Good hygiene just makes good sense for a number of businesses with people interactions, but yeah, people are babies sometimes. I'm not just asking about hygiene though.
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Introduce yourself properly, don't be sassy or manipulative because most of us won't wanna deal with you if you are, follow screening info, take the booking seriously, let her know what you want clearly and respect her boundaries, show up clean, be sweet and agreeable
You are aware that the major problem with manipulators is that they are not conscious of being manipulative! In fact, I think most of them don’t even understand what it means!
Going to have to disagree with that. The manipulative people I've known are very aware of what they're doing, often more so than the person being manipulated.
I knew a guy at work that was great with the ladies. I heard him chatting with a woman and he brought up the fact that he had 3 sisters. He used that info as a way to portray himself as more understanding of their plights and woes.
When there were no women around, he told me that having 3 sisters allowed him to better take advantage of their weaknesses.
I disagree. Most manipulative people know exactly what they are doing. It's possible to manipulate without being conscious of it but in this context the person knows what they're doing. Some people even do research on how to manipulate and share tips lol you all know this
Definitely, that is true, but I'm talking about clients here. A lot of clients use manipulative tactics to try and get what they want, and they are often the same. I notice patterns. One very very common example is telling the SP that you want them to be your regular so that they give you a discount or better service or something extra. If you truly want a SP as your regular you aren't going to announce it, you're going to keep seeing them and that's it.
Or perhaps he was raised by 3 manipulative sisters? That can have a damaging effects as well. In his specific case, in a way maybe he learnt from the best. Just trying to illustrate that .manipulation is probably not gender specific.
Side note, the most manipulative person I've ever known, was completely aware of exactly what she was doing.
The commonality in our anecdotes is that manipulators go to great lengths to pretend to be someone else, gas lighting all along the way.
Also there is a strong (but not absolute) correlation between manipulators and narcissists, everything is about them and so well masked that even their closest friends have no idea how they truly are.
They may even create false narratives publicly against the victim/partner simply to win favor.
Very much in the spirit of Amber Heard.
Something to consider.
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If we're talking about narcissists, that's another story. Some people manipulate us because they don't respect SP's and women in general..
But yeah true narcissists are a thing, and they believe their own lies to an extent. I was friends for a very long time with an extremely manipulative and narcissistic person. He presented himself as this sweet, childlike, artistic and spiritual person. People really fell for that persona, and he really did have gifts. Over time, I started realizing how abusive and manipulative he was. I would hear stories about him from mutual friends and he would tell me a completely different version of the story and seemed completely convinced that it was the truth. Over time, I ended up understanding that he was lying to maintain constant victim status when actually he was behaving in ways that were boundary crossing or plain horrifying. The hold this person had on me was so strong and it took a really long time for me to finally see him for who he really was, but now I know better and I am great at identifying types like this lol
When I was talking about people trying to manipulate SP's, I was talking about a phenomenon that is fairly common and that we notice more and more as we gain experience as a SP. A phrase I often heard and don't as much lately is "if you're using a text app and a fake name i can use them too".. which is a really manipulative argument that is insulting to my intelligence honestly lol. But that doesn't mean the person who said it is a complete narcissist.
But yeah true narcissists are a thing, and they believe their own lies to an extent. I was friends for a very long time with an extremely manipulative and narcissistic person. He presented himself as this sweet, childlike, artistic and spiritual person. People really fell for that persona, and he really did have gifts. Over time, I started realizing how abusive and manipulative he was. I would hear stories about him from mutual friends and he would tell me a completely different version of the story and seemed completely convinced that it was the truth. Over time, I ended up understanding that he was lying to maintain constant victim status when actually he was behaving in ways that were boundary crossing or plain horrifying. The hold this person had on me was so strong and it took a really long time for me to finally see him for who he really was, but now I know better and I am great at identifying types like this lol
When I was talking about people trying to manipulate SP's, I was talking about a phenomenon that is fairly common and that we notice more and more as we gain experience as a SP. A phrase I often heard and don't as much lately is "if you're using a text app and a fake name i can use them too".. which is a really manipulative argument that is insulting to my intelligence honestly lol. But that doesn't mean the person who said it is a complete narcissist.
Why do you ask? I do but I've never heard that question except from people who intend to go bare lol. It's probably not information that a client needs to know
Not likely but with condoms can slip off accidental or tear prematurely if too thin so in those cases client might need to know
Actually, the question has also crossed my mind occasionally - though I never really considered asking. I just figured that given the risks of something going wrong, even with protection - that probably it would be in the ladies best interest. Of course, some forms of birth control don't always harmonize with all bodies.
Along those lines, it always amazed me when you'd hear about some porn actresses not using birth control, given everything involved.
(fwiw, on my end, I would never consider or want to not use protection)
If you booked for a long day. Say 5-6 hours Given the same compensation for that day . Would you prefer multi clients booked for shorter time periods like an hour or single client for the entire 5-6 hours
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?
It depends on the people. Can’t really answer.
Are they all good clients or are they all annoying clients that always try to cross boundaries?
Let’s say they are all good clients Preference with one good client or multi good clients over the same time period ?
I'd prefer seeing a single client for 5-6 hours honestly, and in my experience people who have booked me for 3 hours and more were cool and I had fun with them
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