Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

Have you ever deeply missed someone that you meet as a client that no longer wants to see you again
Can answer yes or no without details if it’s too heartbreaking

Yes, I often miss clients who stopped booking me, but I don't take it personally.. I don't assume it's because they don't want to see me again. I often imagine they can't afford to see a SP at the moment, got a partner, or something similar. There was a client I got along with really well that I saw a couple times last winter. He took me on a dinner date and he would bring me flowers and chocolate. I really liked this person.. He didn't book me for a while and I assumed that he got a gf.. Then out of nowhere I got a message from him. He booked me for 2 hours, and it was a no call no show. I was pretty upset. He never wrote to me again after that.

Sometimes I'm sad because I had an amazing booking with someone I really connected with, and I don't see them again because they don't live in Montreal or even in Canada. I've felt a bit heartbroken a few times hehe

 

[LC18]

it doesn't make me feel safer to know that someone is white, and it's become a red flag for me when it's mentioned in a very short intro by someone who doesn't want to screen.

That’s an interesting point. It could be the reason they mention their race yes, they want us to feel safer but then that would be racist of them to assume we wouldn’t feel safe with a client of another race

Also, not to you in particular but to everyone reading this thread.

Familiarize yourself with race, ethnicity and nationality. They don’t mean the same.

If someone asks for my nationality I will say Canadian, if they expect someone white that’s their problem.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

That’s an interesting point. It could be the reason they mention their race yes, they want us to feel safer but then that would be racist of them to assume we wouldn’t feel safe with a client of another race

Also, not to you in particular but to everyone reading this thread.

Familiarize yourself with race, ethnicity and nationality. They don’t mean the same.

If someone asks for my nationality I will say Canadian, if they expect someone white that’s their problem.

I definitely see what you mean. I'm aware that nationality is really not the same as race/ethnicity but I struggle telling the difference between those 2 other terms. I'm sorry if I made a mistake.

I think when clients volunteer to tell me that they are white but refuse to provide much more info it feels suspicious to me, and I know there are a lot of providers who are racist and say "no gentlemen of x race" in their profile, but that doesn't mean everybody else feels that way.. I don't personally feel safer knowing someone's white. I haven't had better experiences with white clients than anybody else. I think for SOME clients it's a shortcut that's supposed to make us feel "safer" because they don't want to provide other info.

 

[curly]

I'm curious. How often do "engine failure" (not able to get hard) happen to your clients? I'm not talking about not being to get it up after three rounds of steamy sex, I mean not at all during a session.

Is it a common thing, like several times a week, or a once a year incident? Does it happen to young and nervous clients, or to older clients with less hormonas? Do you take it personal,

 

[LC18]

Is it a common thing, like several times a week, or a once a year incident? Does it happen to young and nervous clients, or to older clients with less hormonas? Do you take it personal,

Keep in mind that meeting someone for the first time can be stressful. Meeting someone for the first time and having sex with them? Super stressful.

I’m not keeping an excel spreadsheet but it does happen that people cannot get hard or struggle to cum. They feel bad but it’s normal, I don’t take it personal. It usually works out the second time they see me. When our bodies feel more familiar to each others.

 

[Julia Sky]

"Girls just wanna have funds"

I have a t-shirt with this written on it hahaha

 

[Julia Sky]

Charming the escort is definitely part of the fun for me

I have this person on mute so didn't see his reply until I saw yours, but you're not alone, it's pretty common for clients to have your mindset Also, "charming" as an adjective means pleasant in general, polite, friendly and likeable. I do think it's a client's job to be all these things so idk what he was on about.

 

[AirBo]

I have a t-shirt with this written on it hahaha

I know You sent me a pic with that t-shirt on and that's the pic I chose to save as your contact photo in my phone

 

[curly]

I’m not keeping an excel spreadsheet but it does happen that people cannot get hard or struggle to cum.

I understand. It's the frequency I'm curious about. And to be transparent, and show that I'm not despising anyone, I'll admit it did happen to me also. And, as you say, it was mostly first time sex with a new partner.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I'm curious. How often do "engine failure" (not able to get hard) happen to your clients? I'm not talking about not being to get it up after three rounds of steamy sex, I mean not at all during a session.

Is it a common thing, like several times a week, or a once a year incident? Does it happen to young and nervous clients, or to older clients with less hormonas? Do you take it personal,

It really depends honestly.. It's not super frequent but once in a while I get an older gentleman who tells me he doesn't do well with condoms. It's not that these gentlemen failed to get hard, but when it's the time to put the condom on, they aren't turned on anymore. It makes me wonder why they are booking a SP because obviously you need to be wearing one during sex. I don't take it personally when these things happen because I know it has nothing to do with me.

Sometimes like Lena said it takes more than one booking for the client to feel comfortable enough to ''perform'' (I hate using this word in that context but it's usually how the client sees it and it's unfortunate)

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

It makes me wonder why they are booking a SP because obviously you need to be wearing one during sex

I can, sometimes, suffer from the condom syndrome. Imho, it is something that can be explained by the fact that for the first 15 maybe 20 years of my active sexual life, condoms were not something you would often encounter . It was those years, people my generation grew up with free sex, group sex and the Oh glorious "pill", no real worries about STIs, even in my teenage years all the girls seemed to be on the pill.

It took us some serious effort to adapt to the AIDS/HIV era, and sometimes our brains would still refuse cooperate. I, personally, am able to get around it, but it takes some mental gymnastics!

That being said, don’t get me wrong here, I never ever tried to obtain bbfs and never will, don’t get me started!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I can, sometimes, suffer from the condom syndrome. Imho, it is something that can be explained by the fact that for the first 15 maybe 20 years of my active sexual life, condoms were not something you would often encounter . It was those years, people my generation grew up with free sex, group sex and the Oh glorious "pill", no real worries about STIs, even in my teenage years all the girls seemed to be on the pill.

It took us some serious effort to adapt to the AIDS/HIV era, and sometimes our brains would still refuse cooperate. I, personally, am able to get around it, but it takes some mental gymnastics!

That being said, don’t get me wrong here, I never ever tried to obtain bbfs and never will, don’t get me started!

I think that's normal honestly! Nobody enjoys using condoms even when it comes to bjs.. When I used to work at spas I only offered cbj for safety concerns (that's not the case anymore, don't worry guys!) and I absolutely hated it, it made me gag. I think it's also normal to not use condoms during intercourse in a monogamous relationship.. However, I think like you said it's possible to adapt to condom use during sex. It takes practice and I think a lot of it is psychological. It's a requirement when seeing SP's to learn how to enjoy sex with a condom.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Nobody enjoys using condoms even when it comes to bjs.

I don’t know about that, some people grew up using condoms, I’m pretty sure some never had sex without condoms. And I know a few guys telling me that they love them! Personally, I don’t feel much with them, I never cum with it, well, almost never.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I tried the Kimonos, first time was a failure, I bought the large size and couldn’t put it on! Way too small! Then I went for the X-Large, we managed to put it on and make a decent use of it but it wasn’t comfortable for me.
I am slightly bigger than the average but absolutely nothing crazy. Most providers instinctively go for the large size off the shelf condoms when handling my dick, it sure is more comfortable for me but I still don’t feel much.

 

[LC18]

I tried the Kimonos, first time was a failure, I bought the large size and couldn’t put it on! Way too small! Then I went for the X-Large

Ok Mr. Monster Cock

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Ok Mr. Monster Cock

I think my post is very clear about this point, I’m not even close to it, and quite happy not to be.

FYI, the Kimono large condoms are actually smaller than any random brand regular size. Don’t make it seem like I am bragging. I know I made some humor comments in other threads but it was just that, humor, and it wasn’t about the size at all.

 

[LC18]

I think my post is very clear about this point, I’m not even close to it, and quite happy not to be.

FYI, the Kimono large condoms are actually smaller than any random brand regular size. Don’t make it seem like I am bragging. I know I made some humor comments in other threads but it was just that, humor, and it wasn’t about the size at all.

I’m just pulling your leg. I also use them and never had any complaints about the XL

 

[LC18]

[providers]

Why among SPs does the condom brand of choice seem to be Skyn?

What factors inform the choice of condom you use with your clients? Have you tried and have you liked or disliked the “non-standard” condom varieties (glow-in-the-dark, ribbed, spermicide, flavored, etc)?

Latex free, simple as that. Better for the kitty

 

[DouMan]

I’m just pulling your leg.

That does seem to be the basic problem ... bigger "leg".

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Some condoms feel better than others but there’s probably some pleasure and safety/durability tradeoff at play. I remember reading a story from a while back about how the Bill and Melinda Gates foundation was funding research into harnessing cutting edge materials science/nanotech to create next gen, more-pleasurable-to-use condoms (e.g., ones that are self-lubricating, ultra thin but still durable, and more form-fitting). Not sure what came out of that (no pun intended).

It sucks because at Stella we are given average brands of condoms and I'm not sure that I can afford the more fancy brands all the time but maybe I should make a switch