Hello all,
When I said one of your statements was a double standard that had nothing to do with whether others have double standards. Many do. SO?
Why does the effect of being "invasive" apply more to women than men. Sorry but in my view this is pre-sexual revolution chauvinism where basically it was thought proper for men to be unfeeling studs and women to be sensitive chaste vessels...no matter how matching that up calls out a big contradiction as well as a huge problem of fulfilling either role.
Your statement calls to mind a very old stereotype. I remember one scene from the old movie "Anne of a Thousand Days" with Genevieve Bujold playing Anne Boleyn. Anne is discussing her young life in Paris with her then fiance' Lord Percy Northumberland and his expectations for virtuous women. She admits she wasn't and asks about the same for him. His response is..."I'M A MAN".
It's so self-servingly hypocritical on any level...an archaic expectation that denies men and women are emotionally and instinctively built much the same.
Your view of "invasive" seems too close to that of machine parts. Most of the female posts on this board related to such issues speak of sex as far more than just the joining of body parts. Invasive includes sensual, emotional, etc. NOT which side is being plugged. Whatever you meant, this idea that women are more prone to feeling because of the difference in genitals has always been ridiculous to me. I've known many men whose reactions to sex were far more complicated than considered standard or macho, and many women who were far colder and brutal than chauvinistic stereotypes to ever apply the word invasive. Sure you can find plenty of individuals either way to match up to stereotypes, I know plenty of them myself, but when you say men versus women the average human being is very close in how they react to the physical and emotional aspects of sex regardless of gender.
Hungry101 wants to be dominated in his fantasy, so would I. LOL! But that is a characteristic sexual fantasy many men and women carry. It's still not the sum total of who they are in depth. I and most others have far more to them in reality concerning the opposite sex than sexual fantasies, and I'm sure it's the same for those who prefer the same sexual gender.
Both genders have feelings that are built in to react regardless of contrived views of machismo versus virginal sanctity. The idea that a man does not feel invaded because he penetrates flies in the face of why many of the men have come to this board. If you've read over time you can see how many have had their feelings hurt by women even though "he" does the physical penetrating.
You've also got to remember that reading this board is dealing with a rigged deck. The nature of the board is to attract those focused on sexual fantasy, purely sexual purposes, not those looking for relationships, and when they do seem to have interest in real relationships they usually get sharply ridiculed for not staying in touch with what the "sex industry" is there for. Yet despite the goals of the clientele and the those who service them so much on this board has still revealed that men and women are much the same in all ways despite some important differences.
You guuuyyys. :lol:
Really,
Merlot
When I said one of your statements was a double standard that had nothing to do with whether others have double standards. Many do. SO?
Why does the effect of being "invasive" apply more to women than men. Sorry but in my view this is pre-sexual revolution chauvinism where basically it was thought proper for men to be unfeeling studs and women to be sensitive chaste vessels...no matter how matching that up calls out a big contradiction as well as a huge problem of fulfilling either role.
Your statement calls to mind a very old stereotype. I remember one scene from the old movie "Anne of a Thousand Days" with Genevieve Bujold playing Anne Boleyn. Anne is discussing her young life in Paris with her then fiance' Lord Percy Northumberland and his expectations for virtuous women. She admits she wasn't and asks about the same for him. His response is..."I'M A MAN".
It's so self-servingly hypocritical on any level...an archaic expectation that denies men and women are emotionally and instinctively built much the same. Your view of "invasive" seems too close to that of machine parts. Most of the female posts on this board related to such issues speak of sex as far more than just the joining of body parts. Invasive includes sensual, emotional, etc. NOT which side is being plugged. Whatever you meant, this idea that women are more prone to feeling because of the difference in genitals has always been ridiculous to me. I've known many men whose reactions to sex were far more complicated than considered standard or macho, and many women who were far colder and brutal than chauvinistic stereotypes to ever apply the word invasive. Sure you can find plenty of individuals either way to match up to stereotypes, I know plenty of them myself, but when you say men versus women the average human being is very close in how they react to the physical and emotional aspects of sex regardless of gender.
Hungry101 wants to be dominated in his fantasy, so would I. LOL! But that is a characteristic sexual fantasy many men and women carry. It's still not the sum total of who they are in depth. I and most others have far more to them in reality concerning the opposite sex than sexual fantasies, and I'm sure it's the same for those who prefer the same sexual gender.
Both genders have feelings that are built in to react regardless of contrived views of machismo versus virginal sanctity. The idea that a man does not feel invaded because he penetrates flies in the face of why many of the men have come to this board. If you've read over time you can see how many have had their feelings hurt by women even though "he" does the physical penetrating.
You've also got to remember that reading this board is dealing with a rigged deck. The nature of the board is to attract those focused on sexual fantasy, purely sexual purposes, not those looking for relationships, and when they do seem to have interest in real relationships they usually get sharply ridiculed for not staying in touch with what the "sex industry" is there for. Yet despite the goals of the clientele and the those who service them so much on this board has still revealed that men and women are much the same in all ways despite some important differences.
Embiggens is a perfectly cromulent word!
You guuuyyys. :lol:
Really,
Merlot
