Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

Talking about tips. What's the usual way to tip?

I get the idea for the envelope before. But for me it feels a bit awkward afterwards for the tip.

For my first time I gave the tip together with the donation. It was my first time and somehow I had the feeling it will be great. I didn't regret my decision

It goes however you feel like giving a tip. Most of the time I got it at the start with the initial payment. It does give an extra chipperness to getting the time started. I have rarely gotten it at the end, and once was slipped it by etransfer, after the visit, even though I don't accept transfers as a personal rule.
Either works, at the beginning, says you have faith that you are going to have a great time, and after, says you had such a great time you feel obliged to contribute more.

And for those who don't intend to tip, bring exact cash, because the assumption is overpayment is tip, not your expecting to get change back. ( it has come up before.)

 

[Michelle Gunn]

SPs. What are the typical gifts you receive?
And how often do you receive it?

10 bucks is the most typical tip I get when it's all in 20$ bills.
Second would be scotch, or whatever is left of the scotch.

 

[S.S neo]

I bring gifts when I visit an SP. Flowers, chocolate, wine, etc...
But what if you were to visit a male SP? What should you bring/what would you want to receive if you were the SP?

Dick in a box

 

[Julia Sky]

Yawn it's only 8am

 

[Valentina Amante | LAVAL]

Oh but it’s not too early to restart the conversation. about the locked thread. Extremely hypocritical.

 

[Rebaynia]

Boundaries

First, a little background. I grew up in an environment where I didn't develop healthy boundaries. Today, I realize that I need to develop them in order to have more fulfilling relationships, and I'm actively working on myself to do so.

It took me a few days, but I read all the "Ask us anything" threads (yes, I'm very curious by nature and I have a lot of free time). I'd first like to congratulate all those who generously answered the questions. I noticed on a few occasions that some of you responded firmly and with impressive tact to inappropriate questions. These answers, while not being mean or aggressive toward the author, were nonetheless clear about the boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

So my question is how did you develop this ability to express your boundaries with such class? I'd appreciate any advice that could potentially help me on my journey.

A natural talent? Work on yourself with reading or professionals? Out of obligation because there are too many morons? (If it's following traumatic experiences, I'm sorry it happened to you, my intention is not to make you relive them / move on to the next question.)

I'm not sure about others, but my diplomatic skills became fine tuned while playing pvp games. When part of the game is attacking other players, you can easily end up with a troll who ruins the game for you if you respond in a negative way.

I learnt to be diplomatic in games to not infuriate trolls to ruin the games for myself. When you can appease the trolls, you have an ally others don't want to mess with. I became my peaceful guilds PR rep to deal with adversary guilds.

 

[LeDodo]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

 

[LC18]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

If it’s a multi hours around meal time, clients usually bring food. Or I simply reschedule at a more convenient time

 

[Giselle Montreal]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

Why don't I understand the question?

 

[LeDodo]

Why don't I understand the question?

Example: you got 3 times 1h booking from 11:30 with say 30 minutes break/cleanup in between. So you might be done at 4pm.

I'm such case you:
- Have your lunch before
- Have your lunch after
- don't entertain such rush schedule

 

[Julia Sky]

How do you deal with your meal with clients weird hours during lunch or dinner? Like you might get a client for few hours or multiple clients in a row in the middle of meal.
You just go with the flow/bookings and bear until free?

I dont have an eating schedule to begin with. I eat when I'm hungry and sometimes that means a 3pm breakfast, hahaha

If I have an appointment and happen to be hungry at that time I will eat right after. But I typically dont see several clients a day so I have plenty of time to eat when my body wants me to eat.

If I have a multi hour those clients typically don't mind bringing a snack or getting food delivered during the date. I never asked but i mention being hungry and they offer haha

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Example: you got 3 times 1h booking from 11:30 with say 30 minutes break/cleanup in between. So you might be done at 4pm.

I'm such case you:
- Have your lunch before
- Have your lunch after
- don't entertain such rush schedule

I will probably eat before and after, but as Lena says, clients often bring little things to nibble on so I never go hungry! What I was doing when I had more shorter meetings, or on tours, it that I often kept protein bars at the incall to have just a few bites in between clients, it helped me replenish my energy.

 

[UncleBob]

J'ai une question mais j'vais y aller en français, je me sens paresseux ce soir à tenter de traduire ça...
Je ne sais pas si ça déjà été couvert dans d'autres posts, je ne vais pas me taper 2500 posts certains et le part 1 et 2 lol...

Est-ce que ça vous arrive les filles de devoir recadrer certains clients pour qui le GFE monte à la tête? Clients qui deviennent un peu trop amoureux, deviennent même stalker etc?
Comment vous y prenez vous?
Et à quelle moment de la relation SP/Client aller vous faire le recadrage?

Exemple:
Une indy HDH il y a quelques années, m'a déjà raconter comment un de ces clients fortunés venait à l'occasion à MTL, qui la bookait 2hres à 400$/hre avec un tip de 400 et sans parlé des divers cadeaux, bijoux etc, donc ce client après plusieurs "date$" voulait emménagés avec elle, la marié, fonder une famille...
Et elle racontait que les $$$ faisait qu'elle laissait entrevoir des peut-être sans dire ni oui ni non, étirait la sauce quoi pcq client était gentil et payant mais elle avait déjà quelqu'un dans sa vie dont elle ne parlait pas à ces clients, car le GFE c'est du rêve, un jeu de rôle, et pour que ça aille l'air plausible, faut pas que la fille se ventent d'avoir un BF déjà lol...
Anyway, donc elle a profité le plus possible de ce client mais éventuellement, il a fallu qu'elle y mette un terme...
Je n'ai jamais su comment c'est passé le moment du pétage de la balloune du client...

J'ai aussi déjà entendu des histoires de clients qui prenait des initiatives sans en parler à la fille avant, comme aller voir une fille directement chez elle pour lui portez des fleurs alors qu'elle était en pleine rencontre avec ses parents... etc...

 

[LC18]

Est-ce que ça vous arrive les filles de devoir recadrer certains clients pour qui le GFE monte à la tête? Clients qui deviennent un peu trop amoureux, deviennent même stalker etc?
Comment vous y prenez vous?
Et à quelle moment de la relation SP/Client aller vous faire le recadrage?

Je laisse une seule chance. Quand la personne commence à être trop à l’aise avec moi et croire qu’on se dirige vers quelque chose de sérieux, insiste pour connaître mon vrai nom. “Je ne suis pas à l’aise avec ça, s’il te plaît ne le refais plus”

Un client m’a déjà invité à habiter chez lui, un autre voulait qu’on achète un appartement ensemble pour qu’on passe plus de temps ensemble.

Souvent je ris et je dis “tu es drôle” ça laisse la chance à la personne de se reprendre ou alors ça confirme qu’il est un peu delusional s’il me dit que ce n’était pas une blague

 

[LeDodo]

Je laisse une seule chance. Quand la personne commence à être trop à l’aise avec moi et croire qu’on se dirige vers quelque chose de sérieux, insiste pour connaître mon vrai nom. “Je ne suis pas à l’aise avec ça, s’il te plaît ne le refais plus”

Un client m’a déjà invité à habiter chez lui, un autre voulait qu’on achète un appartement ensemble pour qu’on passe plus de temps ensemble.

Souvent je ris et je dis “tu es drôle” ça laisse la chance à la personne de se reprendre ou alors ça confirme qu’il est un peu delusional s’il me dit que ce n’était pas une blague

Rire et le "tu es drôle" c'est facile de hit or miss je dirais. Donc je n'appelerai pas ça une chance pour eux

 

[S.S neo]

J'ai une question mais j'vais y aller en français, je me sens paresseux ce soir à tenter de traduire ça...
Je ne sais pas si ça déjà été couvert dans d'autres posts, je ne vais pas me taper 2500 posts certains et le part 1 et 2 lol...

Est-ce que ça vous arrive les filles de devoir recadrer certains clients pour qui le GFE monte à la tête? Clients qui deviennent un peu trop amoureux, deviennent même stalker etc?
Comment vous y prenez vous?
Et à quelle moment de la relation SP/Client aller vous faire le recadrage?

Exemple:
Une indy HDH il y a quelques années, m'a déjà raconter comment un de ces clients fortunés venait à l'occasion à MTL, qui la bookait 2hres à 400$/hre avec un tip de 400 et sans parlé des divers cadeaux, bijoux etc, donc ce client après plusieurs "date$" voulait emménagés avec elle, la marié, fonder une famille...
Et elle racontait que les $$$ faisait qu'elle laissait entrevoir des peut-être sans dire ni oui ni non, étirait la sauce quoi pcq client était gentil et payant mais elle avait déjà quelqu'un dans sa vie dont elle ne parlait pas à ces clients, car le GFE c'est du rêve, un jeu de rôle, et pour que ça aille l'air plausible, faut pas que la fille se ventent d'avoir un BF déjà lol...
Anyway, donc elle a profité le plus possible de ce client mais éventuellement, il a fallu qu'elle y mette un terme...
Je n'ai jamais su comment c'est passé le moment du pétage de la balloune du client...

J'ai aussi déjà entendu des histoires de clients qui prenait des initiatives sans en parler à la fille avant, comme aller voir une fille directement chez elle pour lui portez des fleurs alors qu'elle était en pleine rencontre avec ses parents... etc...

Visiblement, y’en a qui oublie le E de GFE ou PSE ... c’est juste une expérience ...

 

[Rebaynia]

Here... asked a question on another thread, and to avoid further encouragement of sidetracked that thread from it's intended purpose, I thought I would answer the question here.

I have a question for you - what is the feeling to live in a city where you are surrounded by men that can not touch and fuck your brain?

☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆

Oh dear. Tell me you don't understand what a M/s relationship is, without telling me you don't know what it is...

My Master is great at being able to touch and fuck my brain. A M/s relationship is 90% mental and only 10% physical.

The places he can bring me with just a suggestion and minimal contact. I am 1 of the people here on this board who knows better than the person asking the question, what it is to have someone know what he is suggesting. Master knows how to get his slave to subspace.

Not to mention Montreal and the French are very well known for their kinkier than average underground. This is not the place to assume doesn't know how to please, in more ways than the average man even knows is possible. For some it is perfected into an art form. (Not me, I'm still learning, but I know we have SPs who I'm sure have worked on perfecting their forms as well.)

 

[Rebaynia]

I have a question but I'm going to go in French, I feel lazy tonight trying to translate this...

That's fine, I translated it for myself. Ahh technology.

Do you think girls have to reframe some clients for whom the GFE goes to the head?

Yes

Customers who become a little too in love, even become stalkers etc.
How do you do it?

I can't speak for others, as I have my responce in my advertising. I shamelessly hide behind my relationship. I have lovelies who profess their love, but they are always informed, while I may have affection for them, my love and heart belongs to my Master, and unfortunately for them, that is a quality I need in my personal relationship, I have had vanilla relationships, and it doesn't work for me. But I do also appreciate what I have with them.

If they make me uncomfortable to continue seeing them, some I have had to let go. Others begrudgingly, accept the answer with a, "he's a lucky man."

And when in the SP/Customer relationship will you reframe?

Depends on how they proceed. I have friendships with some of them. If it has been a while they might reach out to say hi, and they are looking forward to seeing me again soon when they can. great!

But the ones who try to message every day and it feels like they are trying to really treat it as a relationship, I get exhausted with the social demand, I already have a bf I have these conversations with daily already. Especially when they start asking about personal details of my business. It is not their business to know. They often start showing these behaviors early on, so it is ended pretty quickly.

 

[LeDodo]

How peers' review/recommendation is objective?

If you don't recommend him then will that explicitly gives him the cue that he is not welcomed anymore? But I guess and hope it's rare as a situation...

 

[LC18]

What should I do if I need advice on how to deal with a situation with a reputable lady, but want to avoid creating a public post about it out of respect for her (even if she's not named I wouldn't want her situation to be exposed) ? How would you like that such a situation be dealt with by the ["your"] client?

Act like a grown man, message her