Ghosted by my regular

[Fradi]

that's how much i see my regular in a month!

in 3 years, that's once every 4 months... does that still count as regular????

14 times a month that is the other extreme lol. I would call that an addiction, that is what you do with a drop dead gorgeous wife during the honeymoon stage not an SP. Anyway if it makes you happy that’s what money is for.
Imagine what that would bring with compound interest lol.

 

[Sylar]

that's how much i see my regular in a month!

in 3 years, that's once every 4 months... does that still count as regular????

Without being disrespectful, you have bigger issues than the OP.

 

[talkinghead]

I am low volume. I do not think I am wealthy enough to seek companions on a monthly basis, let alone weekly. I referred to her as my regular because of the past 15 meetings I have had, 14 were with her.

It's all relative and 14/15 sounds like a lot to me. And, if I'm reading you right, you've seen her almost exclusively for the last three years. I don't blame you for being thrown. I'm with @MCTJ -- I'd be feeling the same or worse as well.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Ghosting is the new way of this decade. Many ppl in relationships get ghosted when they want to end a relationship. It could be for any reason. Dwelling on the whys is not constructive. Just move on. Bear in mind your next escort-client relationship could end the same way. This can happen in your personal life and even on the job. I witnessed some colleagues vanish like a ghost after 3 years of work. Not even a hint, vanished like a ghost. My boss tried to calling him so many times, no answer. Ghosting is the new trend, it is the easy way out. Get used to it.

 

[S.S neo]

Maybe you can start by reading this interesting thread: https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/dont-fall-in-love-with-your-regular-sp.227102/

Yep.
Maybe she fell or was starting to fall in love with you or felt jealous of the on time with another sp ... anyways, life’s tough, got myself an helmet.

 

[Fradi]

Yep.
Maybe she fell or was starting to fall in love with you or felt jealous of the on time with another sp ... anyways, life’s tough, got myself an helmet.

He sees her 14 times in 3 years that is once every 4 months and she fell in love with him and she is jealous are you joking.
She hardly knows he exists she has seen probably hundreds in those 3 years and can’t even remember his name probably calls him babe lol.

Sp don’t usually fall for clients especially not ones that admittedly can only afford them once every 4 months.

 

[haberbosch25]

Take this as a lesson learned. There are so many beautiful women escorting in Montreal and many new younger ones (19-23 years old) are entering the industry every week!

Don’t waste your time repeating with the same women over and over again. You are missing out on so many incredible experiences.

 

[Sky_rocket]

if I'm reading you right, you've seen her almost exclusively for the last three years. I don't blame you for being thrown.

Yes. Foolish on my part in hindsight. I do not have any referrals for screening with other companions now.

 

[Sky_rocket]

Yep.
Maybe she fell or was starting to fall in love with you or felt jealous of the on time with another sp ... anyways, life’s tough, got myself an helmet.

I doubt it. The vibe was always friendly but professional. Besides, she has a boyfriend.

 

[2fast2slow]

14 times iirc

if its 14 times in 3 years, with all due respect: "that ain't nothing". Like .others have mentionned probably has nothing to do with you. Had you seen her weekly for 3 years that might be different in the sense it would be hurtful

 

[bodick7]

. Besides, she has a boyfriend.

Her kryptonite…
That was the reason one of my favorite « ghosted » me for months. Her cell number was still recorded with same provider but was inactive.

 

[MCTJ]

Besides, she has a boyfriend.

So, maybe it was the other way around here: she was getting attached to you and decided to end the relationship by ghosting you ...which really sucks.

 

[Fradi]

So, maybe it was the other way around here: she was getting attached to you and decided to end the relationship by ghosting you ...which really sucks.

You guys are dreaming in different shades. A reality check would do you some good.
Yeah she gets attached to someone who sees her once every 4 months because he cannot afford more.
It seems you have a vivid imagination. These are ladies that continually ask for money from cat operations to purses, fund my vacation etc… just go check out their Twitter feeds. They don’t get attached to clients, especially not ones that don’t have thick wallets. It is a business, girl friend for hire, fantasy for a price. I don’t blame them, why not if someone is willing to pay, they are not twisting anybody’s arm.

Perhaps it is some stupid little thing he did that he is not even aware of that she decided not to see him it is not as if she is going to miss the huge income generated by him lol.

Yeah it suck’s to be ghosted by someone you like seeing especially when you have no idea why, but it is time to move on and find someone new it is not as if he was in love with her if he only saw her so few times.

 

[peachy]

Ghosting is the new way of this decade. Many ppl in relationships get ghosted when they want to end a relationship. It could be for any reason. Dwelling on the whys is not constructive. Just move on. Bear in mind your next escort-client relationship could end the same way. This can happen in your personal life and even on the job. I witnessed some colleagues vanish like a ghost after 3 years of work. Not even a hint, vanished like a ghost. My boss tried to calling him so many times, no answer. Ghosting is the new trend, it is the easy way out. Get used to it.

Pretty much this. It's just the norm and you accept it and move on. I will say this about this trend though. Because society has become much more faceless and less personal, most people don't know how or are afraid of confrontation, imo. Which means taking the easy road of just cutting contact is their out.
As for the other stuff about attachment, I don't put any stock in that. Honestly, if anybody on either side of this can't compartmentalize what we are doing and keep their emotions in check, they need to look in the mirror and possibly think about getting out of the lifestyle. It's not healthy and although there are isolated cases of it working out, it is rare and more apt to lead to problems in the long run.
I know that I sound cynical and cold hearted saying that but I'm a big believer in one being in control of their emotions. It's fine to have emotion but don't let emotion control you. And that goes for all human emotion from happiness and love to anger and fear.

 

[MCTJ]

You guys are dreaming in different shades. A reality check would do you some good

Did you notice the word "maybe" that I emphasized in my post?

 

[Fradi]

Did you notice the word "maybe" that I emphasized in my post?

Highly unlikely is the word to use lol.
I maybe the emperor of China one day also ( no I am not Chinese).

 

[Julia Sky]

Did you notice the word "maybe" that I emphasized in my post?

I highly doubt she fell in love with a client she sees once every 4 months. This isn't even about money, I never assume anyone's finances, some people only book twice a year despite having a LOT of money. But you need to see someone more often than that to develop genuine feelings for them, ESPECIALLY as an escort. We are so used to spending time with men who treat us well. It takes a lot for an escort to fall in love with a client, it's not likely to happen with a client you only see once in a while

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I highly doubt she fell in love with a client she sees once every 4 months. This isn't even about money, I never assume anyone's finances, some people only book twice a year despite having a LOT of money. But you need to see someone more often than that to develop genuine feelings for them, ESPECIALLY as an escort. We are so used to spending time with men who treat us well. It takes a lot for an escort to fall in love with a client, it's not likely to happen with a client you only see once in a while

I agree with this. Also, if an escort ghosted you after a while, there's a good chance that she didn't like your interactions in my opinion. I know you think you did nothing wrong, and I'm sure you had good intentions but it's possible that there are things you overlooked and she decided that you weren't a good match. I'd be curious to hear her side of the story.

 

[S.S neo]

Ok ok ... if she’s not in love and he did nothing wrong then maybe she found out that they are to some degree family related ? 14 times in 3 years isn’t that much for a regular but a pretty big number if it is your step cousin you forgot about lol

 

[Jordd]

I agree with this. Also, if an escort ghosted you after a while, there's a good chance that she didn't like your interactions in my opinion. I know you think you did nothing wrong, and I'm sure you had good intentions but it's possible that there are things you overlooked and she decided that you weren't a good match. I'd be curious to hear her side of the story.

Agree with this.

However, can we have more information to better understand your interaction?
How are you communicating with her and how often between meetings? If she is still active, she’s either had enough of the interactions or for whatever reason won’t see you any more.

Maybe you’re not getting the message and she has no alternative, but to ghost you. Maybe she increased her rates, but you’re still paying old rates and she doesn’t want to do that anymore.

My advice would be to completely stop contacting her. Either take a break or see other providers. Maybe in 1-2 months try to rebook and see if she accepts. If she doesn’t, I don’t think you have any other choice but to move on.