Ask us anything part 3

jeffmathers · Aug 14, 2025

Fradi said:
What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol.
I don’t assume things if I have something to say I say it. i am pretty straight forward in what I think and don’t beat around the bush and don’t much care if people have a problem with it.

"What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol." a ton of stuff. Everything you were upset over is something I didn't say.

There is no explanation needed from me. If someone says they never assume things after assuming many things then it's a waste of time to explain.

My original post was "I wish there was a punishment for the merbites who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. They just post and spread their opinions without a care in the world."

Everything you disagreed with was something not said by me.

Lunaseraphim · Aug 14, 2025

2fast2slow said:
man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

It's saying the same thing in a way, but not exactly.. You can politely decline without clarifying that you don't find the person attractive anymore. It's not like clients are in a relationship with us, a lot of clients are just there for variety or for a short period of time. I have regulars and repeat clients, but a really large part of clients will see you a few times or for a period of time and then move on to someone else. It's not personal, they just want to try something different.

urquell · Aug 14, 2025

2fast2slow said:
man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

I think this depends in whether you would like to leave the door open to seeing her in the future or not, and I also find that ghosting just invites more messages that need to be ignored later on. I think that a diplomatic and acceptable explanation is simply to say that you've entered into a romantic relationship with someone and that you're not comfortable seeing others while you're in the relationship. That way if you choose to remain in contact with her virtually (platonically) you can and if you wish to see her again at a later time then you can end the "relationship" whenever you like. It's also an acceptable and face-saving approach that won't hurt her feelings in the least.

Fradi · Aug 14, 2025

Lunaseraphim said:
I don't want to be a white knight but he said that you misunderstood his sentence which is : ''there are clients here who harm providers in real life and then spread negative sentiments on the forum''.. which is the truth. There has been users of this forum, whose names I see frequently, who did non consensual and painful things to me or were very aggressive in person. Sometimes clients write positive reviews to avoid trouble from providers they harmed, and sometimes they are just overall negative and angry people. What don't you understand about this? If someone spends their time writing heinous shit about providers here and about how displeased they are with most of us, chances are they will not be the nicest people in real life either. It's the same thing with providers who constantly talk about how much they hate their clients on reddit etc as you were mentioning a couple weeks ago, would you want to see someone like this? Probably not.

Absolutely not an acceptable statement to make especially not as a generalized statement.
How the fuck does he know this is true and if it is then don’t be a pussy and name the person who is doing it and get him banned and allow SP to know and be safe.
Same goes with providers if someone has physically hurt you or been an absolute douche bag name him so that we all know, the people who care about women will support you and the ones that don’t you shouldn’t be seeing anyway.

I am sick and tired of these generalized White Knight statements meant for nothing else but to get an SP admiration and approval absolutely fucking pathetic.
I bet it doesn’t get anyone a free fuck lol.

LeDodo · Aug 15, 2025

Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

philonius · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

I'm interested to see what providers will say about this but the only overnight I had, I asked if she wanted me to take some pics/video with her phone and I kept myself out of them but they were so hot she ended up using them on her website and posted one of the videos on OF. Now I can view either and I'm transported back to that hotel room.

Lunaseraphim · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

Most of us don't want photos being taken.. I've only allowed it once, by an older gentleman who lives in the US and sees me once in a while. We know that clients have secret chats where they exchange private info and leak photos.. Of course it's all about trust and there are some SP who would be okay with it. After all, many of us have OF accounts, etc. I've made custom content for clients and there is little difference between that and allowing the person to film me or take pictures, but this isn't something I'm interested in doing anymore.

For me a part of it is about not feeling sure that the picture will be good and feeling self conscious, I've had clients take photos of me during dates with my own phone number and they were terrible lol.. Most people aren't great photographers.

LeDodo · Aug 15, 2025

philonius said:
I'm interested to see what providers will say about this but the only overnight I had, I asked if she wanted me to take some pics/video with her phone and I kept myself out of them but they were so hot she ended up using them on her website and posted one of the videos on OF. Now I can view either and I'm transported back to that hotel room.

You should ask for some royalties lol

LeDodo · Aug 15, 2025

Lunaseraphim said:
Most of us don't want photos being taken.. I've only allowed it once, by an older gentleman who lives in the US and sees me once in a while. We know that clients have secret chats where they exchange private info and leak photos.. Of course it's all about trust and there are some SP who would be okay with it. After all, many of us have OF accounts, etc. I've made custom content for clients and there is little difference between that and allowing the person to film me or take pictures, but this isn't something I'm interested in doing anymore.

Yes I think trust plays a lot in the request. I assume that a 1st time client might have his request declined whereas there is a slight chance with a regular...
Regarding materials circulating without consent this is bad and of course out of control.

I was wondering that privacy wise like if the pictures/videos avoid the face that would be more acceptable?

Lunaseraphim said:
For me a part of it is about not feeling sure that the picture will be good and feeling self conscious, I've had clients take photos of me during dates with my own phone number and they were terrible lol.. Most people aren't great photographers.

That's an interesting point here!

It might be a bit awkward to ask but I would have asked the picture taken until it satisfies you lol
I guess I don't have this problem because (stereotypically) Asians are more "skilled" or maybe self conscious about their outlook that they take better pictures lol
Plus for myself I used to take pictures as a hobby so you can hand me your phone for a photo hopefully without complain hahah

Rebaynia · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

Everyone is different. It would need to be a private conversation not a public one. I would think.

Lunaseraphim · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
Yes I think trust plays a lot in the request. I assume that a 1st time client might have his request declined whereas there is a slight chance with a regular...
Regarding materials circulating without consent this is bad and of course out of control.

I was wondering that privacy wise like if the pictures/videos avoid the face that would be more acceptable?

That's an interesting point here!
It might be a bit awkward to ask but I would have asked the picture taken until it satisfies you lol
I guess I don't have this problem because (stereotypically) Asians are more "skilled" or maybe self conscious about their outlook that they take better pictures lol
Plus for myself I used to take pictures as a hobby so you can hand me your phone for a photo hopefully without complain hahah

Obviously we are more likely to offer perks like photos to a client who is a regular.

However trust has to be earned, and someone being a regular or repeat client hasn't necessarily done something that deserves my full trust. I have pretty good intuition and I also understand that no one is 100 percent good or evil. Someone could breach trust without meaning to. Unfortunately I am less likely to trust a client who spends a lot of time on this forum with something like this or with more personal information... I've made the mistake of doing that and I regret it now.

Rebaynia said:
Everyone is different. It would need to be a private conversation not a public one. I would think.

This. Honestly we are very few providers here to answer questions or offer information about our experiences in the industry.. None of us represent the majority. When I answer questions or bring up subjects here I try to think about a lot of providers I know, but it's still not enough.

Rebaynia · Aug 15, 2025

philonius said:
I'm interested to see what providers will say about this but the only overnight I had, I asked if she wanted me to take some pics/video with her phone and I kept myself out of them but they were so hot she ended up using them on her website and posted one of the videos on OF. Now I can view either and I'm transported back to that hotel room.

I'm sure she appreciated the opportunity.

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It has happened on days I feel exceptionally cute, to ask my visit before the session, to take my picture please.

I have even had the occasional one who handed me lingerie and asked if they could take a photo of it with my phone, and I would ask Master if he was willing to let them have a copy. Master would ask me how it went, and did I want to? They often had tipped when this happened, so was a gift back as a thank you. Not showing the goodie bits, and if I really liked the photo I would use it in ads after.

Is it sapposed to be cliché to show moments with clients if they are also looking forward to contribute to their desired providers success?
When it plays into their desires too?

philonius · Aug 15, 2025

Rebaynia said:
I'm sure she appreciated the opportunity. .
It has happened on days I feel exceptionally cute, to ask my visit before the session, to take my picture please.

I have even had the occasional one who handed me lingerie and asked if they could take a photo of it with my phone, and I would ask Master if he was willing to let them have a copy. Master would ask me how it went, and did I want to? They often had tipped when this happened, so was a gift back as a thank you. Not showing the goodie bits, and if I really liked the photo I would use it in ads after.

Is it sapposed to be cliché to show moments with clients if they are also looking forward to contribute to their desired providers success?
When it plays into their desires too?

Yeah, we were talking about how she had no candid pics, they were all photoshoot or super sultry, and I said her smile was something others should see bc it made her more approachable so we did a few in bed, duvet covering the important bits, then some in the see-through shower (shout out W Hotel) and against the window that were risque, while trying to make her laugh/smile. I'm not a great photog but I know a good pic when I see it.

She said other people loved those pics/videos and it had the desired effect: I get the pride and memories of our time and it created more bookings and made some revenue on OF for her. That's a win/win in my book. I know some people don't like it when providers post pics of other dates/other gifts they've received but personally I love seeing/hearing about our time anonymously on social media or otherwise.

Lunaseraphim · Aug 15, 2025

philonius said:
Yeah, we were talking about how she had no candid pics, they were all photoshoot or super sultry, and I said her smile was something others should see bc it made her more approachable so we did a few in bed, duvet covering the important bits, then some in the see-through shower (shout out W Hotel) and against the window that were risque, while trying to make her laugh/smile. I'm not a great photog but I know a good pic when I see it.

She said other people loved those pics/videos and it had the desired effect: I get the pride and memories of our time and it created more bookings and made some revenue on OF for her. That's a win/win in my book. I know some people don't like it when providers post pics of other dates/other gifts they've received but personally I love seeing/hearing about our time anonymously on social media or otherwise.

Honestly if a client was truly skilled at photography and it was in a setting like a hotel room or another place that isn't my incall, I'd definitely let him take candid photos of me.

What I'm more uncomfortable with is graphic photos. When I first started escorting I had a client who wanted to take pictures of my face every time he came all over it, and I knew how exciting this was for him but who knows what happened with these photos...

LC18 · Aug 15, 2025

I don’t allow photos or videos. Even with my own phone I’m not a fan, I just don’t like when people take photos of me because they keep shaking and don’t have the same artistic vision as I do. Whenever I did, I ended up deleting them and never using them

Lunaseraphim · Aug 15, 2025

LC18 said:
I don’t allow photos or videos. Even with my own phone I’m not a fan, I just don’t like when people take photos of me because they keep shaking and don’t have the same artistic vision as I do. Whenever I did, I ended up deleting them and never using them

Exactly

LeDodo · Aug 15, 2025

LC18 said:
I don’t allow photos or videos. Even with my own phone I’m not a fan, I just don’t like when people take photos of me because they keep shaking and don’t have the same artistic vision as I do. Whenever I did, I ended up deleting them and never using them

So in the eventuality you somehow allowed picture taking it would have to be a photo that you thought nice that will make it keep them?

philonius · Aug 15, 2025

LC18 said:
I don’t allow photos or videos. Even with my own phone I’m not a fan, I just don’t like when people take photos of me because they keep shaking and don’t have the same artistic vision as I do. Whenever I did, I ended up deleting them and never using them

Why do they keep shaking Lena? Sounds like it might be partially your fault lol.

LC18 · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
So in the eventuality you somehow allowed picture taking it would have to be a photo that you thought nice that will make it keep them?

No

philonius · Aug 15, 2025

LeDodo said:
You should ask for some royalties lol

The work is its own payment lol. It's just hot to know that I was even there and watched it unfold with my own eyes.

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