Ask us anything part 3

philonius · Aug 2, 2025

Lunaseraphim said:
I've used my credit card to make reservations at spas and beauty salons because they get too many cancellations. It's annoying but that's how things are now. If I miss a therapist appointment I have to pay for it..

I have to send a deposit to my hairdresser as well. A lot of people here call SP scammers because they ask for deposits and advise against sending one but the truth is nowadays most freelance workers require deposits..

I don't ask for deposits personally but I get cancellations and during the slow season it can be annoying.

Oh I understand it, just didn’t think it was such a big issue for a restaurant as to warrant it. Makes sense, just seems a bit much.
For the record, I’ve never had an issue with deposits and never been scammed before but I’m not looking for the ‘best deal’ (ie. taking a chance on rando LL posts) and not concerned about the risk of losing a nominal sum so this doesn’t affect me.
~~So yeah, take my credit card for a resevation~~ I’M NOT SEEING ANYONE THAT REQUIRES A DEPOSIT/SCREENING, THATS HOWNTHEYNGGETYOU!!!1111

Oof, sorry, what was that?! I’ve been here too long, I think…

sigui01 · Aug 3, 2025

LC18 said:
What’s your favourite show on Apple TV+ ?

Slow Horses And Ted Lasso

themonk83 · Aug 3, 2025

philonius said:
This is a thing?! Weird. Because they charge a no-show fee?

Government now allows restaurants to charge, if they want, $10 per person if you no show

Boumbo · Aug 5, 2025

To fellow SPs, how open are you about your personal life (friends, family, projects, childhood etc) with clients?

Lunaseraphim · Aug 5, 2025

Boumbo said:
To fellow SPs, how open are you about your personal life (friends, family, projects, childhood etc) with clients?

It depends which client and what type of information. I do like to talk about my friends and positive aspects of my childhood, my interests and hobbies, etc. There are certain things I don't talk about with clients however, particularly if I know they are in contact with other clients and see many providers in Montreal. It doesn't mean that I don't like these clients, but people gossip even if there isn't malicious intent behind it.. There are some clients I've opened up to more, tho.

Giselle Montreal · Aug 5, 2025

Boumbo said:
To fellow SPs, how open are you about your personal life (friends, family, projects, childhood etc) with clients?

If I travel with a client, it's impossible not to talk about my personal life. We want to connect and have conversations about everything, get to know each other beyond the physical aspect. I don't withhold information; I don't think we can expect to remain private during an extended appointment or a trip.

Shorter appointments are not asking for the same level of openness to have a great moment, but also we don't have the time to go deeper, so I'm more private about my personal life.

Lunaseraphim · Aug 5, 2025

Giselle Montreal said:
If I travel with a client, it's impossible not to talk about my personal life. We want to connect and have conversations about everything, get to know each other beyond the physical aspect. I don't withhold information; I don't think we can expect to remain private during an extended appointment or a trip.

Shorter appointments are not asking for the same level of openness to have a great moment, but also we don't have the time to go deeper, so I'm more private about my personal life.

Ah yeah! That's another thing. During longer appointments connection is more likely to happen on a deeper level..

Rebaynia · Aug 5, 2025

Boumbo said:
To fellow SPs, how open are you about your personal life (friends, family, projects, childhood etc) with clients?

I don't have much of a filter. I talk freely for the most part. I can talk about kids as a parent, but I don't like the moment what gender of my kids comes up. I prefer clients see my kids as genderless. We can share our parenting and stuff, it comes up when with dads looking to share about their kids.

Or I will talk about what I do for my other job, but I don't like when they start to narrow it down to what location, or what name is on the front of the building.

I also tend to be protective of information on my friendships and colleagues. I am willing to talk about myself, but I am not willing to talk about them, beyond saying they are lovely people and mean a lot to me.

My relationship and it's dynamic is fine to talk about. It does seem to intrigue others, and is so much a part of who I am. Can't mistake the thick metal collar always present, It is worn like a badge of honor.

ChloeCoeur · Aug 5, 2025

Johnny test said:
Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages ), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers )

I try and remember to ask everyone who books me where they found me. Right now I am only posting on Tryst, X, and here. I think the ratio is probably something like 90+% Tryst, <5% from X, <5% merb.

So far, it doesn't actually make much sense economically for me to posting ads here hah, but of the people who have reached out, I find merbites to be more polite and informed than the average client. So here's to hoping more merbites in the future

Doublevie55 · Aug 7, 2025

All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

LeDodo · Aug 8, 2025

When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

jeffmathers · Aug 8, 2025

Doublevie55 said:
All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

My advice is to ask the person if they have a favorite or what their boundaries are about sex card games and then base it on that. Any card game can be made into a sex card game (poker, blackjack, etc for example). If you google some of these you might be able to find reviews. Since you have to buy the card game the most economical option might be to buy regular cards and turn a classic game into a sex card game.

Good luck

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LC18 · Aug 8, 2025

Doublevie55 said:
All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

I have one in my incall, let me take a photo

Doublevie55 · Aug 8, 2025

LC18 said:
I have one in my incall, let me take a photo

That would be really helpful. Thanks

LC18 · Aug 8, 2025

Doublevie55 · Aug 8, 2025

LC18 said:
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Thank you so much

Rebaynia · Aug 8, 2025

LeDodo said:
When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

This time around there was a learning curve to go threw.

When I was 18, and went threw an agency, they just straight up told me what ropes to follow, including don't trust my co-workers, unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there.

This time around i had outdated info from 20 years ago, and started in, diving head first into the deep end, by just straight up creating free ads online, wherever I was allowed. Screening, price, availability, complete proper use of a condom, everything was a learning curve.

jeffmathers · Aug 8, 2025

Rebaynia said:
This time around there was a learning curve to go threw.

When I was 18, and went threw an agency, they just straight up told me what ropes to follow, including don't trust my co-workers, unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there.

This time around i had outdated info from 20 years ago, and started in, diving head first into the deep end, by just straight up creating free ads online, wherever I was allowed. Screening, price, availability, complete proper use of a condom, everything was a learning curve.

"unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there." I don't understand

Lunaseraphim · Aug 8, 2025

LeDodo said:
When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

There was a learning curve about everything. Boundaries, how to talk to clients, marketing, branding, how to treat clients in person, how to deal with difficult situations and conflict, how to accommodate different types of people, etc. I feel like only in the past 6 months my boundaries as a SP have become firmly established and I know where I'm going in this industry or at least where I want to go.

As for STI, safe and less safe practices, it's fairly easy to find that information. Unfortunately most of the services except kissing and penetration with condom (and even with these there are risks) are unsafe.

LeDodo · Aug 8, 2025

jeffmathers said:
"unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there." I don't understand

Maybe something you can ask her in PM

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