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[FrenchSecrets]

Not important.

It is not my moment, it is yours! And often, clients confuse pleasure with orgasm. One of the things that turns me off the most is when a client says that he won't come before I do. I come when I feel I want to, because the moment and our energy get me there, not because I am physically stimulated or we ask me to. I do not come every time I have intercourse, and pressuring me to orgasm is setting yourself up for failure. Sex to me is far more than an orgasm. I find pleasure in many ways during our encounter, and it's not only sexual!

I don’t know why some men settle down and then there is no sex or bjs anymore and they are stuck in a situation they cannot get out of cause they are tied down with money with the wife! I know of one guy as he could have a blast with some great women on here and his wife makes excuses not to have sex ! It’s better to be free and explore I find!

 

[runninggag123]

I already did twice in the past. But right now I do not feel like it. I don't really like to have this kind of relationship with my colleagues (paying them) but this could change depending on the situation. I am always afraid I would contribute to the exploitation of someone so I would be very specific in who I choose to hire. I do like when my colleagues hire me, I feel extra special and lucky

I think many of us here do not want to contribute to the exploitation of anyone either, so, if you don’t mind me asking, what are the signs you look for to assess whether someone is being exploited?

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

I think many of us here do not want to contribute to the exploitation of anyone either, so, if you don’t mind me asking, what are the signs you look for to assess whether someone is being exploited?

Well Indy Companion is a good start as we are a community and providers need to be independant to join. Of course we don't know what happens in their home, etc. but they do need to attend in-person meetings with our committee members. After that... you need to do your research, is the person active on social medias, seem to have community, etc... but you can't really know for sure. Sex work is a spectrum and we all have different approach or reasons for doing this work. It is tricky. For me, I really went with the vibe of the website and how they present online and in person when I met them during social events.

 

[Rebaynia]

I don’t know why some men settle down and then there is no sex or bjs anymore and they are stuck in a situation they cannot get out of cause they are tied down with money with the wife! I know of one guy as he could have a blast with some great women on here and his wife makes excuses not to have sex ! It’s better to be free and explore I find!

There is a difference between sex and love. Maybe his wife isn't able to have sex because it hurts, but still loves and cares for him.
It isn't always as black and white as people outside the relationship may think. There is also a sense of security in marriage. If he's ill she is there to take care of him. He isn't alone. Hiring a girl for just an hour isn't going to love and care for him the same way. And after years with someone, sometimes it's hard to imagine what life would be without that person.

 

[FrenchSecrets]

There is a difference between sex and love. Maybe his wife isn't able to have sex because it hurts, but still loves and cares for him.
It isn't always as black and white as people outside the relationship may think. There is also a sense of security in marriage. If he's ill she is there to take care of him. He isn't alone. Hiring a girl for just an hour isn't going to love and care for him the same way. And after years with someone, sometimes it's hard to imagine what life would be without that person.

Actually he is very frustrated and upset! She would not be with him if he did not bring in what he is bringing! She is using him but he does not care as he does not want to be alone! That is not a situation to be in! Also, she was doing the pleasing in the beginning but once she got things she stopped! The thing is there is no love only on his side!

 

[Jaxan]

At times, do you ever feel like you walk a fine line between a sex therapist and a mental health therapist? Hope the extra services are included in the rate, lol

 

[Nachoy]

How do you deal with hurtful feelings that can result from others in your “normal” life when he/she finds about your secret job, and makes negative “slut shaming” comments ?
Have you had a client shame you for what you do?