Noob in need of advice from the experienced

[friction0010]

Hi there gents,

So i'm embarking on hiring an escort for the first time, at 47 years of age. Got out of a shitty relationship about 8 months ago that destroyed my self confidence and am in MTL for work, been single since then, and I'm having trouble meeting people/women and getting back in the saddle. Craving some physical contact and attention from a pretty girl pretty badly, so considering giving this a go.

What kind of protocols or rules do I need to be aware of before going in?
Is it possible for someone to describe to me the types of scenarios that I can expect?
Is there terminology or code words I need to know about, and things I need to establish prior to committing to one particular SP/Agency?
I am in an airbnb by myself so is the best option to have her come here?
Is "some english" listed in languages sufficient for meetings that won't necessarily involve a date/drinks/dinner where converstation is needed?
Lastly, Can anyone suggest a particular SP that will be best at accommodating me with my uncertainty, nervousness and general rookie behavior, that won't make me feel stupid or take advantage?

Please forgive me for all the questions and neediness, but I really want my first experience to be a good one.

With Respect,
RF

 

[hungry101]

Sometimes I don't know if you guys are kidding? This is like falling off a log. It's the big easy.

Go see who's available in the Indies thread or agency thread. Pick out a few girls that suit your eye. Go over to the outcall or incall section of the reviews and do a search on their names. Read up on each girl and see what the guys say that had previously seen the girl to make sure that she provides the experience that you are looking for. Acronyms are helpful like Deep French Kissing (DFK) or Multiple Positions of Sex (MPOS) or Bare Back Blowjob (BBBJ) or Cum In Mouth (CIM) or Dinning at the y and Y=pussy (DATY) or eating the ass (DATO) and keep in mind that all guys and all girls don't always click.

Book a girl incall or outcall whatever suits your fancy and your budget. I have never had a problem with language issue in Montreal. In fact I remember I was one of the first to see a few girls that were almost totally French speakers and it was not a problem. Many girls will drink a bottle of wine with you. Have one unopened and then open it in their presence and pour yourselves a drink in wine glasses that you may have to purchase or borrow from the lounge. Sit and talk for at least 5-10 minutes like you would a civilian girl and let the sexual tension build. I wear sweats/Warm-up like at a basketball game and then I abruptly stand up and rip them off in one tug like I've just been inserted into the game....all of a sudden I'm standing there in nothing but a black Speedo that says STALLION in white block letters across the cheeks and I say "cara mia" and I take her hand and start kissing her up and down the arm.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

I wear sweats/Warm-up like at a basketball game and then I abruptly stand up and rip them off in one tug like I've just been inserted into the game....all of a sudden I'm standing there in nothing but a black Speedo that says STALLION in white block letters across the cheeks and I say "cara mia" and I take her hand and start kissing her up and down the arm.

Bahahahaha. It would make a great video.

 

[The Nature Boy]

If you got a little cash I’d start with Sasha Johansson or Sonia von sacher, they can walk you through everything. Sonias got an assistant who can answer a lot of your questions. They advertise in the independent section

 

[hungry101]

+1 for Sasha. You cannot go wrong with her and she has the heart of a teacher. I haven't met Sonia but I hear good things.

 

[C.B. Brown]

Hi there gents,

So i'm embarking on hiring an escort for the first time, at 47 years of age.
RF

See your docter, get some Cialis.

 

[PSE.DUDE]

In your case I recommend doing your homework. Make sure you know what it is you want. Since you've never done this you will be nervous, that's for sure. I would start with a classy Massage Parlour like Masacarade. (stay away from Karina, Sasha and Chanel are good) There you will combine a relaxing environment with some proximity. Once that barrier will be crossed you will feel better in booking a more adventurous date with an SP. Like I said, do your homework, you will minimize the odds of being disappointed. It's all about making sure you know what you want and need, GFE, PSE or kinky. Also have a fixed budget and stick to it, again minimizing the risk by doing so. When dealing with indies, make sure you read their web sites and follow them on Twitter, it will give you an idea of how to approach your communication with them as well as their personalities. As for specific ladies, yes Sonia is good but you will have to jump through hoops to meet her and she is quite expensive. There is always Alison Lafontaine. She is a pro, likes it soft, has good skills and is more reasonable budget wise. I don't know about her english though as she is from Paris. As for Incall or Outcall there is no good or bad way to go. Choose the lady and adapt to her services. Last but not least, once you've crossed the line you can never come back... so make sure you really want to do this.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Sonia and Sasha are definately 2 great provider , i totally recommand them as well.

Otherwise my advices in a nutshell...

1) Book a reputed indy or use one of the well known and good agencies advertising here on merb. Avoid classified ads site as they are a mine field (if you know what you are doing, it can work, but there a lot of Bait and switch, fake ads etc)

2) Incall or Outcall? You pick. Outcall is my preference as i can take my shower before she arrive, relax and get ready. Incall well you go there, so you have to drive, take the subway/walk in the heat or cold depending on season, it feel a bit more "rushed" to me as you need to shower right when you arrive and the timer start has you pass the door but some guys prefer it for discretion and removing the fee of the hotel room.

3) Always make sure to know whats allowed, whats off limit etc. If you want something specific, ask if its ok, if its an extra etc. Normally in the good agencies GFE (BBBJ, LFK/DFK, DATY) is standard so it should not be an issue (obviously you need to be well showered, use moutwash etc) but cim/cof or anal is usually an extra (but not always). You can ask all these details in the introduction chat wich should be between 5 and 10 mins.

Other than that relax and enjoy. I mean i still remember the first time i saw someone, i was nervous as f*ck so i can certainly understand if you are, but remember they are there to make sure you have a good time and if you pick one of the "stars" you have nothing to worry about.

 

[The Nature Boy]

if you pick one of the "stars" you have nothing to worry about.

keep in mind someone whom one guy regards as a star might not be for you. There are a lot of unsung stars out there who are great providers. Do your research, look @ reviews, look @ who writes them, sometimes it’s same stuff with names switched. Most importantly talk to bookers. Sam from XO and James from euphoria are great resources.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Altough there is many providers that are excellent wich don't get mention enough, that is true, what i said stand that if you go see one of the "stars" you are more than likely to have a good time. I mean physical preference is obviously sugestive and this you can see by the pics, so i get that one guy ATF may not be the type the guy is seeking but her attitude, her service, is still awesome.

 

[micsmy]

..... Last but not least, once you've crossed the line you can never come back... so make sure you really want to do this.

This sounds a bit dramatic. I'm a noob as well thinking about this, but this closing line has me now even more nervous. Can you elaborate on what you meant?

 

[Fradi]

Don’t worry about it, there is no such thing as you can’t go back.
Enjoy yourself and have fun that is all there is to it.
The women are gorgeous most go out of their way to please you if you are respectful with them.
You can’t go wrong if you pick a well reviewed agency or Indy in Montreal.

All this bs about not being able to go back is nonsense.
A one time encounter with an escort is not love for a lifetime.
It may be the best sex you have ever had, but that is what happens when you see a gorgeous professional.

 

[hungry101]

Hello Newbies. Welcome to MERB. We need your participation and we welcome you.

I have one regret about this hobby: I regret not starting 10 years earlier.

 

[hungry101]

keep in mind someone whom one guy regards as a star might not be for you. .

Gosh now this is going to sound a bit dramatic: Sasha Johansen is everybody's favorite. Best hour I've ever had.

But you are correct. Try to get to know the booker. Develop a report. It was easy getting to know James because I met him at all the GG parties and he was the antithesis of the stereotypical agency owner. In fact he was a hobbyist. The same is probably true for Uncle Sam who had reviewed a lot of girls in his days. Don't forget James and Matt etc. Montreal agency owners enjoy talking up their girls. In GTA they have little time for this. You think you are at the DMV.

 

[WilliamStub]

Please forgive me for all the questions and neediness, but I really want my first experience to be a good one. RF

Hey Friction0010. I apologize if your question seemed trivial to some members... I can certainly understand that your confidence can be a bit shaky after a bad relationship. It can lead to all kinds of uncertainty. I once thought I had erectile dysfunction when it was really only nerves and self-confidence (after a bad relationship) getting in the way of me enjoying sex.
The truth is, it's highly likely your first time with an SP, that you will be nervous, and it is also possible that, as a result, your experience will not be stellar because you are not comfortable with the person, especially if your confidence is shaken at the get go.

So my advice is to own it and be up-front about your nervousness to (a) an independent SP that is highly rated or vouched for by the members of this board, or (b) with the booker at one of the agencies that we also vouch for here (ie: XO or Euphoria). Their reputation on merb.cc is based on providing good service, and they'll know who to refer to you (or how to make you more comfortable and happy) if you're nervous. If you go through the encounter and aren't enjoying the encounter to the level you expected/hoping for, ask yourself if it's because of a lack of chemistry (don't repeat) or simply because you were nervous and not sufficiently intimate. If it's the second, and you feel like the girl was nice and that you'll feel more comfortable / less nervous next time, maybe that's your simple answer out of your predicament. Remember that for the SP - they deal with this (nervous clients -- clients that are too nervous to get hard, paranoid of being seen, etc...) *all* the time. Those are typically the 'good' (respectful/good hygiene) ones. They won't mind it if things aren't perfect and will be encouraging/supportive (otherwise -- merb is exactly where you should rate them poorly for it).
However - their time is also at a premium, so that's something you should also respect in turn. It's not their fault if you're taking longer and they have a schedule as well. Don't have unrealistic expectations about how perfect the encounter will be and you'll have a good time. Sometimes it takes more than one encounter to get comfortable / have good chemistry.

As to whether to make an in-call into your airbnb or an out-call, certain independents don't go to private residence until they've met you at least once. But otherwise, outside of that edge case, I think you should prioritize what makes you feel most comfortable. If having an SP in your home makes you nervous, than go in-call. If going to their private residence also makes you nervous, you can always take a hotel room at the Omni and meet a girl before deciding to invite her to your flat. The possibilities are only limited by your wallet. Please do write back to tell us of your adventures .

W.

 

[friction0010]

Thanks very much, this is really helpful, especially " Last but not least, once you've crossed the line you can never come back... so make sure you really want to do this."

 

[Anwar]

With an SP, having low confidence is not an issue. These ladies are professionals; they see all types of men, they know how to read you and take care of you accordingly. My suggestion would be to avoid leolist, humpchies and other such advertising boards; stick to MERB advertisement threads and well-reviewed agencies.

In my experience, not all girls like to talk about acronyms (DFK, CIM, Greek etc.) upfront. They want the encounter to be like a real, romantic date. If you are nice and converse well with her, she will be more liberal with you. Some girls don't want to be reviewed like "great dfk, tight pussy, good fuck" in Merb, so respect their wishes. Some girls, however, are upfront about what they like and don't like and they expect you to frankly tell her what are your expectations from the encounter. All in all, follow the twitter thread of the girl to read her mindset and approach her accordingly.

Reading all this might make this seem intimidating, but believe me, seeing an SP is thousand times simpler than having a real relationship. You get to enjoy all the perks of a romantic relationship with none of the accompanying baggage!

Dive right in, and good luck!

 

[neverbored]

What kind of protocols or rules do I need to be aware of before going in?

Just be a nice guy and you'll be ok.

Is it possible for someone to describe to me the types of scenarios that I can expect?

The board is filled with them. Find a girl of interest, check out her thread and that will give you a pretty good idea of what to expect. Don't go crazy on the small details as YMMV (Your Mileage May Vary)

Is there terminology or code words I need to know about, and things I need to establish prior to committing to one particular SP/Agency?

Google for "escort acronyms" you'll find quite a few terms used in the industry.

I am in an airbnb by myself so is the best option to have her come here?

If you're dealing with a well known agency or girl, that's fine as long as your host dosen't have some kind of fineprint regarding guests.

Is "some english" listed in languages sufficient for meetings that won't necessarily involve a date/drinks/dinner where converstation is needed?

sometimes "some english" is all you get from the girls too

Lastly, Can anyone suggest a particular SP that will be best at accommodating me with my uncertainty, nervousness and general rookie behavior, that won't make me feel stupid or take advantage?

I don't think any reputable girl would make you feel bad, they are "pros" and know how to handle such situations.

I really want my first experience to be a good one.

If you're feeling anxious, you might want to consider taking 2h+ on your first meeting. You'd be surprised how quick an hour (minus shower etc) can runout on you.

Some things I usually try to keep in mind is to remember that the girls never know what they are walking into. To help put them at ease, there are simple things I do:

• I keep the entrance light on and I don't hide behind the door when answering.
• I also say something polite and normal when answering so neighbors don't think too much about it should someone be walking down the corridor.
• And if the girl really isn't to your liking or you feel her pictures weren't of her (dosen't happen with reputable agencies or girls) turn her away immediatly and expect to pay 20-40$ for the driver.
• Don't leave valuables in plain sight (remember she is a stranger)
• I usually have sealed bottles of water, wine and beer handy. Normally, a girl will never accept something from an open/unsealed container.
• I leave the money visible for them to take, often they will leave it there until the end. If you do pay in advance, don't accept her saying she needs to run down to get something with your cash in her possession (dosen't happen from reputable girls tho but I've read about girls leaving empty purses behind as collateral)
• If you see the girl isn't initiating you can simply ask, that's why she's there in the first place and may be following your lead (unelss she's intentionally doing it)
• If there are special things you want to confirm, I suggest you discuss it before she gets undressed.
• No means no (unless of course this is your thing and have discussed it with her prior for a fetish context)
• Depending on the girl, the BJ may be without condom , but NEVER ask for intercourse without one... that's a HUGE NONO.

Really in general it just boils down to not being a total creep.

Good luck and let us know how that went! I love reading about first timers for some reason.

Have fun!

 

[friction0010]

I appreciate all the replies gents. I think I've got plenty to go on now and feel like I can go in knowing pretty much what to expect and how to navigate the situation at the start. I'm pretty excited to do it, I can only imagine what it's like to be with one of these ladies who really knows what she's doing. Just gotta be sure not to be fooled into thinking I'm special or that anything she tells me is to be believed. I've dealt with my own trust issues enough to be grateful to know exactly what the deal really is, without preconceptions or suspicions about being deceived. It's kind of a relief. I only worry about liking it too much and becoming "hooked". Since I make a decent living and am pretty good with money, and have dealt with addictions of a different nature, this seems like it could be a slippery slope towards a healthy dose of sex addiction. Craving and the desire for sense pleasures + lustful thoughts are pretty exciting, enticing and alluring, so with this kind of access to something that seems truly exceptional and fun, where the only hindirence is your bank account, I can see how slippery the slope is pretty well from here. I'll keep researching and exploring this site and see where it takes me over the next few weeks, so stay tuned for the blow by BBBJ (if i manage to not chicken out!) ..... Again, much gratitude and appreciation for those of you who took the time to reply, you are good dudes.....

 

[jalimon]

I only worry about liking it too much and becoming "hooked". Since I make a decent living and am pretty good with money, and have dealt with addictions of a different nature, this seems like it could be a slippery slope towards a healthy dose of sex addiction. Craving and the desire for sense pleasures + lustful thoughts are pretty exciting, enticing and alluring, so with this kind of access to something that seems truly exceptional and fun

At least you realize the addiction risk. It's really high! If you live in Montreal it's dangerous.

Took me a while but now all girl I see are real trooper. I will not name names but when a girl kneels down in front of you, after like 30 minute of sex, open her mouth wide and orders you to explode in it so she can swallow you... Which she does with a huge smile... Men it gets to your head!!! Only did 2 sessions in the last 6 weeks because I need the detox. The hobby has been way too good haha

Be careful!