Ask us anything part 2

[Rebaynia]

This is a male ego thing and I kind of understand it. I don’t think it has anything to do with being disgusted more like I am good looking enough smart enough and girls like me enough why would I need or want to pay anyone.
I was kind of like that in my youth mainly because it was easy for me to date girls that I found attractive, I never pushed and wasn’t ever aggressive about wanting to get them into bed.
I was always of the opinion that what ever two consenting adults did is totally their business and nobody else’s I just never found the need to look for a professional as there were so many that were willing to be with me just for who I was.
Obviously when you get older a little bit wider you don’t have an athletes body any more but your taste in women hasn’t changed you still like the 25-50 year olds then you realize that seeing an SP is a pretty decent solution because it is not easy anymore more like impossible to attract these women which is perfectly normal and the way it should be.

The kind that struggle with the worst of the negativity, looking down on other men who have hired escorts and the like, is often someone who has origionally not been looking for a SWer, but somehow befriended one not from looking threw ads, and is still opposed to realizing other girls haven't paid them intrest in a while, and finding that they have been intrigued and desiring someone who is a SWer, and the only way to see her is to pay. Or not previously having been into SWers before, but finding out someone they have had a crush on since forever is available to them on those terms. The kind where they always thought themselves better then that, looked down on others for it, and are uncomfortable with the realization they are considering it now.

Someone who has put in the effort and found a girl online from looking has come to their own realization, and have already accepted that this is what they want and what they are searching out for. Not looking down on other men for doing it, but deciding that they are at a point it might be time to resort to such measures. Maybe reluctantly, but accepting to it.

Then there are also some younger attractive guys, often not from this part of the world where it is part of the norm to enjoy SWers even while in relationships because it is drama free. A SP won't get involved in trying to ruin his present relationship because she isn't satisfied just being the mistress. We won't be asking for more than the payment for the time when he contacts us for it.

 

[Nachoy]

Do you trust others to help screen new clients and book clients appointments Or do you prefer to do that?

 

[AirBo]

What is the best gift you ever received from a client? Not necessarily the most expensive but the one that touched you the most.

I'm sorry if this was asked and answered before. Those threads are very popular and for good reasons. Feel free to redirect me to the appropriate post(s).

 

[LC18]

What is the best gift you ever received from a client? Not necessarily the most expensive but the one that touched you the most.

• A business class flight ticket to travel with my child

• Two movers so that I could give my old couch to a family in need.

• Books and a bookshelf for my child

• Not a gift but all the gentlemen who admitted saving for weeks to spend time with me. It always makes me melt.

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you trust others to help screen new clients and book clients appointments Or do you prefer to do that?

I don't trust anyone else to set up appointments for me. They aren't the ones stepping into the room with the guy, so aren't as invested as i am in being sure i will enjoy the time with the client.

 

[AirBo]

What is the best gift you ever received from a client? Not necessarily the most expensive but the one that touched you the most.

• A business class flight ticket to travel with my child

• Two movers so that I could give my old couch to a family in need.

• Books and a bookshelf for my child

• Not a gift but all the gentlemen who admitted saving for weeks to spend time with me. It always makes me melt.

I like that all your points are mostly about others. Your child, a family in need, gentlemen who save for weeks.

You obviously are a very descent, respectful and caring woman.

And it doesn't hurt that you're beautiful too

Thanks for the reply

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Do you trust others to help screen new clients and book clients appointments Or do you prefer to do that?

I do not! I need to do it myself since it's not only the information the client gives you that is important but the whole interaction. I have never worked for an agency and when I think about the screening, it's the part that makes me want to stay independent forever.

 

[AirBo]

I don't trust anyone else to set up appointments for me

I do not! I need to do it myself

Basic rule of thumb in this shady business

 

[Rebaynia]

Basic rule of thumb in this shady business

A bookers job is to set up bookings, not be sure that the chemistry and person being seen is compatible. They aren't the person who is being put in a dangerous position if the person being seen has malicious intent. They don't have the same drive in arranging appointments, other then just make appointments.

 

[Nerdsome]

Do you do pelvic floor exercises? Like kegels?

 

[LC18]

Do you do pelvic floor exercises? Like kegels?

Yes, I have a device that I can use and will show me on my phone if I’m doing the right thing or not. I’d be happy to show you in person if you’re curious.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Do you do pelvic floor exercises? Like kegels?

I do not. I know I don't need those exercises as my pelvic floor is toned enough, having an overactive one would do the opposite of good as I could have pain during intercourse or never be able to empty my bladder properly, for example. Those exercises are better when prescribed, when needed, and could be after delivery, for organ prolapse or when having urine leakage.

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you do pelvic floor exercises? Like kegels?

I used to. These days it seems to be something the body does on it's own without trying.

 

[Nachoy]

How do you get rid of clients that when you initially screen was okay but for whatever reason after meeting turns out not someone you would want to continue to service as a paying client ?

 

[Mefy]

LADIES:

1- Would you date a guy shorter than you?
2- How is sex with a shorter guy than you?

Demoiselles :

1- Sortiriez-vous avec un homme plus petit que vous ?
2- Comment se passe le sexe avec un homme plus petit que vous ?

Women usually want tall men.
Les filles aiment les grands hommes.

 

[Rebaynia]

How do you get rid of clients that when you initially screen was okay but for whatever reason after meeting turns out not someone you would want to continue to service as a paying client ?

I have had creep vibes before, often they also gave a false apartment number. I refused to enter the apartment, and just left. Seeing as payment isn't done in the halls, and I don't accept deposits, I could just walk away, unpaid, but better safe than sorry. I get there is fear in giving a stranger your address, but I have more fear that you have bad intentions and what can happen to me if I am being intentionally mislead.

If I've had the visit and didn't enjoy the time with him, and he contacts me again, I will straight up tell him I'm not interested in a repeat visit, why, and to contact someone else.

 

[LC18]

LADIES:

1- Would you date a guy shorter than you?
2- How is sex with a shorter guy than you?

Demoiselles :

1- Sortiriez-vous avec un homme plus petit que vous ?
2- Comment se passe le sexe avec un homme plus petit que vous ?

Women usually want tall men.
Les filles aiment les grands hommes.

1. I’m 5’2 so not a lot of men are shorter than me. I’ve had men my height but never been with someone shorter I think.

2. Same as with taller men

 

[Rebaynia]

LADIES:

1- Would you date a guy shorter than you?

I have dated taller and I have dated shorter, it doesn't make a difference unless he has an issue with it. A shorter guy with confidence is hot, but when the guy is insecure about his hight, it sucks.

2- How is sex with a shorter guy than you?

Depends on the position. And even then most positions are adaptable.

Women usually want tall men.

Maybe when I was younger. But I'm 5'5" and call myself perfect hight. (I have a laundry list of reasons why I say that.) I can't say it's a perfect hight and then criticize someone else around my hight.
Besides what a crick in the neck to look up all the time. Only time it really makes a difference is when spooning.

 

[Nachoy]

I don't understand the SD, SB thing. I've had a few guys looking for a SB contact me and then say "I don't want you seeing other SD's." Like I'm advertising as an escort, what do they expect? That I am going to stop working and they will hand over thousands per month? Pay all my bills, get me out of debt, and help pay to raise my kids? While I have a bf. I don't get the mindset.
Especially when advertising as an escort, not advertising to even be a SB. And then being insulted when I say I can't dedicate myself to being their SB.

As for johnarchy, I have seen a few who seem disgusted with themselves that they reached a point of paying for sex, as if it makes them disgraceful to have stooped so low. Just because you never have had to before, doesn't mean there is something wrong with it.
Besides there are parts of the world where it seems to be common place to be with SP till you find the girl you intend to marry, to satisfy carnal needs instead of sleeping with everyone they date, and having them demand marriage because you got to bed them. (The mindset of sleep with the SP, and marry a virgin)

There are posts on ISG about guys preferring to find SB and often going to low social economic countries to find I can understand that many these girls in Latin American are looking to get out their country and marry an North American by being a SB so really can’t compare to local scene
The local SB scene is a bit different. I think. Yes there are few guys in TERB that prefer it I think main reason cause they like the chase and rolling the dice and the possibility of BB. Don’t really think that extra leg work in the find a SD/SB is any better or worse or higher status. Just different Not really a Johnarchy in my opinion

 

[Rebaynia]

There are posts on ISG about guys preferring to find SB and often going to low social economic countries to find I can understand that many these girls in Latin American are looking to get out their country and marry an North American by being a SB so really can’t compare to local scene
The local SB scene is a bit different. I think. Yes there are few guys in TERB that prefer it I think main reason cause they like the chase and rolling the dice and the possibility of BB. Don’t really think that extra leg work in the find a SD/SB is any better or worse or higher status. Just different Not really a Johnarchy in my opinion

Refering to johnarchy was just refering to some men who participated in SW in some forms, and look down on the kinds of men who call escorts. Like the man who pays for OF, and criticizes the guy who pays to have a girl arrive at his door instead. Both are paying a SP for self gratification. And I tend to think of SD/SB looking for some monogamous version of SW. They may look down on others doing the same thing but because it isn't just dedicated to 1 person we are all awful people. When really we are all just doing what works best for ourselves, and no one should feel entitled to pass judgement on anyone else. And we also need to forgive ourselves and not pass judgement on ourselves as well for doing something that we find a need. Connecting with someone of the opposite sex, and for some the same sex, is just a basic human need.