not sure which is worse, premature ejaculation or not being able to stay erect and/or cum...I have had both. I'm like geroge costanza.
for me it was (and still is to some extent) the start and stop technique. If you can enter without ejaculating your half way there. Once in, dont move. When you feel like you have some controle, you start slowly the thrusting. As soon as you feel the cum starting to move, you stop, while staying inside, you wait. It can take 30 seconds each time, even a minute, but it will subside enough to start over again, slowly.
You would be surprised how this can prolong intercourse for 5, 10, 15 or 20 minutes. Of course there is a lot of doing nothing during this time, but you are still inside her, which is better than being already finished. YOu can also do other things while inside and not moving like kissing and caressing, even talking. Its fuckin fantastic. However, you have to be with someone who understands and is willing to be patient with you. I have had a lot of sps purposely continue thrusting to make me cum (how devious
)...but most understand and enjoy helping you with your problem.
If you practice this you will improve, but it will still take time. if exclusively with sps, it will take dozens and dozens of encounters to see an improvement. It would go a lot faster with a girlfriend/wife.
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