Love has different forms, tastes and duration. I sometimes fall in love with an SP almost instantly … for a couple of hours. Many girls feel it and tell me that I am crazy. I like to be crazy… for a couple of hours.
Don't fall in love with your regular SP
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We're all humans with emotions.
I have strong feelings for some of the providers that I've seen but I would never mistake it for love.
That's why the connection is always strong and phone numbers exchanged always happened.
I have a hard time saying no for my personal phone number, but I'm just trying being nice.
I respect the hell out of them for the work that they do and the energy and affection they set aside for me.
Most men need to keep a close eye on their emotions and keep giving yourself reality checks so they don't ruin a good thing because of their personal issues that have nothing to do with the provider.
SPs told me many of stories about weird customers and if you want to keep seeing SPs, you need to handle your own shit because it's not fair to expect them to handle all of yours.
Providers aren't your therapist, they aren't your girlfriend and they do enough emotional labor as it is.
I have strong feelings for some of the providers that I've seen but I would never mistake it for love.
That's why the connection is always strong and phone numbers exchanged always happened.
I have a hard time saying no for my personal phone number, but I'm just trying being nice.
I respect the hell out of them for the work that they do and the energy and affection they set aside for me.
Most men need to keep a close eye on their emotions and keep giving yourself reality checks so they don't ruin a good thing because of their personal issues that have nothing to do with the provider.
SPs told me many of stories about weird customers and if you want to keep seeing SPs, you need to handle your own shit because it's not fair to expect them to handle all of yours.
Providers aren't your therapist, they aren't your girlfriend and they do enough emotional labor as it is.
It's easy: if she makes you pay she's doing for the money. If she refuses money, she's yours.
Good call
"I spent half my money on gambling, alcohol and wild women. The other half I wasted"
- WC Fields
No, she just opens line of credit for you
I beg to differ... I feel rather rewarded when during my visits my life expieriences can contribute to a rather theraputic time with someone. When I can leave my visit feeling so much more than just sex happened, I feel rewarded from the expierience.
And during the time paid for as far as I'm concerned gfe is more than a collection of acronyms, it should feel comfortable like feeling like you are with a gf. Able to share and feel cared for while with that person.
I've been here longer than you though
What you posted was simply your feelings being hurt by a joke; what you posted isn't white knighting. You're not defending any SPs.
buddy, you were just talking about wearing kilts
Hello,
Can I help you? Did someone call for a therapist in relational aid... ?
Can I help you? Did someone call for a therapist in relational aid... ?
For those trying to wean themselves off their favorite SP, with whom they’ve fallen helplessly in love, just reveal who it is already and briefly describe why they’re so great. This will trigger the horde of Merb lurkers to emerge from the shadows en masse and descend on said SP’s calendar, thereby ensuring that you two will have the distance and time apart you’re in need of. Depending on who this SP is, I might even join in on this humanitarian mission myself.
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the more you have repeat visits with your regular SP, the chances are you will develop feelings for her. I personally think for most men they believe in love. In my case I was in love only once in my life. Its a combination of emotional, physical and sexual attachment to a woman. I also believe most men can separate love and sex. That’s why the oldest profession in the world has always existed! I am getting an impression from this thread that there seems to be a sense of guilt from some men who have fallen in love with their regular SP? Is it wrong? Is it right? Who can really answer that question? I think you should do and feel what makes you happy when you are with your Regular SP. feels Like once emotions sets in for most men, all logic goes out the window!
One of the main hormones released post orgasm is oxytocin, which increases bonding with your partner. Not sure what that comedian was quoting but I think he's wrong
There are many forms of love it doesn’t have to be the kind of love for a wife or life partner.
I am totally in love with my ATF.
I love how gorgeous she is how kind and thoughtful she is and the way she treats me. I love the friendship we have.
Now if I was anywhere near her age I would probably fall in love with her in the traditional way also.
I think maybe SP sometimes miss interpret this, some of us are realistic and know full well that the SP is not in love with us ( yes they will undoubtedly have their favourites be it for looks or kindness or whatever and I hope I fall into one of those categories ).
Anyway even if I was her age the only way I could ever really fall in love with any woman be it SP or civilian is if she wasn’t seeing anyone else, I don’t share the people I love, with that I am not open minded at all.
I would add that knowing someone is unavailable can increase the desire.
Of course you cannot reciprocate given your relationship.
Can I ask how the SP might feel when someone professes their love? Will they take him for granted? Decrease quality of service? Improve quality of service? Special treatment?
Feel like running away?
Some have said it is the last thing to mention to your SP? Others have no reservations about openly professing their love.
Same questions for professing your loyalty.
Really for a couple of hours?
I guess if you fall in love fast then you also fall out of love fast.
I feel like some SPs have that quality. Isn’t it a job requirement to " fall for " whomever you happen to be with that day?
The sceptics will say it’s all an act, but I think the better ones have that quality allowing them to find something attractive about everyone they meet. What do you guys/girls think?
When someone doesn't want their situation to change, and knows themselves well enough to know how they get attached, an SP can be the safest person to fall for, because she won't be changing your way of life.
I can't speak for others. But personally I find it flattering. Depends actually. There are 2 kinds for that...
1. the man who accepts the situation, and professes love because he has felt alone and disconnected from people, but feels accepted and appreciated, and between visits professes love at his own intervals, be it 1-2 times a month, even though he can only afford visits maybe once every 3 months. He is accepted in who he is, and it makes him feel better and connected. Often people who are lonely and dealing with personal demonds for this one.
2. The creepy stalker vibe man. Someone who before even meeting professes love, told me i was his gf, and not willing to listen i am in a relationship, contacts and professes love every day and trys to pressure for inappropriate personal details of my private life and business. Like how often I see people, how much I make, questions about my kids, where exactly I live. Things that I don't feel comfortable sharing with anyone to protect my family from others.
Only person i want to talk to every single day is my master, and it puts me in an occuart position when someone trys to contact that often.
And feels uncomfortable when someone wants to make it a point too that their goal is to try and wait it out for master and I to break up. Or share intentions to try and create doubt in my relationship. Badmouthing my relationship because they don't want to accept it is what it is, and don't want to accept, the traditional relationship isn't suited for everyone.
As for loyalty.. it is touching to hear. But when i was single my thoughts were i got to play guys, because guys were playing girls. I didn't expect I was the only girl they were seeing. Unless monogamy was discussed. Regulars are entitled to see whoever they want. I'm not jealous. If they want just me, i will try to be available when they contact me. But I'm not hurt to hear if they have contacted someone else. It is their right as a single man to be with whoever they want.
(I say single, because someone in a relationship, their priority should be their relationship, not an SP.)
I think we mistake the ones as you say who are really good that they have more feelings for us than possibly friendship or actually being one of their favourite clients because we treat them with kindness and respect. I think it starts out as an act and can actually develop into a real respect and friendship over time, we are all human and SP are women like all the rest and have the same wishes and dreams and feelings. It is not easy and it is rare because for them it is natural to set up a barrier to not get involved with clients emotionally to maintain their safety and sanity,
I am fairly open with my ATF she knows exactly how I feel about her and she is comfortable with it.
I have no illusions, I am grateful for her friendship, feel lucky that she is in my life and has made it better when I needed it most.
We are not dating, we are not bf/gf it is a client and escort relationship and a friend relationship and so far we are able to separate the 2 and don’t take advantage of each other.
I am very happy with this arrangement and so look forward to seeing her each and every time.
I completely agree, and for me personally there is nothing artificial or fake about it. In fact, I would argue that if you live in the moment you will experience the attraction. An attractive SP is easy to fall in love with, and it can be one sided - the SP does not have the feel the same way. So, I think, the trick is to compartmentalize the attraction, savor it in your memories, and not cross lines that could make the SP uncomfortable in any way unless its mutual. And even when its reciprocated during your time together, compartmentalize it and look forward to the next time you fall in love again. As long as you are in control of your emotions even in a heightened stay of bliss, all is well.
In the real world, the natural power of attraction between the sexes has unfortunately taken a back seat these days to the more complex societal and power imbalance issues, and we have legislated or try to legislate a lot of these interactions to rightfully prevent unwanted advances and harassment. Hopefully, we can all get to a place where there is mutual respect, and we can enjoy the innocence and joy in the attractiveness of a person we meet in real life too.
That’s it right there. My most memorable encounters were with partners that lived in the moment. They quickly became regulars. It felt natural for both I think. I don’t think we can talk about love in that instance. Rather its a vibe, matching wavelengths, chemistry or whatever you want to call it. Agree with Fradi that it can develop into a real respect and friendship over time. Some are better at it than others.
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