Well, my client-provider relationships are discreet ones, so to me that's what we are talking about. I would not handle the situation, I would not get involved and would let go!
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But what if you were bombarded with phone calls as was the MP I posted about? Would you have handled the same way?
BTW that MP was very discreet. It was the member who wasn't. And that's why this would happen to any of you! This is common sense. It's the clients who will screw up.
I do not have a phone number so I would not get calls, and it's easy to block someone, or signal as spam and delete emails without even reading them. I want nothing to do with these situations, I don't need this in my life and I am happy it never happened so far (knock on wood).
It is. They are so anal about discretion, yet are the ones allowing notifications and message previews on locked screen.
I think I understand your point of view, because I actually genuinely like my clients.. A lot of clients treat me better than men I've dated in my personal life before. I know that sounds wild, but it's true. I also love meeting people that I wouldn't meet otherwise. That's really valuable for me, and a huge part of why I like being a SP. There are difficult things about what we do, sometimes we are not well treated, so I get why many providers need to vent... But obviously not all guys are like this.
I would have a really hard time with this. I am aware that some clients who are regulars have SO's, but it's not the same thing as having an arrangement or ''discreet relationship'' like SD SB dynamic. I would not want a SD who is married, unless his wife knew what he was up to.
I'm so sorry this happened. I would have been so upset.
I honestly don’t see why a client would not go out of his way to be nice and kind to an SP.I think I understand your point of view, because I actually genuinely like my clients.. A lot of clients treat me better than men I've dated in my personal life before. I know that sounds wild, but it's true. I also love meeting people that I wouldn't meet otherwise. That's really valuable for me, and a huge part of why I like being a SP. There are difficult things about what we do, sometimes we are not well treated, so I get why many providers need to vent... But obviously not all guys are like this.
What kind of experience is he expecting to have if he is being rude or disrespectful.
Besides it is extremely dangerous to get a BJ from someone who is totally pissed off at you.
Clients are not always nice but I would say lately I've mostly met lovely gentlemen
Honestly, the chemistry gets better with regular and repeat clients in my experience
I like repeat clients more than new ones. I tend to make it harder for new people to see me than people I have already met, and know I like my time with them.
I'm not as excited with new people ad nervous this will be an unpleasant experience, and thankfully am often pleaded and look forward to seeing them again.
Not my problem.
My SO knows what I am up to. Not my business if he is cheating on his SO. It is a job. I didn't go out seaking her partner, her partner was looking around and chose to spend time with me. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. It isn't free.
But that is where there is a line drawn. The relationships I have with those I see, will end if they bring drama to me. I have no time for it, and have better things to spend my energy on. For me this is a profession as much as relationship,
I was wondering if Nachoy meant agreeing on a financial arrangement after entering a borderline romantic type relationship with a client, and not just your average client provider relationship..
If he meant how will I react if someone's SO found out he is seeing me as a SP.. Obviously this would be upsetting. This may sound surprising but a lot of my clients are single, or don't disclose their relationship status to me. I've also had a lot of clients tell me that their wives or girlfriends are aware of what they are doing, and they have an agreement. (for example I've had 2 or 3 clients whose wives were asexual, and some are in open relationships)
However, I agree that it's not my problem. This is my profession, and discretion is extremely important. I would not respond if a client's SO reached out to me, but I would definitely not see this client anymore because it's risky for my safety at that point if an angry wife or girlfriend figures out her partner has been seeing me. The only time this happened was when someone's girlfriend reached out to me via his phone. I guess it could have been him pretending to be her, but why are you seeing SP's and giving your gf access to your phone???
It's complicated because I'm a monogamous person in my personal life, and I would not love finding out my SO saw a SP. It wouldn't be as bad as finding out they are having an affair or a one night stand with someone they have a crush on to me, because as a SP I understand that the dynamic is different. But as a companion I have to be non judgemental. There are reasons why certain married men seek services from SP's and I am not here to criticize.
Pre-booking I believe means booking ahead of time instead of last minute or same day. I think some SP's ask for deposits for pre-bookings specifically because so many clients end up cancelling. Thankfully this hasn't happened to me in a while, but sometimes it can be frustrating.
Prebooking is booking ~24 hours ahead of time, or more. Otherwise, it is same-day or last minute as Luna said, where the provider you wish to see is less likely to be available. They might still require a deposit for a same-day or last-minute booking, since it usually covers the location or the transportation, in case you bail 2h later.
Some providers even ask extras for same day appointments! Personally I find it ridiculous, you are available or you are not. Getting ready for a meeting is both our responsibility lol.
I think they will be more than willing to wave that during the slow winter months.
I don't ask for deposits for many reasons, but same day or last minute appointments can be stressful. It's a lot easier for indy's to be pre-booked because we can arrange our schedules accordingly. I take same day appointments, but it causes an extra layer of anxiety if I don't already know the client because suddenly my plans have to change to accommodate the client. That's not too hard to understand. If it's both our responsibility why not pre-book instead? I'm okay with people asking me for a last minute date but it's really rare that I'm able to see someone an hour after they texted me. I understand why some indy's ask for extras.
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