Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

It would never cross my mind to ask such questions but it did popped up during some conversations, always coming from the girls. But they were 2 very regular providers. I think it is just normal after several meetings and so much time spent together.

For sure! I always get caught offguard when it's a new client.

 

[DouMan]

Question for clients. During bookings I often get asked certain questions. Some of them come up more often than others, and I think the most common is ''are you dating right now?'' or ''do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend?''.. Why do clients ask me this, and does the answer even change anything? (Just to be clear I'm not dating currently, but if I was seeing someone I certainly wouldn't be announcing it)

Personal questions of the sort should never be initiated by the John, in my opinion.

Multiple reasons could be behind such questions from a simple faux-pas of an unexperienced gentleman, a person seeking to go further on a sexual freebie, even looking for emotional loopholes to manipulate etc.

In any case I would think that politely answering with something like "I prefer keeping my personal life totally seperate from my professional life in order for us to experience the best possible quality time during our rendez-vous".

If a gentleman he should let go and move on graciously. If not and he continues to prod, red flag.

 

[bobbyc]

i would never ask that what if she answers is yes i don't see how that makes it a better session from there on

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Personal questions of the sort should never be initiated by the John, in my opinion.

Multiple reasons could be behind such questions from a simple faux-pas of an unexperienced gentleman, a person seeking to go further on a sexual freebie, even looking for emotional loopholes to manipulate etc.

In any case I would think that politely answering with something like "I prefer keeping my personal life totally seperate from my professional life in order for us to experience the best possible quality time during our rendez-vous".

If a gentleman he should let go and move on graciously. If not and he continues to prod, red flag.

Oh, don't worry about me! I'm not affected by this at all emotionally and I'm definitely not interested in pursuing anything with a client. I was more wondering what it would change for them if I actually answered ''actually yes I have a partner'', not that I ever would if I did.

 

[Zoe_Sixxx]

Oh, don't worry about me! I'm not affected by this at all emotionally and I'm definitely not interested in pursuing anything with a client. I was more wondering what it would change for them if I actually answered ''actually yes I have a partner'', not that I ever would if I did.

Now I'm curious about the reverse. Do you ask clients about their relationship status? Do many clients bring it up themselves, unprompted? Is it information you want to know or not? Does it change anything?

I'm guessing it's more common and acceptable to discuss the client's relationship status since the SP/client relationship can often be similar to a therapist/patient relationship.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Now I'm curious about the reverse. Do you ask clients about their relationship status? Do many clients bring it up themselves, unprompted? Is it information you want to know or not? Does it change anything?

I'm guessing it's more common and acceptable to discuss the client's relationship status since the SP/client relationship can often be similar to a therapist/patient relationship.

I don't usually ask that question because I'd honestly rather not know, even tho I understand that realistically I am going to have clients who are married and may not be honest with their wives. Some clients do bring it up, saying things like ''I haven't had intimacy with my wife in a long time....'' or ''my partner is asexual and we came to an agreement together''. A lot of clients bring up that they are lonely and single.

I don't exactly view myself a therapist and I certainly don't have the qualifications for this, but I also see what you mean, there is a big part of the job that comes with listening and being empathetic and understanding the client's needs. In that sense it does help to know where the person is coming from and why they are seeking my services. I'm not here to judge.

 

[LC18]

Do you ask clients about their relationship status?

Don’t ask, don’t tell.

If they tell me I don’t really care though. I’m just hoping they’re smart enough to not get caught because I don’t want to deal with a broken hearted wife :/

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Don’t ask, don’t tell.

If they tell me I don’t really care though. I’m just hoping they’re smart enough to not get caught because I don’t want to deal with a broken hearted wife :/

THIS!! 100%. This is why I don't ask, and honestly, I'd rather not know. Everyone has a different moral compass and some people don't view seen a SP as cheating, some do. Some wives know their husbands see SP's, some don't. Even if a client says he has an arrangement with his wife he might be lying.

 

[hob12]

some people don't view seen a SP as cheating

Some people like to lie to themselves.

 

[Nachoy]

How do SP stay fresh in their vagina? Almost all SPs I meet have no fishy odor. Whenever i have sex with a civie, I say 50% of the time I can smell fish.
Is there some type of showering technique that you do to keep the pussy nice and fresh?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I let it do its thing naturally. Vaginal douche and all are not good for the vagina. You better leave it alone. We could say that good life hygiene, drinking enough water and eating somewhat well help keep our body in homeostasis and is good advice for everyone. Edit: also, not everyone knows how to listen to their body, including knowing what their regular smell is. Keeping in touch with our sensations and signs in and out of our body is essential to stay healthy.

 

[Rebaynia]

Now I'm curious about the reverse. Do you ask clients about their relationship status? Do many clients bring it up themselves, unprompted? Is it information you want to know or not? Does it change anything?

I'm guessing it's more common and acceptable to discuss the client's relationship status since the SP/client relationship can often be similar to a therapist/patient relationship.

I don't ask them their relationship situation. I figure if they want me to know they will bring it up. As outcall often it is a giveaway if they are single, or have a partner. It is their business though.
I have had sessions that were more like therapy, either because they were dealing with mental health issues I can relate to, or just want someone to hear them out, or feel close to. I've also done some relationship advice when issues in their relationship come up.

 

[Julia Sky]

How do SP stay fresh in their vagina? Almost all SPs I meet have no fishy odor. Whenever i have sex with a civie, I say 50% of the time I can smell fish.
Is there some type of showering technique that you do to keep the pussy nice and fresh?

What Giselle said!!

Also... I think the issue in civvie contexts is probably that, often, civilians don't take showers before having sex. Doing this job, I really see a difference in hygiene AND general sex pratices when it comes to how civvies vs sex workers navigate their sex lives lol