Going out with a stripper...

[ops_com]

Last night I went to Cleo`s and get spent almost an hour with my favorite at this place. We talked a lot and went to the booth for some action. Last night she told me that she missed me, I didn't see her for a month.

I'm looking for advices, did anyone has invited a stripper for a date, like movie, dining, etc. I've seen her quit often for the past months and we start to talk about each other on personnal level. But the problem is I'm kind of shy. Should I be direct or be subtle. I don't want to break what we have now.

Thank you in advance.

 

[korbel]

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Last night I went to Cleo`s and get spent almost an hour with my favorite at this place. We talked a lot and went to the booth for some action. Last night she told me that she missed me, I didn't see her for a month.

I'm looking for advices, did anyone has invited a stripper for a date, like movie, dining, etc. I've seen her quit often for the past months and we start to talk about each other on personnal level. But the problem is I'm kind of shy. Should I be direct or be subtle. I don't want to break what we have now.

Thank you in advance.

Hello ops_com,

I am sure you have a much better feeling of her intentions than I do, but there have been a number of strippers who have said they missed me. They felt better after the donations. One wanted to go back to my hotel. The rate was pretty high.

Careful,

Korbel

 

[Techman]

While I hate to be as pessimistic as some others about the lady's possible intentions, I have to agree somewhat with My_dingaling. Take a break. It takes a certain type of guy to have a successful chance with a stripper. If you have any lack of self confidence you are possibly setting yourself up for heartbreak and an empty wallet. Just the way you asked the question on the board shows to me that you are ripe for the taking for an enterprising gold digger because it seems you are bluring the line between the fantasy and reality.

Of course, none of us have shared your experiences with this girl and cannot be absolutely certain of her motives. To me, take your best shot. But one shot only. There is a good chance that if you ask her out, she will say no. If she does, then just let things alone and enjoy her company in the club. If she says yes, but then continues putting the date off time and time again, don't walk away...run away as she is only interested in your wallet.

Now in the rare possibility she does say yes, suggest going for lunch or a coffee. Or maybe even an afternoon matinee movie before she goes to work. Don't take her for an expensive dinner or try to impress her, it will be a waste of time and money. Don't go out after she finishes work as you will have been drinking and your judgement will be impaired, and she will be tired and not at her best either.

Anyways, take it slowly, and be careful not to set yourself up for dissapointment or worse. If you need any other info or have other questions, don't hesitate to post them or send them by PM. I would be glad to help and I'm certain others will be also.

Techman

 

[korbel]

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Now in the rare possibility she does say yes, suggest going for lunch or a coffee. Or maybe even an afternoon matinee movie before she goes to work. Don't take her for an expensive dinner or try to impress her, it will be a waste of time and money. Don't go out after she finishes work as you will have been drinking and your judgement will be impaired, and she will be tired and not at her best either.

Techman

Hello ops_com,

Yes, the best move is to see if she enjoys being with you during the light or more mundane moments rather than trying to dazzle her. That doesn't mean you have to be boring or cheap. But if you have been tossing a lot of money at her in the club, there could easily be a motivation issue.

Easy and slow,

Korbel

 

[korbel]

What is really is?

As others have said, she may only have missed your money, though the girls also appreciate anyone who treats them with kindness and respect.



I would be direct and, if you can manage it, very confident. If you appear to show a girl that she would be doing you a favour to go out with you, that you think she is out-of-your-league, then you have no chance at all. None.

As for how to deal with it, well, ask her out, it can take a few tries but just make sure you aren't putting yourself in a position to be taken advantage of...especially not for more than you can truly afford financially. Some girls will take you for a ride, give you an email, maybe even meet you for coffee exclusively to keep the money flowing. Frankly, because you are her "client" to begin with, it is a challenge to earn a stripper's respect...you are already viewed as a dupe, not a "cool" or worthwhile guy.


That will only happen if you get emotional (don't) or you run out of money (don't do that either).

Hello Ops_com,

It's probably somewhere in between our suspicions and our hopes. I get the feeling of genuine fondness sometimes from SPs and strippers I have seen multiple times. If it is more you will the need time to discover it without distorting the issue with too much "direct motivation"...i.e....cash flow.

Careful,

Korbel

 

[J. Peterman]

Long term ramifications.

Can you live with the possibility that she may get her tanticles into you and not want to let go? Make sure she knows what your true intentions are. Can you afford to get involved and turn a short term fling into a long term situation?