Falling in love with your SP/MP
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Ok this happened, so what, how is this different than the many civilian horror stories I am sure many of you can tell after all there is a reason you are on this board.
Yes it must be more difficult to date an SP the stigma of her profession and the male ego of knowing how many people she has slept with can not be easy to handle that is the main reason, not because she is different, she has the same dreams, same wishes and same feelings as any other woman and deserves the same love and affection.
Yes it must be more difficult to date an SP the stigma of her profession and the male ego of knowing how many people she has slept with can not be easy to handle that is the main reason, not because she is different, she has the same dreams, same wishes and same feelings as any other woman and deserves the same love and affection.
I can relate to that... I just wanted to help one I been seeing for 2 years and we started hanged out outside of sessions (although it was only after I gave the money). I lend her 2500$ to help her family situation... only for her to move to another city (to be with said family), no longer responding my messages after 1~2 months of messaging each others (last contact was July 19). The further I do my research by talking with her co-workers and friends, the more it point that her family situation was not real and she most likely used my money to move out of Montreal...
In my case, I did my best to not fall in love with her, she even told me not to in our early time we met. But she made me feel like we became real friends who can talk about all the bad things going on in our life and we help each others as friends...
Before anyone ask me who it is via PM. I am not going to answer since I am trying to solve this privately.
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Batista this sad to hear, but thats why I think keeping it business transaction is best. Some gals just take advantage sad but true.
Batista Mason,
A few years ago I lent $2000 to an SA girl so she could buy a car. The difference from you is I did not really expect to get the money back and mentally parted ways with it, but I did hope to get some sexual favors as repayment instead. It did not happen. My motivation was not love, but wanting to fuck her, which never happened.
A few years ago I lent $2000 to an SA girl so she could buy a car. The difference from you is I did not really expect to get the money back and mentally parted ways with it, but I did hope to get some sexual favors as repayment instead. It did not happen. My motivation was not love, but wanting to fuck her, which never happened.
JH,
In the civilian world people get totally destroyed financially for thousands, hundreds of thousands and millions
Sometimes it is by wives girlfriends people you have lived with and trusted half your life not just a short fling.
Getting screwed not to your liking is not exclusive to an SP and yes 20k is not a trivial amount although some in the civilian world would laugh at how easy you were let off.
Perhaps you are better off she only stayed 1 month.
In the civilian world people get totally destroyed financially for thousands, hundreds of thousands and millions
Sometimes it is by wives girlfriends people you have lived with and trusted half your life not just a short fling.
Getting screwed not to your liking is not exclusive to an SP and yes 20k is not a trivial amount although some in the civilian world would laugh at how easy you were let off.
Perhaps you are better off she only stayed 1 month.
I think we can summarize by saying the big money transfers really never end well. As the Beatles once sang in a song that very much resonates with this discussion:
For me, I've been manipulated for money more by my civilian girlfriends lol (granted I was picking them poorly). SPs, after being screwed once, I learned to set ground rules, which I find SPs to be more open about because they are business women.
I'm just very curious, how you lasted 4 years with her. Were you that emotionally invested? that you were blinded by the red flags; Or did you make peace with the fact that she was money oriented, and it was only at the end that she cold bloodedly ran away with your 20k
(Im not judging, I'm just curious what kept you in it for so long)
About 35 years ago I was living with a bartender, she would point out girls at the club that were regulars who basically drank for free and tried to get as much money as possible out of men. These people are everywhere, they know they have pussy power. Once visiting her at work a girl sat beside me and asked if I wanted to buy her a drink, I asked if she would just prefer cash ( been sarcastic for a long time ) and she left.....
Jh000, it doesn't suck that she disappeared, she did you a favor. She was a leech. Leeches suck the blood out of you. You need your blood man. And your money. You can go on SA and bang a zillion girls with the money you spent on one leech.
No, again I will have to disagree not all wives girlfriends want gifts from you and not all are gold diggers and no you don’t always end up paying for sex one way or another.
Not all women are out to fleece you there are plenty that enjoy sex and want to be loved and will return that ten fold if they feel you are in love with them and you are the one they want to spend their life with.
I will always say it is easy to fall in love, staying in love is the difficult part but when you find the right woman it is magical and nothing can compare.
I did know there was a risk of no money return... she never asked for help or money before, it really sounded like the pandemic affected her and her finally texting me for the first time, that sounded like her last resort. I honestly don't care about my 2500$. I am just disappointed in her as an person, as she is a single mother of 2 kids, she has a responsibility and she do this to me... and as I said, I did some research and learned she owe money to other people...
I actually planned on making a surprise for her when she returns the money to me. If she was honest about our friendship and we kept in contact. I was going to tell her she can keep it to help her family.
Well, we had an arrangement, until she give me back the money. I was allowed to have FS with her without paying. The only fear would be she move to another city, which is what happened. And as I mentioned above, I don't really care about getting the 2500$ back, I was actually planning to give her a surprise and tell her she can keep it if she was honest about our friendhship and kept contact with me. I am just disappointed in her as an person and she had to do something like this when she was already a very successful popular SP and logically shouldn't be in financial trouble.
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Yes, 100% this.
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. I've had a similar experience that ended about 2 years ago with what I thought was just a regular girl who loved me. Turned out she was nothing but a greedy bitch.
Almost all guys learn this the hard way at some point, some get it tougher than others.
Here is some good reading: The Manipulated Man
I was joking a bit about my junior... certainly that there's other factors why it seems easier to date SP than other girls.
Reading other messages, I realize that their thinking that I am possibly rich is obviously the #1 reason
( I was giving a good tip to the 2 girls that possibly wanted to date me)
U guys need to learn how to lay down the law. I made a deal with a beautiful Brazilian chic to set her up @ my buddies in south Florida while I was in town. All she had to do is bring me fuckin açaí berries from Rio. I made it clear she wouldn’t get paid until I got the berries. She was beautiful, all natty, and the sweetest thing. Man could she dance. I told her before I left Rio how I’m looking forward to seeing her in Miami in a few weeks and how much fun we r gonna have making fresh breakfast blends. I didn’t even give a shit about the sex. But I let her know I wasn’t dickin around about the açaí berries. She saw just by how I treated her In Rio how good I could be to her. Even told her “Gabby, I’m gonna treat you like the queen that you are. But I’m only gonna say this once cause I say it to every girl when it comes to edible goods, don’t fuck with me, don’t you dare ever fuck with me.”
Anywhoo, she came text me from airport, I asked about the berries and she was like “wtf, r u for real?!?!” And I sent her the link to the Fort Lauderdale shuttle where she could take a charter back the next day to rio.
My buddy ended up picking her up sadly, but no $ lost by me.
Anywhoo, she came text me from airport, I asked about the berries and she was like “wtf, r u for real?!?!” And I sent her the link to the Fort Lauderdale shuttle where she could take a charter back the next day to rio.
My buddy ended up picking her up sadly, but no $ lost by me.
At the time, the money i lost was almost everything I had, but luckily after that I got my shit together, got better jobs, better salaries, and was forced to be more financially aware/responsible. My best friend whose in this hobby as well, definitely helped me turn my situation around, despite already being quite experienced in the hobby, he taught me how to not be attached to another object by an incline plane wrapped helically around an axis. SCREWED
I'm glad your losses weren't that much of a detriment to you and you weren't too emotionally scarred because you weren't ignorant.
Would you try again? Now that you know what you did wrong?
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guys learn from this attitude. This is the right way to stand your ground, dont let yourself get walked over. An arrangement, relationship works both ways.
It's called being pussywhipped. Every guy who gets pussywhipped allows it to happen to himself. In any arrangement that works, just like in any relationship that works, there has to be a 2 way street with each party staying in their lane. When someone does not stay in their lane, you do not let them keep driving. Because an accident is going to happen. And as we can see, there have been some car crashes described in this thread.
Based on everything you said, I think it’s most likely that she did quit escorting, but met another guy who she was actually into, real love and all. Then started to get boned by that guy, which is why she cancelled on you and re-scheduled, and wasn’t really into fucking you any longer, except to keep the money flowing. She probably kept the other guy as a side dude for a while until she was sure he’s the one. Then she milked you for one last score before taking off with him.
Any other scenario, including her still working as an escort, she would have stuck around and tried to keep milking you for as long as possible.
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