I think there are a lot of factors on reaching orgasm. My stress level, how relaxed I am, how much I have orgasmed leading up to appointment. I don't like to drink alcohol before. I like to go through a period of at least 1 to 2 weeks of complete abstinence if I have an appointment coming up with an SP. Also, I try not to watch too much Porn. I think porn addiction is probably the most detrimental thing to good sex.yep. on average from penetration to ejaculation with total arousal and nothing impeding on orgasm with or without condom for men. women take about double the time to reach orgasm according to studies.
people need to stop using porn as reference or hearsay from their friends. everyone loves to overstate their prowess in bed
Also, I love to DATY and love to take instruction from the provider when something feels good for them or to try to learn different techniques. I recently saw the Nina Hartley, Sunny Lane video on DATY, and it was very eye opening. I once motorboated a girl in college during DATY and she thought it was the wildest thing on earth.