What to tell a girl when she ask how your skills can be so good in bed...

[TheDon]

...especially when she knows you have not dated a girl in awhile and you are not the player type.

You can't possibly tell her you've been seeing escorts to keep your skills sharp during your downtime. Or can you?

It's quite the dilemma and makes me think that it is better to not show her all your best moves the first time you sleep with her and pretend to be rusty.

 

[westwoody]

I wish I had that problem.

 

[jalimon]

Haha me too! They usually find me a cool dude but that's about it... haha

Cheers,

 

[ssj3]

Lol count me in that group of wishing I had that problem too..I'd like to be seeing someone that's not an SP and get that compliment.

 

[clark_larson]

Tell her it's not me baby, it's us together...

 

[cobra1]

Well i guess it's nice to hear, but i take it
with a grain of salt
as long as she says i was nice,clean, and
she had a nice time/ rdv,

but i'll believe it a lot,lot
more from a non sp's.

 

[cloudsurf]

Cobra, he is talking about a non sp.

Simple answer ....just tell her that you are a natural born lover.

 

[CaptRenault]

....girls usually do not keep tabs in their head comparing guys skills.
If anything ,being usually more insecure then guys in their own bed prowess ,if expectations fall short they will blame themselves and if it is great they are just happy and won't question the source of the skills.
As I say to anybody you will listen, do not overthink things,it applies to sex,it applies to relations,stop looking for second and third meaning,just enjoy.

Lily, we guys often struggle to understand women, whether they be escorts or "civilians," and we never arrive at a full understanding of the fair sex. But you always enlighten us with your comments. You speak with the wise voice of experience and reason. Merci. :thumb:

 

[jalimon]

I had also wrongly read the OP. In the past few years I had a few adventure outside of sp. Well if none of them told me I was particularly skilled (because I am not really haha) pretty much all told me how at ease and easy going I was with sex. Many told me they never had a guy in there sex life taking a planned break after 30-40 minute or so, only to go back at it. A few told me I was an animal, not sure if it's good or bad haha

Since YOU CANNOT tell any girl you see SP on a regular basis I simply tell them I had a very active sexual life in my 20's and 30's and that she makes me feel like a 25 year old boy again

Cheers,

 

[detour098deleted]

I've told people the brain is the biggest sex organ.I play that anticipation mystery excitement game.I'm not big young or good looking or better than anyone else .I read the girls body language and make it different.So when women ask your really good.I say I was in your head babe it takes 2 tango and like Jalimon said it takes lots of practice to get there.

 

[jalimon]

Well said detour

From now i will tell the girl i simply eat a lot of cucumber salad, works magic for your libido

 

[detour098deleted]

Here is a link about cucumber and it's Viagra kind of properties.Jalimon I will try thanks for advice.haha

http://www.express.co.uk/life-style...er-vegetable-natural-cure-viagra-side-effects

 

[FreeG]

Or simply say you read books/sites to learn more. And you listen to her to sense what's going well and what isn't.

 

[Doggyluver]

I really believe that it's pretty presumptuous to believe that just because you've been seeing escorts that you're great in bed. Stop and think for a moment, maybe all the escorts have been faking when you've been with them, ( it happens ) lol and maybe, just maybe you're awful in bed. I really believe that every woman and every man is different depending on who they are making love to. Stop being so egotistical and be humble when it comes to your prowess

 

[jalimon]

Love this thread haha

DoggyLover you are totally right. And wrong at the same time.

If you practice more you will improve no matter what. You will last longer. You will be more at ease (confidence is so fucking important). You will discover from a variety of different girl new stuff and do's and don't. So it's not only about being a perfect lover. Yes we maybe are still awful in bed (I think I am haha!) but all regular girl I saw in the past 2 year pointed something out to me about sex.

Now the main focus of the thread is what do you say to the girl? I have never met the type of girl who was willing to see an sp with me. Not yet at least. So no way in hell did I told them about sp.

Cheers,

 

[ssj3]

I really believe that it's pretty presumptuous to believe that just because you've been seeing escorts that you're great in bed.

I don't think he's being presumptuous if I'm reading his post correctly. He's saying that a non-SP is asking how he's that good when he hasn't seen anyone in a long time and he wants to know how to answer.

 

[jalimon]

Thanks CptRenault,you made my day...

Lilly to be honest I did not read your first post here because you started of saying you liked Clark's answer haha So I skipped...

Now I have read it and can only disagree with you. As per my own experience, all regular girls I saw past 2 years made some obvious comments about my "attitude", "act" and "performance", good or bad (most often bad but had fun anyhow). None kept it for themselves. Had to lie as what was the source to all of them...

practice is key here...

So much agree Telling you if everyone had a chance to fuck at least once a week violence and criminality would be down 50% and productivity would be up 50%!

Have a nice sunny day!

Cheers,

 

[heliragedeleted]

So much agree Telling you if everyone had a chance to fuck at least once a week violence and criminality would be down 50% and productivity would be up 50%!

Jal, you're too modest. Songs of your sexual feats r being sung by SP's as we speak!

But you're right, a bang a day keeps the doctor, policeman, lawyer, politician away, yes! I'm all for one SP a day rule.

Cheers

 

[Doggyluver]

I've learned over the years with the partners I've had that the biggest obstacle to over come is the lack of communication. I now make sure that I ask, what feels good to you ? What area of your body do you like touched ? Licked ? Sucked ? Do you like it hard ? Soft ? Romantic ? Down and dirty ? etc etc etc. Once a woman opens up you both enjoy amazing sex and it gets better and better. I once encountered an SP who when I started to ask told me that she thought her "Job " was about pleasuring me, not the reverse. I told her that pleasuring her was really giving me pleasure. She relaxed and we both enjoyed giving and receiving......for a long time. Sex is a 2 way street and if you travel in both directions there is no limit to what you'll discover.

 

[ssj3]

Jal, you're too modest. Songs of your sexual feats r being sung by SP's as we speak!

I agree..Jalimon is a stud with the ladies