I fell in love with sp in Colombia. How f.cked am i?
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This is delusional and completely disregards her potential wants and needs... He's not the only person in this equation, I feel like very few people would be willing to give up their life/roots for a random person they saw once. Escort or not.
I know of someone who met some woman there and he was robbed with two guys! I would never go there!
I think you fell in love with how she made you feel. 
Hey man, I'm going through the exact same thing right now. I've fallen for an SP here in Montreal and can't stop thinking about her. I've been in this hobby for several years and never expected something like this to happen to me. It's been a couple of months, and I still can't figure out how to get my mind straight. I've tried seeing other SPs and keeping myself busy with work, which helps temporarily, but as soon as I'm home, my thoughts go back to her. I've been visiting her weekly, but now I'm trying to cut back to once a month to see if it helps. What kind of magic is this? I thought I was immune to this in my 40s, but...
to quote Rosie above, we have to distinguish between loving the way they make us feel versus just loving them. I've been there, when a really attractive younger woman makes us feel genuinely desired (then helping deliver amazing orgasms lol), it mess us up. To the OP, I say go back to Columbia as soon as you can and see this girl as much as you can. Be concious that you may be delusional :-0 but enjoy the ride. Be ready to crash down to earth at some point...You only live once.
no, it's not, generally, barring people who lack common sense when they travel The FARC days are long gone.
I think he's talking about people who get drugged by SPs or by their Tinder dates (with scopolamine) then robbed, and in some cases killed.
Common sense is often over ruled by the more powerful brain.
i'm know you would prefer an answer from a provider rather than me, but I would like a chance to answer your query. I really beleive it is when they are able to deliver the fantasy of "desire". It is really ego-boosting to be desired, especially by an attractive woman. It goes straight to the construct of the male ego. But the desire has to go both ways, you have to desire the girl as well. You have to genuinely desire her, and she has to convincingly reciprocate that desire.
I know in a couple of circumstances the girls where just playful and probably just enjoyed the moment and their playfulness gets mis-interpreted as reciprocal desire. Another provider I knew was very ambitious in her work and was fully aware that her 'act' was very effective at getting a loyal following, which she did...
Of course there is always the chance that she just digs you too
I have recently heard of a married couple that met in this industry. Anything is possible.
Generally people lack common sense.
Including our friend here, the OP. Buddy? You're gonna be ok. Travel can make you delulu. Take a deep breath and hire local.
It never occured to you that, for her, the encounter has absolutely nothing special, just business as usual?
Chances are that, after you left, she took a shower, counted her day earnings,, went shopping and couldnt even remember your face anymore.
Yeah, of course it did, the first dozen or so times. It was after the next few dozens of times that I thought there was something more than just business. We often talk about it and share our experiences in work and life. I don’t believe there are romantic feelings at play, but more of a friendship vibe and an appreciation for one another. I have no doubt that the same thing occurs with her other regulars. But that she forgets them right after, I don’t think so. Or am I way off about it? I guess only she can truly answer that question.
The thing is that “she” will never “truly” answer that question but will tell you the words you want to hear. It’s all a facade. She is in it for the money and possibly the sex if a nymphomaniac but otherwise it’s all an act to keep the regulars she is comfortable with coming back as often as possible. $$$
Man, you guys are a bunch of cynical bastards.
It maybe an act, but not always.
I think you can actually develop a friendship a sense of caring even a special kind of affection for each other.
Human beings have feelings they can actually like someone, look forward to seeing them and being with them even when it obviously involves money also. It is always much easier to be with someone who is kind, respectful and treats you well.
Not every SP is a cold hearted calculating money grabbing gold digger, just like not all clients are arrogant entitled assholes.
You can have have a friendship with an SP even a kind of love for them as long as you keep your head on your shoulders and live in the real world.
They may like you, even genuinely care, but they are not your girlfriend or wife and it is a money related transaction, how much of it is an act you may never know and you always have to keep this in perspective.
