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Ladies for those of you who have changed names, persona and "rebranded" what have been the benefits, drawbacks and reasons? is it to change your service offer? Change your targeted clientele? leverage a ''new girl" image? security reasons? Do you hope / want your regulars to follow or is it about starting over entirely?
Thanks for your reply. I was thinking you had fellow SP’s you are in touch with sort of like myself knowing other contractors in a business circle , but I take it you don’t.
I don't drink when I am working. I prefer a clean living style when working. When I do drink I don't head out to work.
Agency girls have other girls in their agency they might get to know because they are exposed to eachother, but not always. Indies don't really have exposure to other SWers. With the exception of forums like here.
As a general rule, 3 things I never ask about are family/boyfriends, how much they make, and why are they escorting. Unless they bring those topics up in conversation themselves.
No because I don't feel comfortable on camera. If I went the only fans route, and could survive off that I would see no need to be escorting, preferring to not have to see strangers. But camera work isn't for me. I feel awkward in front of a camera, and need that someone else's excitement to get excited. I find it unsettling to being alone in a room with a camera. Besides I would have likely the worst onlyfans if I tried it.
-Questions that I find are a turn-off my childhood ( talk about abuse doesn't help set a mood) , or questions about my kids (I am protective over them and it will get me to build walls up and mistrust the person and their intentions)
-I don't tend to find any topic boring per say, as I am generally a nerd, and things many people find boring I find fascinating.
-When someone is fascinated in my relationship and wants to hear about my bdsm lifestyle with my master.
-Gaming
-and conversations about when I get to be in a mosh pit at concerts.
-Kissing seems to be my favorite icebreaker. It settles the nerves pretty quickly.
-If they are uncomfortable we can sit and talk for a bit. See what we have in common.
-As long as they are able to hold a conversation. (I tend to avoid people who don't speak English for that reason.)
-My finances and how much I make each day, or per week.
-Worst experiences while working.
-Or someone telling me they want to save me from this lifestyle. I know what it is to live on the other side, and it wasn't any better for me, to be honest I found my way back to this because I know how not suited I am to lead a regular life that others strive for, I just have trouble embracing myself and learning to enjoy this lifestyle after having a lifetime being made to feel shameful for being this type of person.
I've heard the same, but from browsing the subreddit that's open only to SP's. Watching them talk to one another about clients in general makes one want to quit the hobby lol.
I do, we just don’t talk about that because we are friends and would rather talk about our lives than the job.
Do you like having a few drinks with a client in a session?
Yes, however I always warn people to bring a small bottle if they want to bring wine or champagne because I’m not a heavy drinker and you’re gonna end up drinking the whole bottle by yourself if you bring a regular sized one.
Why is society worse after covid and getting worse everyday? How do you find meaning in a world devoid of it?
Why is society worse after Covid; because Covid lockdown forced us to look at the insanity of being work /debt slave for the World Banking system the majority of our useful lives. And from then on , most are resentful still being beholden / chained to the rat race of Western life , devoid of true passion , fulfillment and purpose .
To find meaning; forest bathing, sunrise/sunsets. Learn social dancing, especially Kizomba, for the social connection. Skin to skin intimacy , not necessarily sex , and human connection seems to be an unfortunate need however, to be happy and fulfilled, for most men. NDE experiencers have said you don’t get a “ meat suit” unless you have a Life Plan, so find your passion , something you love doing and feed the Light. Meditation or Reflection time. Depression and emptiness feeds the Dark. Check out Eckart Tole , RJ Spina, Mathias de Stephano. A lot of us are paddling in the same boat…
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I think everyone going into debt, and inflation has added to everyones problems.. also why politics is becomeing a much more relevant topic at the moment.
As for how to find meaning in it.. I'm at a loss myself on that one. Part of my issues for availability is because I am emotionally fragile, and deal with battleing depression myself at times. I was burnt out before getting back into this line of work. Which makes me more likely to pass on potential clients.
Doesn't mean I bring that energy to visits though. Often on visits I can get a glimps of the person I used to be, it's kind of like a switch when it is time to be social, but while I'm on my own it can be hard to deal with or try to have the drive to get going to do what needs to be done.
I don’t think it is worse.
How do you find meaning very easy if you have a loving family you spend time with your children and grandchildren, nothing beats being surrounded by your loved ones.
If you have a group of friends , you get together to play golf with have lunch with go on vacations life doesn’t have to be about survival and work only.
Too many people focus on politics what is wrong with the world etc.. instead of enjoying the simple things and their family.
I guess over time when you get older you realize what is really important to you and you blot out the rest.
Yes it also helps if you happen to know an absolutely gorgeous young lady and you can spend time with her occasionally.
Do SPs prefer overnight sessions in their own bed/room ?
I don’t invite clients home so no. Could be my incall or hotel, I don’t really mind.
I wasn’t clear. If you participate in overnight at a clients place or hotel. Do you prefer own bed or room for the overnight ?
Really wanted to know much sleep or do not disturb time you need for overnights
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