing as your last few posts otherwise poor girl she’s going to be more confused than anything.

 

[MCTJ]

I think it's a good idea to let her know. Some clients film providers without their consent

I agree 100%

there was a man arrested specifically for that earlier this summer (link available upon request). Shortly after, Luxury Agency added a warning to their ads. 1+1...

 

[Sylar]

I certainly hope whoever that SP was, that you didn’t send her a lengthy email that’s as confusing as your last few posts otherwise poor girl she’s going to be more confused than anything.

- He is bad with faces and saw this SP once
- The lighting and image quality of the video is bad
- The woman in the video never looks into the camera
- The voice may or may not be similar
- The body is very similar

So to summarize he saw a video of a woman having sex with the same body type as an SP he once saw. Unless that SP was the girl from Total Recall, I think the chances are pretty slim that it is the same woman. But I guess no real harm in pointing it out to her.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

- He is bad with faces and saw this SP once
- The lighting and image quality of the video is bad
- The woman in the video never looks into the camera
- The voice may or may not be similar
- The body is very similar

So to summarize he saw a video of a woman having sex with the same body type as an SP he once saw. Unless that SP was the girl from Total Recall, I think the chances are pretty slim that it is the same woman. But I guess no real harm in pointing it out to her.

as long as it's being pointed out in an empathic and caring way.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

My question to gentlemen : how long does it take you to decide to book a specific provider? I know that for example, when looking on leolist, clients are looking for something quick and easy.. But I've noticed that many clients take their time to book an indy. What determines your decision? What are some things that convince you, and what are some deal breakers for you?

 

[Sylar]

My question to gentlemen : how long does it take you to decide to book a specific provider? I know that for example, when looking on leolist, clients are looking for something quick and easy.. But I've noticed that many clients take their time to book an indy. What determines your decision? What are some things that convince you, and what are some deal breakers for you?

It depends on a lot of things:

Firstly, price point: Some will fall into the spontaneous booking range, while others need to be more thought out.

The below considerations applies to both above mentioned categories, more so however to the latter and sometimes not at all to the former:

- Reviews
- Conduct on MERB / social media if applicable
- First contact / interaction in writing

If the SP offers specialized services / kinks that I am interested in, the decision making might take longer as those need to be discussed in detail to avoid disappointment or uncomfortable situations for either party involved-

 

[AirBo]

If the SP offers specialized services / kinks that I am interested in, the decision making might take longer

Total opposite for me. I'll book in a heartbeat

 

[LC18]

Total opposite for me. I'll book in a heartbeat

If she offers anal consider her already booked by airbo