Ask us anything part 3

[Johnny test]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is a form of therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

That's what i meant and you obviously have much more experience in what people are looking for than we clients have.

 

[Fradi]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

You are right some people need a human connection and a friendly face and a welcoming smile and to be treated kindly, I would never argue that point or that many SP provide that in spades, the ladies I see definitely do.
Is it as good as therapy? I would let a qualified therapist answer that question, and I was talking about people with deep emotional issues not just someone who likes to realize his fantasy.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

I agree with that, but that doesn't mean clients should be shamed for talking about emotional things to sex workers.. all I meant is, before bringing up a potentially really upsetting topic, check with the person if that's okay

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

Agreed. And I can tell I make a difference in my client's lives in that respect

 

[Fradi]

Agreed. And I can tell I make a difference in my client's lives in that respect

Human kindness always makes a difference and many of you ladies are exceptionally nice and kind and amazing to spend time with that was never my point.

The ladies I have been seeing I will always be grateful to for being in my life, I think I have said this many times over.

It was that you are not psychologists or doctors trained in handling deep emotional issues and you should not be burdened with that. and at the same time you shouldn’t delude yourselves either that it is as good as a therapist, how can you make that claim when you are not a psychologist.
I don’t get why people try to twist words and make it seem like something else is being said.

 

[Workingman]

I don’t get why people try to twist words and make it seem like something else is being said.

He says after twisting words and making it seem like something else was being said.

 

[Johnny test]

He says after twisting words and making it seem like something else was being said.

I just remembered the first rule of the early days of online forums (16th/17th century ): "Don't feed the troll."

 

[Fradi]

I just remembered the first rule of the early days of online forums (16th/17th century ): "Don't feed the troll."

So you switched from being a White Knight to name calling.
You should be proud of yourself lol.
When you run out of anything intelligent to say name calling is always a good alternative.

 

[Johnny test]

Clients

Pretty sure I’ve already asked but when do you normally consult ads? Morning, lunch break, evening or anytime you’re horny?

since you asked, i was wondering if the moment you post on Merb (morning, evening) affects your business in any way?
(just to be clear i was asking the original poster, hence the quote)

 

[Nachoy]

SPs. If you won a big lottery. Would you quit working as an escort ?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

SPs. If you won a big lottery. Would you quit working as an escort ?

Depends on how much, but I would. I would put my energy somewhere else, I can only offer so much. If I won a lot (a lot) of money, I would build something for Montreal sex workers and manage it, like a resourceful center; I have ideas. If it works, I could even spread the concept to other big cities in Canada.

 

[urquell]

For those of you arguing about therapy I would agree with Fradi that it isn't therapeutic. Therapy is generally a specific course of treatment you follow to achieve a permanent result, whether physical in terms of rehabilitation or emotional. Seeing an SP is a valuable source of comfort and I think should be encouraged for those who need human contact and comfort, but the results are neither progressive nor permanent. It is an excellent safety valve though, and the industry performs a service that has great value to society as a whole. The fact that is both beneficial and necessary doesn't make it therapy though. Where Johnny is correct is that it addresses the needs of a large variety of people with a lot of different requirements and who all receive different benefits. Again though, the benefits of the service are temporary and need to be renewed with greater or lesser frequency, and more to the point, they're static, so while enjoyable there is no end goal to achieve or to work towards in a typical SP session, unlike therapy.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

but the results are neither progressive nor permanent. [...] they're static, so while enjoyable there is no end goal to achieve or to work towards in a typical SP session, unlike therapy.

I deeply disagree. You might not get anything else besides sexual relief when you see an escort, it might be a fleeting moment, but for some others, the sex part is a need among others. Because some thought women never liked them, women would never touch them, women would never look at them, I have seen some men change and become socially active and more engaging as it helped them gain confidence and believe that they have something to offer to women, and women could be interested in them. We're not therapists, but you can work your things on your end, and our encounters can help you reflect (just like a friend would), with the help of what we have to offer; physical touch, intimacy and complicity.

Basically, any human interaction can help you grow.

It's not true that only psychotherapists help other people. Friends, family, a teacher, everyone can have an impact on someone's life.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

It's not true that only psychotherapists help other people.

Some of them are actualy so bad they can seriously do more damages!

Friends, family, a teacher, everyone can have an impact on someone's life.

Even a pet can achieve this in specific circumstances.

 

[Johnny test]

The original question was "what do SP's bring to your life other than sexual gratification?"
And yes they probably can bring something else as @Giselle Montreal said (several times if i'm not mistaken. )
As i mentioned they have much more experience with clients than all of us combined.

Not exactly sure why this derailed into a "are SPs therapists?" discussion because they're not and i don't think they claim to be but yeah they bring confort to some and that's a pretty good thing, again we are not the same and obviously not looking for the same things which is quite reassuring i think.

 

[Johnny test]

Even a pet can achieve this in specific circumstances.

Most things i do with SP i can't do with pets, i'm pretty sure i would go to jail if i did
(sorry couldn't resist)

 

[Workingman]

Not all therapy leads to permanent results either. It can be as simple as a form of relief. Why would GFE even be defined and sought after?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Most things i do with SP i can't do with pets, i'm pretty sure i would go to jail if i did
(sorry couldn't resist)

But you could, technicaly, also end up in jail just by hiring a sex provider!

 

[Johnny test]

But you could, technicaly, also end up in jail just by hiring a sex provider!

didn't think of that but you're right.
i think jail would probably be easier for me if i went there because i met an SP than if i tried to have anal sex with a squirrel

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I hate psychotherapy so much, so I guess it's not what would help me the most either!