Hello people. 
WOW! This thread really took off overnight.  
	
		
	
	
		
		
			I do not understand the seriousness or your near hysterical reaction.
		
		
	 
Some  anxiety over not knowing or being told the  truth before being intimate and even more anxiety after is  understandable and normal....up to a point. Sexual  identity and sensitivity is a very tender element that should be  respected. It's part of the key to our perception of ourselves and our  whole self-identity. Despite the rights of others to live a sexual  identity as they choose it's not their right to deceive in a way that  wounds or threatens the sexual identity of others. However having a  reaction after finding out 6 months later having not experienced any  discomfort at all until then, well, it's interesting learning the truth  so long after having a good time remains disturbing. It illuminates how  sensitive sexual self-identity is no matter what one believed about what  was going on at the time. 
However, if you are concerned about  bumping up (accidentally) against men on the metro or guys having their  legs open bothers you your sensitivities are extreme and it's beyond  anything a transgender could be responsible for whether you knew who she  had been or not. 
	
		
	
	
		
		
			Beating people up is for the weak. Kindness and compassion is real strength. Maybe I just have too much confidence in my own orientation. But I  cannot imagine getting so upset, or having nightmares for years.
		
		
	 
Absolutely! while deception is a very serious issue which cannot and should not be put aside or diminished this issue is just as much about CONFIDENCE and SECURITY in yourself. Beating someone over your issues will not change anything about your own weaknesses and insecurities.
Still, I think it offends some guys more they could not tell the difference rather than not being told. 
Cheers