Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

I don't like it personally when there's a focus on me having an orgasm or not... I'm not going to elaborate on this. I think many other providers feel the same. it makes me feel pressured. I'm the same way in my personal life

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

I quoted your comment because I was too lazy to look for the initial question lol. I think it definitely makes sense for it to make bookings more enjoyable.

 

[Enjoying life]

When searching, I would suggest you search as woman for woman, and see who caters to both women and men for a bisexual+ provider.

Some providers specially advertise to couples because they understand the emotional connection they are fostering between the couple. Often a provider might wish to be contacted by your wife directly if these questions are being asked on her behalf.

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

 

[Rebaynia]

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

Thank you. It was taken with an SP friend just this past Thursday.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.

What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.

I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.

 

[Enjoying life]

Thank you. It was taken with an SP friend just this past Thursday.

Amazing!

 

[Enjoying life]

Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.

What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.

I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.

Luna is so kind!

 

[Enjoying life]

Luna is so kind!

Luna you look sensational with the colour black on you

 

[Sylar]

Serious question for SPs and Hobbyist

I haven’t seen a new SP for about 3 months now despite there being a few that match my interest a lot.
However I keep going back to the same SP, who at this point is my only (?!) repeat for the past 15 years. I guess I do have an ATF.
But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?

 

[LC18]

Serious question for SPs and Hobbyist

I haven’t seen a new SP for about 3 months now despite there being a few that match my interest a lot.
However I keep going back to the same SP, who at this point is my only (?!) repeat for the past 15 years. I guess I do have an ATF.
But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?

Whatever you do, don’t use tinder

 

[Rebaynia]

But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?

That is up to you. What do you want from the next steps of your life?
If you want a relationship, then aim for one, sounds like you have less addiction to the selection of SPs that others here seem to suffer from.
Or if you have been happy with life at the status quo, it's up to you if you want to find a new favorite.

What you should do, is up to you, and what you see as your goal in the next 5 years, since apparently you stick with things that work for a long time .

 

[Sylar]

That is up to you. What do you want from the next steps of your life?
If you want a relationship, then aim for one, sounds like you have less addiction to the selection of SPs that others here seem to suffer from.
Or if you have been happy with life at the status quo, it's up to you if you want to find a new favorite.

What you should do, is up to you, and what you see as your goal in the next 5 years, since apparently you stick with things that work for a long time .

Thank you for the thoughtful answer. The only constant in my life is constant change which makes a relationship very difficult. I guess this SP brings a bit of routine and status quo in my life, however it’s fully compartmentalized to the bedroom. We share private matters but there are clear boundaries which we both appreciate. I’ll give this additional thoughts and see where it will lead me.

 

[CuriousGent]

Quick but deep question:

If I were to message you to try to reconnect after our last date many months ago, what would be a good way to do so?

I usually reach out by email to an sp, so it would not bother me if you message me by email as well.

 

[Merbcc12345]

It goes without saying that we are all different, and as an indy it's pretty rare that I see more than one client in a day. It's also rare for me to not have at least one orgasm, usually I have quite a few, but I don't feel drained afterwards, just relaxed.

Thanks for a candid answer. I find it, in some cases, hard to tell real from fake. Some just blow me away totally… others leave me flat (no pun intended).