You are normal; some have less, some have more. I lubricate less than most women but there's nothing wrong with my body. Normal is normal, there's no degree.
Ask us anything part 3
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I don't personally feel like all my interactions should be paid at all, but some people push it.. I get expected to entertain certain gentleman for free and have very long conversations and they don't book me. Or they want to organize a 15 minute sexting or Skype session and organizing it lasts hours. I also get inappropriate messages and responses.. I'm not going to ask potential clients to pay for interacting with me, but it's more the fact that they don't want to book and want my attention that gets annoying at times.
Findom is completely different from a sp asking for a wish list or tips once in a while too. Some sps have consultation fees meaning they charge clients just to have conversations about their services. It's not something I would do personally but time wasters can be frustrating
There are accounts on Twitter made by sps who want to vent about their work if that's what you're referring to..
I have received gifts and tips from clients I've never met just because they live too far and they like my personality. It's always a nice surprise, but obviously not a common thing..
There is nothing wrong with venting and some have a sense of humour about how they do it and it is entertaining.and fine.
Then there are the obvious ones who never stop and you can easily tell they hate men and hate what they are doing these are the ones I am talking about that are toxic and I wouldn’t go near.
Why wouldn’t you accept gifts if it was offered even if they are from far away and you will never see them, it wouldn’t make sense and there is nothing wrong with it. Nobody is twisting their arm to do it.
When someone outright complains and calls men out on it and demands money and gifts that is cringe worthy and totally not ok.
Why would an escort have a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship? The sheer lack of self respect + respect for another woman in this scenario is something else haha.
If you meant our client-provider relationship, I would probably ignore the message from his partner as I'm only doing my job. I'd understand that she is hurt but ultimately this is their drama to deal with, not mine.
One time a girlfriend walked in on me sucking her man's dick, I silently got dressed, told her that I was sorry she had to go through that, wished her good luck and left. She was sweet about it though, while visibly upset at him and hurt, she complimented me on my looks and wished me a good day. I wish I'd offered to take her shopping on her man's dime, she was genuinely sweet and I felt bad for her.
Nachoy's question reminds me of a real life situation where his exact question materialized. It was back in around 2009 or 2010 in New York City. I was a member of a very high end full service massage parlor located in Gramercy Park with another location in Hell's Kitchen. The MP had its own private message board. The owner posted on the message board a message intended for the wife or significant other of a member who had discovered her SO's activities on his computer due to his negligence in computer security. Tiger Woods type situation. From what the owner told me via PM at that time, it was a "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" situation. The enraged wife began calling the MP and excoriating the phone bookers, all young women, with all manner of insults. The harassment continued relentlessly for around a week and the phone girls (who were just college kids I think) were threatening to quit. So the message the owner posted was calm and rational and basically told the wife (who was reading the message board due to the security breach) that the MP was not responsible for her husband's behavior and that the behavior was the result of him not getting something he needed at home. I was very impressed with her message and told her so at that time. It was intelligent, well reasoned, forthright and likely 100% true.
The harassment stopped, eventually. I think it was maybe her anger ran out more than the message's impact, but the message likely helped.
The harassment stopped, eventually. I think it was maybe her anger ran out more than the message's impact, but the message likely helped.
Well, my client-provider relationships are discreet ones, so to me that's what we are talking about. I would not handle the situation, I would not get involved and would let go!
But what if you were bombarded with phone calls as was the MP I posted about? Would you have handled the same way?
BTW that MP was very discreet. It was the member who wasn't. And that's why this would happen to any of you! This is common sense. It's the clients who will screw up.
I do not have a phone number so I would not get calls, and it's easy to block someone, or signal as spam and delete emails without even reading them. I want nothing to do with these situations, I don't need this in my life and I am happy it never happened so far (knock on wood).
It is. They are so anal about discretion, yet are the ones allowing notifications and message previews on locked screen.
I think I understand your point of view, because I actually genuinely like my clients.. A lot of clients treat me better than men I've dated in my personal life before. I know that sounds wild, but it's true. I also love meeting people that I wouldn't meet otherwise. That's really valuable for me, and a huge part of why I like being a SP. There are difficult things about what we do, sometimes we are not well treated, so I get why many providers need to vent... But obviously not all guys are like this.
I would have a really hard time with this. I am aware that some clients who are regulars have SO's, but it's not the same thing as having an arrangement or ''discreet relationship'' like SD SB dynamic. I would not want a SD who is married, unless his wife knew what he was up to.
I'm so sorry this happened. I would have been so upset.
I honestly don’t see why a client would not go out of his way to be nice and kind to an SP.I think I understand your point of view, because I actually genuinely like my clients.. A lot of clients treat me better than men I've dated in my personal life before. I know that sounds wild, but it's true. I also love meeting people that I wouldn't meet otherwise. That's really valuable for me, and a huge part of why I like being a SP. There are difficult things about what we do, sometimes we are not well treated, so I get why many providers need to vent... But obviously not all guys are like this.
What kind of experience is he expecting to have if he is being rude or disrespectful.
Besides it is extremely dangerous to get a BJ from someone who is totally pissed off at you.
Clients are not always nice but I would say lately I've mostly met lovely gentlemen
Honestly, the chemistry gets better with regular and repeat clients in my experience
I like repeat clients more than new ones. I tend to make it harder for new people to see me than people I have already met, and know I like my time with them.
I'm not as excited with new people ad nervous this will be an unpleasant experience, and thankfully am often pleaded and look forward to seeing them again.
Not my problem.
My SO knows what I am up to. Not my business if he is cheating on his SO. It is a job. I didn't go out seaking her partner, her partner was looking around and chose to spend time with me. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. It isn't free.
But that is where there is a line drawn. The relationships I have with those I see, will end if they bring drama to me. I have no time for it, and have better things to spend my energy on. For me this is a profession as much as relationship,
