Ask us anything part 3
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I wouldn't mind it... I have to pay for some ads in crypto so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You achieve that goal by implementing full decriminalization, not regulation. Regulation hurts the most vulnerable sex workers (and I said sex workers, not trafficking victims just to be clear).
There are already laws against trafficking. Adding rules and inviting the government in our bedrooms doesn't help anyone. But decriminalizing our industry completely would make it easier for victims to report crimes against them without fear of being treated like criminals too. Which would actually happen if we had regulations. Can you imagine a police officer asking a trafficking victim to show them her license? Or proof that she got tested recently? So anxiety inducing and could prevent so many victims from seeking the help they need.
Because victims do in fact get treated like criminals more often than not.
There's no way to guarantee it but we prevent it as best as we can by using safe sex practices and getting tested every 4 to 12 weeks that way we can detect and treat an STI early on and avoid transmitting it to a bunch of people.
Knocking on wood, I haven't caught an STI in the 9 years I've been doing this!
Edited to add : also fyi we moved from saying STD to saying STI because most are infections and only turn into diseases if left untreated. Disease is a much more stigmatized word that actually keeps many people from getting tested out of shame, so using the correct terminology is helpful
Oh well, I guess this was a question where the answers are best kept secretProbably a question already asked: how often have you ended up in a relationship with a client in your few or many years of career.
And I think the question can also be answered by merbites, have you dated an SP and if more than one in your years of hobbying, then how many?
Although, I understand if your answer is “a gentleman or lady never kisses and tells”
Although I’m surprised no merbites wanted to share if they ever dated one or more SPs over the years.
It’s a great feeling when your sp is just as safe as you!There's no way to guarantee it but we prevent it as best as we can by using safe sex practices and getting tested every 4 to 12 weeks that way we can detect and treat an STI early on and avoid transmitting it to a bunch of people.
Knocking on wood, I haven't caught an STI in the 9 years I've been doing this!
Edited to add : also fyi we moved from saying STD to saying STI because most are infections and only turn into diseases if left untreated. Disease is a much more stigmatized word that actually keeps many people from getting tested out of shame, so using the correct terminology is helpful
It's not being answered so will give my own situation. In Dom/Sub.
Domme, I'm still learning, I can do it with my partner but most men don't want the bf/master in the room understandably, and also have a duo partner to mentor me if the client is willing, otherwise the situations I have been in, I had to ask a lot of questions before the appointment to see if I could fill the role they were looking for. But if I have a domme power over someone, my inner beast refuses to ever let them get the upper hand. They could try, but will just be met with being shown their position is as the sub.
Sub, not so much. It takes a gfe visit first to see if the gent has the kind of personality and vibe I am willing to be submissive with. I very much find most men who call themselves Doms don't deserve the submission and unless it comes naturally from me, it just isn't going to happen, their in for a powerstruggle fight. Trying to be submissive if I don't feel it for the person, has me hating them by half way threw the visit and I just want it done then. So I refuse to agree to an initial first time visit as a sub, untill I know the gent gives the right vibe I need, to enjoy the submissive role with him. (It is a role I often keep for my relationship, as it takes a lot of trust for me.)
It isn't something I can play games with. It is why it depends on the chemistry I have with the gent. Upon meeting the first time for gfe, I know what position either of us has in the who's more dom or sub. Switching just isn't in me. I can't just treat it like a game. It is what it is within us already. I am really no good with playing pretend.
But I tend to think when someone writes dom/sub, they mean they can play either role. Its not necessarily both roles in the same visit, but most who offer both might likely, unlike me, be able to just switch easily.
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