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This looks like a different experience from Montreal environment.
This looks like a different experience from Montreal environment.
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I dont see why you cant have both. A very good friend invited me to dinner at his home with his family friday, after dinner he's going to repair my truck I'll gladly pay him for his time.
My dream is to one day be able to take my favorite SP out for dinner in a fancy restaurant and spoil her and then take her back to her place and pay her for the intimate time like usually.
I'm just waiting for the right time to offer her the opportunity.
If it was me and my schedule was free and the client was really nice I dont see why I would say no even if he cant pay for the time during dinner. You get a fancy free meal and then
do your business as usual and reinforce your client's loyalty at the same time. Unless one prefers client quantity over quality.
Would you want to know if your OF pictures were leaked on the web? If so, what would be a sensible way for you to be made aware?
So essentially, I stumbled across a data dump of photos from a local SP (highly rated here on Merb) and while it is unlikely our paths will ever cross, I don't necessarily feel like coming off as a creep who found her pics by contacting her, nor do I feel the need to look like a loser trying to gain her favors.
What should I do? I feel like she should at least be aware should she decide to go forward with a DMCA takedown, but if the consensus is to leave it be, it's fine by me.
How about:
So essentially, I stumbled across a data dump of photos from a local SP (highly rated here on Merb) and while it is unlikely our paths will ever cross, I don't necessarily feel like coming off as a creep who found her pics by contacting her, nor do I feel the need to look like a loser trying to gain her favors.
What should I do? I feel like she should at least be aware should she decide to go forward with a DMCA takedown, but if the consensus is to leave it be, it's fine by me.
How about:
- Asking a duo partner (if she has one) to let the person know?
- Sending an incognito email or incognito text with link to site and link to DMCA
- Doing nothing
You should reach out and let her know. I personally would be far more creeped out if a duo partner reached out on behalf of someone who seemingly has something to hide haha. The second option is probably the safest way to go about it - that's what I think anyway.
But I will say though, it's very unlikely for someone to magically "stumble upon" leaks from a specific provider in the wild. You have to at least somewhat look her up for that to happen and if she isn't someone you intend to book or support in the first place I do think it's a little awkward to look people up like that in this context. But you know what? Leaks are criminal and can cause serious harm. Some people have taken their lives over leaks. So you coming off as a creep doesn't matter nearly as much as someone having agency over use of their image. Reach out and let her know.
Whether you choose to believe me or not is up to you, and by the sounds of it, you seem like you already have your preconceived notions about all us weirdos behind a screen so... :shrug:. But yeah, sucks to not be given the benefit of the doubt when one is telling the truth. Anyone who checks Merb will instantly recognize the name.
For what it's worth, there's only one type of OF fans I like, and that involves male content creator and fake massages so yes, I was hunting for pirated content but did not actively seek her or anyone for that matter.
I'm just trying to do the right thing and it's landing me exactly where I wanted to avoid in the first place, no good deed goes unpunished right?
Probably a question already asked: how often have you ended up in a relationship with a client in your few or many years of career.
And I think the question can also be answered by merbites, have you dated an SP and if more than one in your years of hobbying, then how many?
Although, I understand if your answer is “a gentleman or lady never kisses and tells”
And I think the question can also be answered by merbites, have you dated an SP and if more than one in your years of hobbying, then how many?
Although, I understand if your answer is “a gentleman or lady never kisses and tells”
I have a question.
If the government started some kind of program that would grant SPs a permit to operate that would legitimate her practice and exempt her Johns from
the 'buying services law' on the condition that you pass a background check and have regular follow up visits with a social worker to make sure there is no
trafficking involved in addition to regular mandatory health checks. Would you participate? If not why?
If the government started some kind of program that would grant SPs a permit to operate that would legitimate her practice and exempt her Johns from
the 'buying services law' on the condition that you pass a background check and have regular follow up visits with a social worker to make sure there is no
trafficking involved in addition to regular mandatory health checks. Would you participate? If not why?
No. Maybe others might, but I wouldn't.
No. This sounds like having an employer you need to check in with. We already do our health checks, for our own health consciousness. This isn't something I would want the government in my personal private business about, what happens between my legs is not for them to know. (Finances yes. How I get those finances that's a hard hell no.) This would quickly become a dictatorship over the sex industry. Who gets it and who doesn't. Then restricting the number of providers who gets to be concidered legitimate. Then what also qualifies someone to be legitimate? And those with low traffic? Does she qualify if she sees 5 or less clients a week? Then what happens when something like conservatives get in there? You've just handed over a list of easy targets for the government to make an example of to crack down on and publicly shame. Not to mention our personal identity we don't want connected to our business in most cases, becomes broadcasted if this hypothetical list of legitimate providers gets released. Then there's the instant no fly lists these providers get put on. They already have to pray for a miracle that they don't get called out with a 10 year block from visiting the states, when some might have a life that is led on both sides of the boarder.
That comes across as pretty cynical but I do see your points. And I wrote it in the first post, legitimate means someone who is an SP by choice, opposite to a victim doing it because of sex trafficking or coercion.
Because that's the real goal here, keep fighting sex trafficking while giving SPs more rights and protection. Sex trafficking is the reason why banks and customs give you a hard time.
I wouldn't mind it... I have to pay for some ads in crypto so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You achieve that goal by implementing full decriminalization, not regulation. Regulation hurts the most vulnerable sex workers (and I said sex workers, not trafficking victims just to be clear).
There are already laws against trafficking. Adding rules and inviting the government in our bedrooms doesn't help anyone. But decriminalizing our industry completely would make it easier for victims to report crimes against them without fear of being treated like criminals too. Which would actually happen if we had regulations. Can you imagine a police officer asking a trafficking victim to show them her license? Or proof that she got tested recently? So anxiety inducing and could prevent so many victims from seeking the help they need.
Because victims do in fact get treated like criminals more often than not.
There's no way to guarantee it but we prevent it as best as we can by using safe sex practices and getting tested every 4 to 12 weeks that way we can detect and treat an STI early on and avoid transmitting it to a bunch of people.
Knocking on wood, I haven't caught an STI in the 9 years I've been doing this!
Edited to add : also fyi we moved from saying STD to saying STI because most are infections and only turn into diseases if left untreated. Disease is a much more stigmatized word that actually keeps many people from getting tested out of shame, so using the correct terminology is helpful
Oh well, I guess this was a question where the answers are best kept secretProbably a question already asked: how often have you ended up in a relationship with a client in your few or many years of career.
And I think the question can also be answered by merbites, have you dated an SP and if more than one in your years of hobbying, then how many?
Although, I understand if your answer is “a gentleman or lady never kisses and tells”
Although I’m surprised no merbites wanted to share if they ever dated one or more SPs over the years.
It’s a great feeling when your sp is just as safe as you!There's no way to guarantee it but we prevent it as best as we can by using safe sex practices and getting tested every 4 to 12 weeks that way we can detect and treat an STI early on and avoid transmitting it to a bunch of people.
Knocking on wood, I haven't caught an STI in the 9 years I've been doing this!
Edited to add : also fyi we moved from saying STD to saying STI because most are infections and only turn into diseases if left untreated. Disease is a much more stigmatized word that actually keeps many people from getting tested out of shame, so using the correct terminology is helpful
It's not being answered so will give my own situation. In Dom/Sub.
Domme, I'm still learning, I can do it with my partner but most men don't want the bf/master in the room understandably, and also have a duo partner to mentor me if the client is willing, otherwise the situations I have been in, I had to ask a lot of questions before the appointment to see if I could fill the role they were looking for. But if I have a domme power over someone, my inner beast refuses to ever let them get the upper hand. They could try, but will just be met with being shown their position is as the sub.
Sub, not so much. It takes a gfe visit first to see if the gent has the kind of personality and vibe I am willing to be submissive with. I very much find most men who call themselves Doms don't deserve the submission and unless it comes naturally from me, it just isn't going to happen, their in for a powerstruggle fight. Trying to be submissive if I don't feel it for the person, has me hating them by half way threw the visit and I just want it done then. So I refuse to agree to an initial first time visit as a sub, untill I know the gent gives the right vibe I need, to enjoy the submissive role with him. (It is a role I often keep for my relationship, as it takes a lot of trust for me.)
It isn't something I can play games with. It is why it depends on the chemistry I have with the gent. Upon meeting the first time for gfe, I know what position either of us has in the who's more dom or sub. Switching just isn't in me. I can't just treat it like a game. It is what it is within us already. I am really no good with playing pretend.
But I tend to think when someone writes dom/sub, they mean they can play either role. Its not necessarily both roles in the same visit, but most who offer both might likely, unlike me, be able to just switch easily.
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