Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

I would sum it as "openness". For the duration of the date I don't feel judged.

We often refer to SP as a form of psychologist be it in many domains such as matrimonial, social, family, appearance etc on top of the obvious sexual aspect.

To be able to address these different delicate subjects is not given to everyone of course but because of the more open mindset of SP we just naturally feel more at ease.

Of course there are all the physical and emotional wellbeings but it still comes back generally to openness.

I often feel like I'm actually making a difference in a client's emotional well being. And sometimes clients just don't get the chance to talk to anyone about deeper subjects very often because they are so busy with work. That part of my job is something really love that makes me proud.

(that being said, I know some providers don't enjoy having to play the role of a psychologist.. I'm a good listener and love conversing and chatting about emotional things, but people's boundaries need to be respected)

 

[DouMan]

I often feel like I'm actually making a difference in a client's emotional well being. And sometimes clients just don't get the chance to talk to anyone about deeper subjects very often because they are so busy with work. That part of my job is something really love that makes me proud.

(that being said, I know some providers don't enjoy having to play the role of a psychologist.. I'm a good listener and love conversing and chatting about emotional things, but people's boundaries need to be respected)

You are so right when it comes to respecting boundaries and when discussing certain subjects to well choose your audience.

A quick example would be nudist camping sites/colonies. Years ago with the wife and kids we would spend all our summers at a nudist resort, not to be mistaken with a swingers resort, but a well managed family resort. To me this was the best thing since sliced bread and started talking about it with friends and family.

Holy shit, I was almost banned from the family and excommunicated from many friend circles. That's what I mean by choose your audience and where it may certainly be less awkward discussing with a SP than in RL circles.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

You are so right when it comes to respecting boundaries and when discussing certain subjects to well choose your audience.

A quick example would be nudist camping sites/colonies. Years ago with the wife and kids we would spend all our summers at a nudist resort, not to be mistaken with a swingers resort, but a well managed family resort. To me this was the best thing since sliced bread and started talking about it with friends and family.

Holy shit, I was almost banned from the family and excommunicated from many friend circles. That what I mean by choose your audience and where it may certainly be less awkward discussing with a SP than in RL circles.

Nudist resorts and swingers resorts are indeed very different things! I'm sorry people were judgemental.

I think when it comes to SP's everyone has their own tolerance level. I'm used to hearing really tough stories and I have experience with people who suffered from a lot of trauma so I'm okay with listening to all kinds of things and even welcome it, but it's always good to ask before bringing up certain subjects. Sometimes we can be feeling a bit under the weather and a certain topic may be hard to hear about. Otherwise I would say personally as a gfe provider I feel like that's what I'm here for (of course everyone has a different gfe service and some may feel like keeping the session lighter, and that's totally okay and should be respected)

 

[Johnny test]

question for clients : what do SP's bring to your life other than sexual gratification?

hard question for me to answer these days, i used to meet a SW regularly and we had some kind of connection but she's on hiatus and will most likely leave the business. So the only connections i have are sexual for the time being.

 

[LC18]

Clients

Pretty sure I’ve already asked but when do you normally consult ads? Morning, lunch break, evening or anytime you’re horny?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Anytime, never when I am horny! That is a high risk of disaster. When I am horny its time to book with one that already made it to the list. I am not a compulsive consumer so, I buy when I’m done shopping and I shop when I am not in need. If that makes any sense.

 

[Johnny test]

Clients

Pretty sure I’ve already asked but when do you normally consult ads? Morning, lunch break, evening or anytime you’re horny?

Usually morning and sometimes after work

 

[David Sel et Poivre]

Clients

Pretty sure I’ve already asked but when do you normally consult ads? Morning, lunch break, evening or anytime you’re horny?

I consult Merb every morning while drinking my coffee and water

 

[Fradi]

Nudist resorts and swingers resorts are indeed very different things! I'm sorry people were judgemental.

I think when it comes to SP's everyone has their own tolerance level. I'm used to hearing really tough stories and I have experience with people who suffered from a lot of trauma so I'm okay with listening to all kinds of things and even welcome it, but it's always good to ask before bringing up certain subjects. Sometimes we can be feeling a bit under the weather and a certain topic may be hard to hear about. Otherwise I would say personally as a gfe provider I feel like that's what I'm here for (of course everyone has a different gfe service and some may feel like keeping the session lighter, and that's totally okay and should be respected)

I think maybe this emotional stuff is way overrated.
Yes I will always feel the pain of losing the woman of my dreams the mother of my children but that is not what we talk about or dwell on with my ATF.
She is much more like a dear friend or family member we talk about all kinds of things mostly lite stuff, we joke, we laugh, share a bottle of wine some snacks talk about vacations family get togethers just everyday things, rarely if something bad or important happens yes we talk about it, it is not a therapy session, would we be there for each other if we needed a shoulder to lean on yes but it is mostly just fun.

 

[Johnny test]

I think maybe this emotional stuff is way overrated.
Yes I will always feel the pain of losing the woman of my dreams the mother of my children but that is not what we talk about or dwell on with my ATF.
She is much more like a dear friend or family member we talk about all kinds of things mostly lite stuff, we joke, we laugh, share a bottle of wine some snacks talk about vacations family get togethers just everyday things, rarely if something bad or important happens yes we talk about it, it is not a therapy session, would we be there for each other if we needed a shoulder to lean on yes but it is mostly just fun.

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

 

[Workingman]

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

Trying to explain empathy seldom works

 

[Fradi]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

Sex workers are not therapists or medical professionals and they usually have as many or more troubles, hang ups and addictions just like clients so using them as a crutch for your problems is not very bright.
If you developed a friendship with them that is great and some are exceptionally nice people to be with.

 

[Fradi]

Trying to explain empathy seldom works

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

 

[Fradi]

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

Get off your White Knight horse.
If anybody cares or treats these ladies with kindness and respect I am one of them.
Go ask one that I see and have reviewed.
They are not doctors or therapists, they are not there to solve your addictions and hang ups they have as many or more emotional problems like you do.
Go see a doctor or a real therapist.

 

[Johnny test]

English isn't my first language so hopefully you'll excuse me if i wasn't clear. I think a simple question which is, do you think your needs are the same as the rest of us? which would explain how you so easily pass judgment on the rest of us white knights.

 

[DouMan]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

To all 3 questions I would answer: boner.

We know that a hard-on takes a lot of blood, some of it stolen from our top brain which is already busy sending commands to our digits to wack off while reading (leaves very little for judgement)

In general when going through ads and booking with a boner see it as:
"duh picktchur ... ouuu numbher ... cawl 4 pooshy"

 

[Fradi]

English isn't my first language so hopefully you'll excuse me if i wasn't clear. I think a simple question which is, do you think your needs are the same as the rest of us? which would explain how you so easily pass judgment on the rest of us white knights.

English is not my first language either, neither is French.
Every bodies needs are different, however these ladies are not therapists or doctors and they should not be used as a crutch for emotional issues they are not qualified and they have as many issues of their own.
You are the one that quoted me and complained not the other way around.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Maybe because "not advertizing" and "not offering" can be 2 very diferent things, generaly speaking. Its getting harder and harder to get to know what exactly we, the clients, are "purchasing" before making a booking.

We oftent see providers being very vague in their ads or even on their websites. Some of them dont even state their "considerations" fees on their website anymore. Its as if every tactical tricks are thought to, purposely, keep a blurred proposal.

 

[Workingman]

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

Sex work is not a therapeutic service? Is this really a hill you are willing to die on? I'm truly confused why you are so triggered by this. I'm even more confused why you're always arguing stupid points that there are many approaches to. Use Google and read a little bit.