skywalker said:Elizabeth,
Absolutely! In fact, I think the best case is when both the hobbyist and the SP feel the same way about each other. That is chemistry, which leads to a short term relationship. That is the Holly Gail for a hobbyist. On the other hand, a long term relationship relies on “Trust” and “Honesty”.
The other point I’d like to make have to do with my choice of words:
“Sincerity” is a perception, however, it is not necessary based on facts. On the other hand, “Honesty” relies on some facts that have been checked out. Now, to be “genuine sincere” does not mean to be “brutally honest”. So those white lies between two parties become the essential part of the short-term relationship. It makes the fantasy comes true, an illusion no more.
It's all chemistry and circumstance. The lonely SP and the lonely hobbyist. They may not fall in love in the classic sense, but I have connected with SPs on a human level, even in Montreal where my native language and her native language was not the same, but we could communicate with her struggle with English. I took time to relate to a SP who was feeling somewhat depressed and overwhelmed. It uplifted me and her. But those moments are the exception and not the rule.
But I don't think it is possible to have a relationship with an SP as long as she is an SP and you are a hobbiest, because as it was said by Doc H. and Daringly, No money, no lady and no sex. A love relationship is where money is a responsibility taken on by both the woman and the man collectively. The moment you don't have money for her for the sex part, the relationship, the sex and she are gone.