Ask us anything part 3

[Fradi]

Sex work is not a therapeutic service? Is this really a hill you are willing to die on? I'm truly confused why you are so triggered by this. I'm even more confused why you're always arguing stupid points that there are many approaches to. Use Google and read a little bit.

Tell me which one of these ladies has a doctors degree or therapists degree and with them I will agree.
You want to use them as such be my guest, the hourly rate is probably similar so you won’t be losing out.
As far as taking your advice the same thing applies lol.

 

[Workingman]

Tell me which one of these ladies has a doctors degree or therapists degree and with them I will agree.
You want to use them as such be my guest, the hourly rate is probably similar so you won’t be losing out.

Google it

 

[Fradi]

Google it

Last I looked you actually have to go to University and pass medical exams to be a Psychologist or a doctor who are trained to help people with deep emotional issues , ( google is your friend lol) fucking someone or sucking their dick doesn’t qualify. yeah it does feel great.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

fucking someone or sucking their dick doesn’t qualify.

Should I ask my shrink if she would experiment some new treatments with me?

 

[Fradi]

Should I ask my shrink if she would experiment some new treatments with me?

If she looks anything like your favourite SP I would go for it.
You are probably paying similar rates, hope it is not going to be an extra.

 

[Johnny test]

I won't add any more fuel to those last posts since a lot of them will probably be deleted by mods.
As @Lunaseraphim mentioned the level of intimacy can depend on both clients and SP and if you read some testimonies on the board there are some people who look for more than sexual gratification.
As i mentioned before we are not looking for the same thing, the same experiences and that's pretty reassuring in my book

 

[Fradi]

I won't add any more fuel to those last posts since a lot of them will probably be deleted by mods.

And yet you do lol.
I don’t see why any of it would be deleted non of it was rude. I don’t take things to heart it is just a discussion we are all entitled to our opinion.
Don’t get me wrong I adore the ladies I see, they are amazing women and we have been friends for many years and I definitely don’t see them for just sex.
We talk about anything and just about everything and if they would need my help or the other way around I am sure we could rely on each other as friends do, but not for things that require a trained professional.
I just don’t think they are qualified like I am not to be burdened with deep emotional issues and that is not the reason I see them.
I see them because they are gorgeous, kind, funny and just amazing to spend time with.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

 

[Johnny test]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is a form of therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

That's what i meant and you obviously have much more experience in what people are looking for than we clients have.

 

[Fradi]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

You are right some people need a human connection and a friendly face and a welcoming smile and to be treated kindly, I would never argue that point or that many SP provide that in spades, the ladies I see definitely do.
Is it as good as therapy? I would let a qualified therapist answer that question, and I was talking about people with deep emotional issues not just someone who likes to realize his fantasy.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

I agree with that, but that doesn't mean clients should be shamed for talking about emotional things to sex workers.. all I meant is, before bringing up a potentially really upsetting topic, check with the person if that's okay

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.

Agreed. And I can tell I make a difference in my client's lives in that respect

 

[Fradi]

Agreed. And I can tell I make a difference in my client's lives in that respect

Human kindness always makes a difference and many of you ladies are exceptionally nice and kind and amazing to spend time with that was never my point.

The ladies I have been seeing I will always be grateful to for being in my life, I think I have said this many times over.

It was that you are not psychologists or doctors trained in handling deep emotional issues and you should not be burdened with that. and at the same time you shouldn’t delude yourselves either that it is as good as a therapist, how can you make that claim when you are not a psychologist.
I don’t get why people try to twist words and make it seem like something else is being said.

 

[Workingman]

I don’t get why people try to twist words and make it seem like something else is being said.

He says after twisting words and making it seem like something else was being said.

 

[Johnny test]

He says after twisting words and making it seem like something else was being said.

I just remembered the first rule of the early days of online forums (16th/17th century ): "Don't feed the troll."

 

[Fradi]

I just remembered the first rule of the early days of online forums (16th/17th century ): "Don't feed the troll."

So you switched from being a White Knight to name calling.
You should be proud of yourself lol.
When you run out of anything intelligent to say name calling is always a good alternative.

 

[Johnny test]

Clients

Pretty sure I’ve already asked but when do you normally consult ads? Morning, lunch break, evening or anytime you’re horny?

since you asked, i was wondering if the moment you post on Merb (morning, evening) affects your business in any way?
(just to be clear i was asking the original poster, hence the quote)

 

[Nachoy]

SPs. If you won a big lottery. Would you quit working as an escort ?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

SPs. If you won a big lottery. Would you quit working as an escort ?

Depends on how much, but I would. I would put my energy somewhere else, I can only offer so much. If I won a lot (a lot) of money, I would build something for Montreal sex workers and manage it, like a resourceful center; I have ideas. If it works, I could even spread the concept to other big cities in Canada.

 

[urquell]

For those of you arguing about therapy I would agree with Fradi that it isn't therapeutic. Therapy is generally a specific course of treatment you follow to achieve a permanent result, whether physical in terms of rehabilitation or emotional. Seeing an SP is a valuable source of comfort and I think should be encouraged for those who need human contact and comfort, but the results are neither progressive nor permanent. It is an excellent safety valve though, and the industry performs a service that has great value to society as a whole. The fact that is both beneficial and necessary doesn't make it therapy though. Where Johnny is correct is that it addresses the needs of a large variety of people with a lot of different requirements and who all receive different benefits. Again though, the benefits of the service are temporary and need to be renewed with greater or lesser frequency, and more to the point, they're static, so while enjoyable there is no end goal to achieve or to work towards in a typical SP session, unlike therapy.