Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

Lucky you, people at work often wonder what i do

People at your job don't know what you're doing for a living?

If I tried to have a civilian job in many fields, I would not pass the background check or I would get fired very fast. I made a decision to be face out a long time ago, I regret it sometimes, but I won't go back. Your face isn't somewhere on the internet as a client, and I've never heard of someone getting fired for hiring sex workers in Montreal. Some clients told me they gossiped about who they saw with their coworkers, or ''I was recommended by a colleague''.

Sure I'm lucky that I wasn't disowned by my family and friends for what I do, but it did affect how they perceive me, and it does affect how new people I meet look at me. They think I am not the same person as before, even if I am.. and new people only see this about me. A lot of people judge, and say hurtful things at times or sexualize me without my consent. I assume that choice but it can be disheartening sometimes.

The advantage is that I am not living a lie, and I can advocate for myself.

 

[Fradi]

Lucky you, people at work often wonder what i do

Yeah people often notice slackers and wonder what they do when they are supposed to be working lol.

 

[Johnny test]

That's exactly me!

 

[Julia Sky]

For those SPs who have face pics, do you have reservations about someone recognizing you and outing/shaming you ?

Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.

I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.

But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.

I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.

But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online

That's also my fear

 

[LC18]

Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.

I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.

But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online

I have seen you and I think you are really pretty ❤️

 

[Rebaynia]

Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.

I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.

But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online

I have seen you... I can't hide what I think, it shows visibly on my face, and as someone who struggles to read peoples faces, even I can tell from the look on my face what I think of you. HOT and such a sweety.

We are the most critical of ourselves.

OMG the number of photos that I could have used and enjoyed if I were face-out. The look on my face is the #1 reason I delete almost every photo of myself. I focus so much on how everything else looks, I forget to smile or relax my face, or my eyes look closed, or I realize after I have no makeup on. Often I don't think about makeup, I don't wear it normally.
It makes me self-conscious when I see myself played back on video. I keep seeing all the involuntary facial reactions (grimacing face tick I make when I'm focussed) it kills the mood for me while editing. I tell myself anyone who is going to like my content will just have to accept that's who/how I am.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I have seen you... I can't hide what I think, it shows visibly on my face, and as someone who struggles to read peoples faces, even I can tell from the look on my face what I think of you. HOT

We are the most critical of ourselves.

OMG the number of photos that I could have used and enjoyed if I were face-out. The look on my face is the #1 reason I delete almost every photo of myself. I focus so much on how everything else looks, I forget to smile or relax my face, or my eyes look closed, or I realize after I have no makeup on. Often I don't think about makeup, I don't wear it normally.
It makes me self-conscious when I see myself played back on video. I keep seeing all the involuntary facial reactions (grimacing face tick I make when I'm focussed) it kills the mood for me while editing. I tell myself anyone who is going to like my content will just have to accept that's who/how I am.

I relate to what you're all saying. I think both of you are gorgeous honestly. But one of the reasons why I showed my face to begin with is because I felt like my body wasn't enough.. I didn't like my body at the time. But I do feel self conscious about all the pictures I post and I feel overly exposed

 

[Rebaynia]

I relate to what you're all saying. I think both of you are gorgeous honestly. But one of the reasons why I showed my face to begin with is because I felt like my body wasn't enough.. I didn't like my body at the time. But I do feel self conscious about all the pictures I post and I feel overly exposed

It's why I share my face too. I can't read eyes, but apparently everyone else can, and sees something that draws them in. Even if I only see a pretty shape.

The number of times I have been told it was my eyes that sold it for them. That my eyes told them everything they needed to know, to want to book me.
I didn't think, and still am not sure, anyone would be interested unless they got to see my face too. I couldn't picture standing out, in the crowd of beautiful escorts, if they didn't see my face too.

Especially since my body was not actually being shown off in a sexual manner from 2002-2022 online. I was simply a mom for those years. Nothing risqué.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's why I share my face too. I can't read eyes, but apparently everyone else can, and sees something that draws them in. Even if I only see a pretty shape.

The number of times I have been told it was my eyes that sold it for them. That my eyes told them everything they needed to know, to want to book me.
I didn't think, and still am not sure, anyone would be interested unless they got to see my face too. I couldn't picture standing out, in the crowd of beautiful escorts, if they didn't see my face too.

I decided to be face out personally because I didn't feel like having to put up with constant requests of ''showing my real face'' or having people describe what my face looks like in reviews. What you see is what you get. One thing that surprised me tho.. is that a lot of clients mention that they think I am prettier in person and that ''I should smile more'', so no matter what, you will be different in person. In the past, sex workers didn't have to be models and influencers lol .. it wasn't really part of their job. A friend told me that some people would advertise using caricatures of themselves sometimes. Most of the ads just included text descriptions

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

Most of the ads just included text descriptions

There would be an add in the Journal de Montreal. You would call the booker and they would say: "Oui, Natasha, une belle rousse de 24 ans, des beaux gros seins naturels, tu seras pas deçu!" It was simply classified ads (lines of text) at the back of the newspaper. Backpages! Tada!

(I'm not that old, but I am 100% sure this is how it went)

 

[LC18]

I ideas to show my face and I hated that. I am a very private person and I felt way too exposed. Now that it’s starting to be difficult to travel to certain countries as a face out, I’m glad I decided to blur my photos

 

[Fradi]

Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.

I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.

But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online

You are defiantly pretty Julia and apart from that you are an amazingly kind and nice person.
Don’t ever underestimate yourself.
There are very few like you who are so pleasant to be with.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I decided to show my face on impulse because I entered the industry in a rushed and unexpected way. I started seeing clients as an indy pretty fast and the first massage parlour I worked at showed everyone's face. I was told it would help me get clients faster.

At this point there's no going back. I absolutely regret it tho, I won't lie.. but when I retire it won't matter anymore. This journey is part of a very specific chapter in my life, and I've learned a lot of important lessons through it. As an artist I find it crucial to assume who I am and what I went through fully.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

Do escorts hire someone to write their profile on Tryst? Most of the time it reads like it was written by an ad agency. A bit always in the same style and often quite polished. (I made this observation before the advent of generartive AI). Am I right in assuming that someone does it for them as a service?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Do escorts hire someone to write their profile on Tryst? Most of the time it reads like it was written by an ad agency. A bit always in the same style and often quite polished. (I made this observation before the advent of generartive AI). Am I right in assuming that someone does it for them as a service?

You're probably wrong. I think a lot of escorts look at other profiles and kinda copy what seems to work.. Maybe some ask for advice, I don't know. I just know how I wrote mine.. I was very spontaneous but it was a lot of trial and error. I think a specific type of wording works better than others, and that's why a lot of them are similar. Otherwise I think maybe there are marketing trends. On my social media I started this debate about the use of words like ''high end'' and ''luxury''. Compared to a few years ago, most were against using these terms.. for ethical reasons but also aesthetic ones. They seem disingenuous. I try to avoid anything that seems disingenuous in my branding personally but it's very hard, after a while you start to understand what type of fantasy ''sells'' and what appeals to the type of clients you want to get

 

[Julia Sky]

Do escorts hire someone to write their profile on Tryst? Most of the time it reads like it was written by an ad agency. A bit always in the same style and often quite polished. (I made this observation before the advent of generartive AI). Am I right in assuming that someone does it for them as a service?

Some do, some don't. I didn't hire anyone for mine but I did look at plenty of independents websites to get inspiration. However I've also had friends/colleagues ask me to help write theirs so it's not necessarily done by an ad agency, I've honestly almost never heard of providers using those services. It's more common to do it ourselves or ask someone within the community or a friend

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Some do, some don't. I didn't hire anyone for mine but I did look at plenty of independents websites to get inspiration. However I've also had friends/colleagues ask me to help write theirs so it's not necessarily done by an ad agency, I've honestly almost never heard of providers using those services. It's more common to do it ourselves or ask someone within the community or a friend

Yes that's what I figured, people ask their friends for help writing their profile and website

 

[Palang]

Dear lovely SPs, do you mind client body hair? Love you all!

 

[twenty4seven]

Some do, some don't. I didn't hire anyone for mine but I did look at plenty of independents websites to get inspiration. However I've also had friends/colleagues ask me to help write theirs so it's not necessarily done by an ad agency, I've honestly almost never heard of providers using those services. It's more common to do it ourselves or ask someone within the community or a friend

I wrote one for a provider pro bono and it was fun. I sometimes go back to her website and re-read it bc narcissism probably.