"Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown." Or in this case, "Forget it, @Sky_rocket. It's the hobby." I don't see much point in speculating. This stuff happens all the time. Move on!
Ghosted by my regular
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That's how I feel about the situation as well. It can be hard to ask certain clients to pay your new rates, even if it's a slight increase some people complain.
I'd say contact after a few months and ask directly what the issue is and if she doesn't respond leave her alone
Email. Besides birthday wishes, I only sent messages when I wanted to book meetings. Had our last meeting in July, contacted her two weeks back for a meeting this month, but did not get a response.
She never said anything that could indicate her feeling this way.
I have never requested to be grandfathered. I pay her current rate, but now that I think about it, I usually book 2hr meetings which is her minimum meeting time. Someone booking 2-3hr meetings every three months can be considered expendable to make space for clients who intend to book longer dates.
What you’re describing doesn’t sound excessive to me at all. It’s not like you’re texting her or emailing her all the time.
Regardless of your frequency of visits, I don’t see how any provider would shun a good paying client, even if it’s every few months or even years. Of course, losing your business wouldn’t have as much of an impact versus clients seen weekly or monthly.
Maybe she is prioritizing longer appointments or can’t fit you into her busy schedule. Still, it’s not an excuse to ignore your emails, especially if she wishes to keep you as a client. That suggests that she does not want to continue the relationship. And only she knows why.
At this point I would take a break or consider seeing other providers. Agree with those who directed you to the thread about not falling in love with you’re provider (whether that’s your case or not), because you might find usefulness information in it.
If you wish to reconnect with her, I would wait 3-4 months before emailing her. At that time I would ask for an appointment. You could also ask if she had any other recommendations for you when booking or during meetings. But keep it brief.
Look at this as a blessing in disguise. Find someone new that peaks your interest.
What if she decided to take a sabbitical? Is she entitled to or not?
Just a proof of how fake your relationship was.
If it was a relationship, as a human, you take the time to briefly explain why you are not interested anymore.
It just demonstrate how fake it's getting. Instead of building a relationship based on money vs services, they're trying to sell you a genuine experience were you'll feel special
You are not. It is money vs services.
And if it was a real business, no one would runned it this way; not answering (unless you are abusing) is simply not a way of doing business, period.
If it was a relationship, as a human, you take the time to briefly explain why you are not interested anymore.
It just demonstrate how fake it's getting. Instead of building a relationship based on money vs services, they're trying to sell you a genuine experience were you'll feel special
You are not. It is money vs services.
And if it was a real business, no one would runned it this way; not answering (unless you are abusing) is simply not a way of doing business, period.
Yes, but that’s part of the services, to make you feel special. It doesn’t mean you are special. They are catering to what most people want. If you are looking for mechanical service, that exists too.
I get that
The part that I found were there is a discrepancy in the expectation, is that at first, it is expected from you to not directly adress it as business transaction, it needs to be more human, almost as a flirt but at the end, it ends abruptly as business transaction should.
We are humans. If the need of not feeling like a piece of meat is absolutely and totally understandable, the feeling of being just a wallet is about the same.
If ask a deposit for your consideration, can't we ask for a brief text message for ours?!?
I'm sorry to hear that you are being ghosted by your regular...
"Silence isn't empty; it's full of answers." - Unknown
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''Listen to silence. It has so much to say.'' - Rumi
''Saying nothing sometimes says the most.'' - Emily Dickinson
"Silence isn't empty; it's full of answers." - Unknown
"Silence is sometimes the best answer." - Dalai Lama
''Silence is not the absence of something but the presence of everything.'' - Gordon Hempton
''He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.'' - Elbert Hubbard
''Listen to silence. It has so much to say.'' - Rumi
''Saying nothing sometimes says the most.'' - Emily Dickinson
Young ones tend to do that just be disconnected. You are risking this to happen when you start having intimate discussions. I remember once talking about very personal stuff (she did the talking and I listened). Afterwards, she didn't want to see me again. Now, I'm indifferent just brush anything off and don't like to engage in anything but superficial topics.
Lately, I was texting to 2 girls who gave me their personal phones. They changed attitude once I started saying comments like, so you fucked a lot lately? To me it was like asking hey how was how was your day. Some want you to care, some don't want you to care about them. Some like more distance, some like less distance. In the end just keep your mouth shut. But even when you keep your mouth shut they think you're treating them like a slab of meat. In the end there is no real way to please them. lol It is just bound to happen at some point.
Lately, I was texting to 2 girls who gave me their personal phones. They changed attitude once I started saying comments like, so you fucked a lot lately? To me it was like asking hey how was how was your day. Some want you to care, some don't want you to care about them. Some like more distance, some like less distance. In the end just keep your mouth shut. But even when you keep your mouth shut they think you're treating them like a slab of meat. In the end there is no real way to please them. lol It is just bound to happen at some point.
Maybe she wants to work less and will only accept clients who she know will do overnights. You are expendable, and if you aren't willing to pay more or book longer dates, you just need to accept being priced out. And move on to someone who fits your limited budget. It's a business. People are going to get priced out. Getting financially defeated by the competition for any SP's services is something we all need to accept. Nobody is entitled to see anyone whether at a locked rate or otherwise.
Regardless of all the great answers etc, Some common respect would have been nice on her part. just give a reason, just txt back and say sorry, but such and such has happened etc, would have taken all of 1 min or less.
I would generally agree, although telling someone they are priced out is kind of difficult to do. Would you propose that she say, "sorry hun, but I don't see cheap asses any more"? Would Sky Rocket benefit from hearing this, if he didn't have the funds to match her new minimum? I don't think so.
There are some conversations best left unsaid. The one noted above. Death in her family. Personal health issue or STD, of recent origin not involving Sky Rocket. It's just hard to discuss. It's painful and personal.
If she ghosted you and threw you like a piece of trash, that just shows you what she really thought of you. So why even be interested in knowing why. Just move on
What the fuck
Idk I feel like silence is at least far more tactful and respectful than "so! You fucked a lot today?". We aren't ashamed of our work but that's a weird and invasive way to word things. Just ask "how was your day?". Lol
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To get back on topic, honestly there are many possibilities. Maybe she thought the sex with you was insufferable, I've ghosted clients for this reason before unfortunately - can't be having an asthma attack every 3 months and I can't see myself texting someone like "sorry man, I like you as a person but you're insufferable in bed"
Maybe she accidentally blocked your number or you accidentally blocked hers lol. That recently happened to me, a client thought I wasn't replying but it was because he had accidentally blocked me.
Maybe you said something that made her feel uncomfortable. Maybe she heard/read something about you that creeped her out.
Maybe she just doesn't want shorter bookings anymore.
There are many possibilities and while the respectful thing to do would've been to explain/give you closure, let's just keep in mind we don't know her reasons. If you made her uncomfortable, I don't think it would be fair to expect her to keep interacting with you, for example.
So just accept it and move on. There isn't much else to do
It is a strange world the hobby but you need to realize what it is all about.
They are selling a fantasy and all the advertisements are geared towards having a lasting chemistry a real connection in essence a girlfriend without all the hassles.
Reality however is that it is a fantasy and it is all about money and when ever they have any reason be it that they think you are falling in love with them or that you are just getting too clingy or whatever reason they may have then they are quick to remind you that it is a transactional arrangement and it is just a job for them. When that happens it is time to move on.
On very rare occasions you do connect with them and you become friends, they are women and human and when this happens it can be fabulous as they can be warm and kind and nice to be with as a friend not just someone to have sex with.
I do love my ATF as a friend she is not only gorgeous but one of the kindest most thoughtful young ladies I have ever met and I consider myself very lucky to have her in my life and will always be grateful for meeting her. She knows this and she is fine with it, someday I hope she meets someone her own age who will give her the relationship and love that she deserves and dreams about, until then I am more than happy to be her friend and client.
They are selling a fantasy and all the advertisements are geared towards having a lasting chemistry a real connection in essence a girlfriend without all the hassles.
Reality however is that it is a fantasy and it is all about money and when ever they have any reason be it that they think you are falling in love with them or that you are just getting too clingy or whatever reason they may have then they are quick to remind you that it is a transactional arrangement and it is just a job for them. When that happens it is time to move on.
On very rare occasions you do connect with them and you become friends, they are women and human and when this happens it can be fabulous as they can be warm and kind and nice to be with as a friend not just someone to have sex with.
I do love my ATF as a friend she is not only gorgeous but one of the kindest most thoughtful young ladies I have ever met and I consider myself very lucky to have her in my life and will always be grateful for meeting her. She knows this and she is fine with it, someday I hope she meets someone her own age who will give her the relationship and love that she deserves and dreams about, until then I am more than happy to be her friend and client.
You could have just said “how was your day?” lmao if she wanted to reply with “I’ve been fucking a lot” she could have done that. I guess she thought it was none of your business (rightfully so) so she ghosted you.
There's a time and place for everything. And respect should be the baseline for everything.
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