Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

Boundaries

First, a little background. I grew up in an environment where I didn't develop healthy boundaries. Today, I realize that I need to develop them in order to have more fulfilling relationships, and I'm actively working on myself to do so.

It took me a few days, but I read all the "Ask us anything" threads (yes, I'm very curious by nature and I have a lot of free time). I'd first like to congratulate all those who generously answered the questions. I noticed on a few occasions that some of you responded firmly and with impressive tact to inappropriate questions. These answers, while not being mean or aggressive toward the author, were nonetheless clear about the boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

So my question is how did you develop this ability to express your boundaries with such class? I'd appreciate any advice that could potentially help me on my journey.

A natural talent? Work on yourself with reading or professionals? Out of obligation because there are too many morons? (If it's following traumatic experiences, I'm sorry it happened to you, my intention is not to make you relive them / move on to the next question.)

I'm not sure about others, but my diplomatic skills became fine tuned while playing pvp games. When part of the game is attacking other players, you can easily end up with a troll who ruins the game for you if you respond in a negative way.

I learnt to be diplomatic in games to not infuriate trolls to ruin the games for myself. When you can appease the trolls, you have an ally others don't want to mess with. I became my peaceful guilds PR rep to deal with adversary guilds.

 

[LeDodo]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

 

[jeffmathers]

Some people just can’t handle a difference of opinion. They immediately jump to assuming others are filled with hatred or anger lmao. Makes no sense. Especially when you ask for public input, but then try to control what people are allowed to say. What’s the point of asking if you're going to decide for them?

The funny thing is you literally retweet providers advertising social time.

 

[Valentina Amante]

The funny thing is you literally retweet providers advertising social time.

? I retweet providers yes? Why are you continuing ?. Just sucking up to SPs here get a life. I don’t have a problem with social time - I even offer it but I don’t make it front and center of my business and impose it onto clients. If you actually read lmao.

 

[LC18]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

If it’s a multi hours around meal time, clients usually bring food. Or I simply reschedule at a more convenient time

 

[Giselle Montreal]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

Why don't I understand the question?

 

[LeDodo]

Why don't I understand the question?

Example: you got 3 times 1h booking from 11:30 with say 30 minutes break/cleanup in between. So you might be done at 4pm.

I'm such case you:
- Have your lunch before
- Have your lunch after
- don't entertain such rush schedule

 

[Julia Sky]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

I dont have an eating schedule to begin with. I eat when I'm hungry and sometimes that means a 3pm breakfast, hahaha

If I have an appointment and happen to be hungry at that time I will eat right after. But I typically dont see several clients a day so I have plenty of time to eat when my body wants me to eat.

If I have a multi hour those clients typically don't mind bringing a snack or getting food delivered during the date. I never asked but i mention being hungry and they offer haha

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Example: you got 3 times 1h booking from 11:30 with say 30 minutes break/cleanup in between. So you might be done at 4pm.

I'm such case you:
- Have your lunch before
- Have your lunch after
- don't entertain such rush schedule

I will probably eat before and after, but as Lena says, clients often bring little things to nibble on so I never go hungry! What I was doing when I had more shorter meetings, or on tours, it that I often kept protein bars at the incall to have just a few bites in between clients, it helped me replenish my energy.