Either something is based on racist beliefs or its not. There's no in between. There's nothing irrational about that. It doesn't have to be someone's intention. They don't have to be explicitly racist. Racism comes in many forms and implicit bias or racism is still harmful .
It's actually totally rational and you haven't shown its not.
The definition can include a lot of different scenarios :
As for my comparison to Indy and employee references, I specifically said, (read carefully) the point is escorting is not a regular line of work. You ask for references because you are concerned for your safety. You ask for references because you had a few bad experiences, so that compels you to ask references of everybody even though the risk to you is quite small.I don't have to prove anything. Its you that needs to prove that all girls that don't see black men are racists. You are the one making bold statements.
As for my experiences, with white escorts the bad experiences were 20%, for Black it was 100%. I was wiling to take that 20% risk.
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What in the world do some Indy screening methods have anything to do with this. And are you seriously comparing your work to ours? If you really need me to explain, it might have to do with the higher risks of one of our clients being violent or abusive. Also, do you get naked and place yourself in a potentially vulnerable position with your clients?
Question: Did your employer ask you for references? (Clients aren't our bosses, I don't know why you're making that comparison.) Your landlord? Ever? Did you find it so weird then?
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Now if trying to convince me that you have never had any bad experiences with white escorts or that if you did, you would attribute it to them being white and never see another white escort... we both know that would *never* happen.
So tell me how rational it is to do it in the case of black escorts. Give me a rational explanation other than one based on race. Because it's based on race, would not happen if that race was white, so it is by definition racism. I get that you don't want to see yourself as a racist but you can't pretend race has nothing to do with it. The "my experience" thing is a cop out unless it would apply for white escorts.