Yep. And Julia being Julia, I almost always confront them about it. I ask why they mention it. Majority of the time it's because they noticed many escorts don't see black/brown men. So I point out that just because some people are racist doesn't mean I appreciate him assuming I am also racist, and flaunting whiteness in my inbox in his first message is not charming. A lot of the time they're like "wow I guess you're right, I didn't see it that way"
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Yep. And Julia being Julia, I almost always confront them about it. I ask why they mention it. Majority of the time it's because they noticed many escorts don't see black/brown men. So I point out that just because some people are racist doesn't mean I appreciate him assuming I am also racist, and flaunting whiteness in my inbox in his first message is not charming. A lot of the time they're like "wow I guess you're right, I didn't see it that way"
I ask for a short physical description, I want to recognize at first glance the person I am meeting especially if we have to meet in a hotel lobby. I appreciate having an idea, physically, of the person I am going to meet. They almost always tell me if they are Asian, from the Middle East, Indian, white, black, etc. it doesn't make a difference to me. It's simply more information.
But you ask for a physical description so that makes sense.
I ask for Name, Age, Date and they will almost always say Batman, 56, white
Then I say: ok cool but date???
Do they tell you when asian, black or indian? Why is it different if they tell you they are white?
To sum it up, it’s the fact that they’re so focused on telling me that they’re white that they don’t mention the other info I’ve asked that bothers me.
When they answer all of my questions and add that they’re white it doesn’t bother me as much
When they answer all of my questions and add that they’re white it doesn’t bother me as much
No other people don’t mention it as much so sometimes it’s funny because the name sounded like they could be another race and they show up and they’re white or vice versa
It's not up to the client to "charm" the escort. It's the escort's job to charm the client.
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And what if they tell you they're Indian .. and then happen to turn Black?
The black, brown, Indian thing can be confusing for some.
Some black people will call themselves brown and south Asian people will call themselves brown too
I apologize if I was obscure! I was making a joke about the current American election nonsense.
It's not up to the client to "charm" the escort. It's the escort's job to charm the client.
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Charming the escort is definitely part of the fun for me
I can be extremely charming $$$$$$$$.Charming the escort is definitely part of the fun for me
I am really disturbed by that as well. I couldn't care less that a client is white or not, it doesn't make me feel safer to know that someone is white, and it's become a red flag for me when it's mentioned in a very short intro by someone who doesn't want to screen. Some providers ask for ethnicity and I think in some cases it's because they are racist, and that's not everyone. In some cases, I suspect people ask for it to have a detail about the client's physical appearance since many clients refuse to provide photos.. However, I don't ask for ethnicity and I really don't like someone giving me almost no info except that they are white/caucasian.
I've actually had clients lie about their ethnicity and that really disturbed me, not because I wanted them to be white, but because it's a lie and I felt like they were trying to trick me into seeing them. It's really strange to me.
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Yes, I often miss clients who stopped booking me, but I don't take it personally.. I don't assume it's because they don't want to see me again. I often imagine they can't afford to see a SP at the moment, got a partner, or something similar. There was a client I got along with really well that I saw a couple times last winter. He took me on a dinner date and he would bring me flowers and chocolate. I really liked this person.. He didn't book me for a while and I assumed that he got a gf.. Then out of nowhere I got a message from him. He booked me for 2 hours, and it was a no call no show. I was pretty upset. He never wrote to me again after that.
Sometimes I'm sad because I had an amazing booking with someone I really connected with, and I don't see them again because they don't live in Montreal or even in Canada. I've felt a bit heartbroken a few times hehe
That’s an interesting point. It could be the reason they mention their race yes, they want us to feel safer but then that would be racist of them to assume we wouldn’t feel safe with a client of another race
Also, not to you in particular but to everyone reading this thread.
Familiarize yourself with race, ethnicity and nationality. They don’t mean the same.
If someone asks for my nationality I will say Canadian, if they expect someone white that’s their problem.
I definitely see what you mean. I'm aware that nationality is really not the same as race/ethnicity but I struggle telling the difference between those 2 other terms. I'm sorry if I made a mistake.
I think when clients volunteer to tell me that they are white but refuse to provide much more info it feels suspicious to me, and I know there are a lot of providers who are racist and say "no gentlemen of x race" in their profile, but that doesn't mean everybody else feels that way.. I don't personally feel safer knowing someone's white. I haven't had better experiences with white clients than anybody else. I think for SOME clients it's a shortcut that's supposed to make us feel "safer" because they don't want to provide other info.
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