Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

If we're talking about narcissists, that's another story. Some people manipulate us because they don't respect SP's and women in general..

But yeah true narcissists are a thing, and they believe their own lies to an extent. I was friends for a very long time with an extremely manipulative and narcissistic person. He presented himself as this sweet, childlike, artistic and spiritual person. People really fell for that persona, and he really did have gifts. Over time, I started realizing how abusive and manipulative he was. I would hear stories about him from mutual friends and he would tell me a completely different version of the story and seemed completely convinced that it was the truth. Over time, I ended up understanding that he was lying to maintain constant victim status when actually he was behaving in ways that were boundary crossing or plain horrifying. The hold this person had on me was so strong and it took a really long time for me to finally see him for who he really was, but now I know better and I am great at identifying types like this lol

When I was talking about people trying to manipulate SP's, I was talking about a phenomenon that is fairly common and that we notice more and more as we gain experience as a SP. A phrase I often heard and don't as much lately is "if you're using a text app and a fake name i can use them too".. which is a really manipulative argument that is insulting to my intelligence honestly lol. But that doesn't mean the person who said it is a complete narcissist.

 

[Artvandelay_importer]

Introduce yourself properly, don't be sassy or manipulative because most of us won't wanna deal with you if you are, follow screening info, take the booking seriously, let her know what you want clearly and respect her boundaries, show up clean, be sweet and agreeable

Makes sense, thank you!

 

[Nachoy]

Do you take some form of birth control med ?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Do you take some form of birth control med ?

Yes

 

[Julia Sky]

Do you take some form of birth control med ?

Why do you ask? I do but I've never heard that question except from people who intend to go bare lol. It's probably not information that a client needs to know

 

[Nachoy]

Why do you ask? I do but I've never heard that question except from people who intend to go bare lol. It's probably not information that a client needs to know

Not likely but with condoms can slip off accidental or tear prematurely if too thin so in those cases client might need to know

 

[TheJames101]

Why do you ask? I do but I've never heard that question except from people who intend to go bare lol. It's probably not information that a client needs to know

Actually, the question has also crossed my mind occasionally - though I never really considered asking. I just figured that given the risks of something going wrong, even with protection - that probably it would be in the ladies best interest. Of course, some forms of birth control don't always harmonize with all bodies.

Along those lines, it always amazed me when you'd hear about some porn actresses not using birth control, given everything involved.

(fwiw, on my end, I would never consider or want to not use protection)

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I use hormonal contraception not to get pregnant, and I use condoms for STIs.

 

[Nachoy]

If you booked for a long day. Say 5-6 hours Given the same compensation for that day . Would you prefer multi clients booked for shorter time periods like an hour or single client for the entire 5-6 hours
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?

 

[LC18]

Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?

It depends on the people. Can’t really answer.

Are they all good clients or are they all annoying clients that always try to cross boundaries?

 

[Nachoy]

It depends on the people. Can’t really answer.

Are they all good clients or are they all annoying clients that always try to cross boundaries?

Let’s say they are all good clients Preference with one good client or multi good clients over the same time period ?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

If you booked for a long day. Say 5-6 hours Given the same compensation for that day . Would you prefer multi clients booked for shorter time periods like an hour or single client for the entire 5-6 hours
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?

I'd prefer seeing a single client for 5-6 hours honestly, and in my experience people who have booked me for 3 hours and more were cool and I had fun with them

 

[LC18]

Let’s say they are all good clients Preference with one good client or multi good clients over the same time period ?

Then one client because I like to not have to care about time too much. It’s also not just intimacy when it’s a longer date because 5-6 hours includes stepping out of the hotel room/Airbnb for me.

 

[urquell]

It depends on the people. Can’t really answer.

Are they all good clients or are they all annoying clients that always try to cross boundaries?

So no Mexican clients then. (Only speak annoying foreing languages, always trying to cross international boundaries...)

*crickets*

I'll show myself out.

 

[Julia Sky]

If you booked for a long day. Say 5-6 hours Given the same compensation for that day . Would you prefer multi clients booked for shorter time periods like an hour or single client for the entire 5-6 hours
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?

I would prefer spending this time with the same client (that is, if he's someone whose company I enjoy) because then it would involve more social time, a meal, etc. It's a full experience as opposed to an hour with 5 different guys where we stick to the usual.

But like Lena said it depends on the person, I'd rather see 5 guys than spend 5 hours with an insufferable prick lol

It also depends what you mean by "same compensation", is it my 5 hour rate or is it my hourly rate x 5 ? In both cases I prefer a longer date with 1 person but my point is if it's my 5 hour rate then I definitely won't choose more people haha

 

[Giselle Montreal]

If you booked for a long day. Say 5-6 hours Given the same compensation for that day . Would you prefer multi clients booked for shorter time periods like an hour or single client for the entire 5-6 hours
Which scenario is more physically and mentally exhausting to you?

5 1-hour meetings in a day is not 5 hours of work, it's more like 9-10 hours total. It's a full day of work. Especially if you have one or two outcalls among that, you have to get there and come back. Otherwise, let's say it's only incall, changing the bed sheets, doing at least 3 loads of laundry, tidying up the apartment, taking showers, getting ready again, cleaning the glasses and dishes, eating a bite in between clients, sending email confirmation, etc. takes time.

 

[Julia Sky]

Very good points Giselle

 

[Fradi]

I have seen my ATF about 200 - 220 times over the years lost count a long time ago.
It is like investing in an ETF it just gets more valuable over time, for her too I guess lol.
The thing is even now I count the days when I am supposed to see her and look forward to it every time.
Just an amazing young lady, gorgeous and a total sweetheart she has made things so much better for me I am lucky to have her in my life.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

SPs: How many times or total hours have you seen your most loyal client?
Clients: How many times or total hours have you seen your ATF?

My most loyal client is a bit younger and doesn't have a lot of money. I've seen him about once a month for over 2 years, and always for half hours. Since I started being a SP, there are variations with my clientele every season or two. Some clients will come to see me every 2 weeks for a few months and then stop.. Some come back every few months but don't book super regularly. Some book me whenever they are in Montreal, which can be rare.

 

[Fradi]

Thank you for sharing. I know you have had an ATF for a long time which goes beyond just physical intimacy.
When you say "count the days when I am supposed to see her", does it mean you have a regular schedule / cadence?

No regular schedule, no calendar schedule or arrangement.
We make plans to see each other whenever it suits both our schedules which has never been a problem especially on my end seeing as I am retired.
Yes it goes beyond physical intimacy, we are friends and enjoy seeing each other and are able to separate the friend/client relationship and to respect what both are comfortable with.
Just a nice easy and fun relationship no commitments or arrangements kind of a win win for both.