Ask us anything part 3

[Julia Sky]

Have you ever deeply missed someone that you meet as a client that no longer wants to see you again
Can answer yes or no without details if it’s too heartbreaking

Yes. He got married. Happy for him but I'm sad I won't see him again!

There's also a client I miss so much, he used to be my favorite my first couple of years as an escort. We'd always laugh so much. Then I didn't see him for a couple years due to reasons, and when he booked me again, the chemistry wasn't the same anymore. Haven't seen him since.

 

[Julia Sky]

Just know we often roll our eyes when we read “I’m white” when it’s not asked.

Yep. And Julia being Julia, I almost always confront them about it. I ask why they mention it. Majority of the time it's because they noticed many escorts don't see black/brown men. So I point out that just because some people are racist doesn't mean I appreciate him assuming I am also racist, and flaunting whiteness in my inbox in his first message is not charming. A lot of the time they're like "wow I guess you're right, I didn't see it that way"

 

[Sylar]

On a more serious note, I do mention that I am Asian while giving an approximate description of myself. It just makes things easier even if it is not required as part of the screening process.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I ask for a short physical description, I want to recognize at first glance the person I am meeting especially if we have to meet in a hotel lobby. I appreciate having an idea, physically, of the person I am going to meet. They almost always tell me if they are Asian, from the Middle East, Indian, white, black, etc. it doesn't make a difference to me. It's simply more information.

 

[LC18]

I ask for a short physical description, I want to recognize at first glance the person I am meeting especially if we have to meet in a hotel lobby. I appreciate having an idea, physically, of the person I am going to meet. They almost always tell me if they are Asian, from the Middle East, Indian, white, black, etc. it doesn't make a difference to me. It's simply more information.

But you ask for a physical description so that makes sense.

I ask for Name, Age, Date and they will almost always say Batman, 56, white

Then I say: ok cool but date???

 

[Giselle Montreal]

But you ask for a physical description so that makes sense.

I ask for Name, Age, Date and they will almost always say Batman, 56, white

Then I say: ok cool but date???

Do they tell you when asian, black or indian? Why is it different if they tell you they are white?

 

[LC18]

To sum it up, it’s the fact that they’re so focused on telling me that they’re white that they don’t mention the other info I’ve asked that bothers me.

When they answer all of my questions and add that they’re white it doesn’t bother me as much

 

[LC18]

Do they tell you when asian, black or indian? Why is it different if they tell you they are white?

No other people don’t mention it as much so sometimes it’s funny because the name sounded like they could be another race and they show up and they’re white or vice versa

 

[CaptRenault]

...I almost always confront them about it. I ask why they mention it. Majority of the time it's because they noticed many escorts don't see black/brown men. So I point out that just because some people are racist doesn't mean I appreciate him assuming I am also racist, and flaunting whiteness in my inbox in his first message is not charming..."

It's not up to the client to "charm" the escort. It's the escort's job to charm the client.

How to stop overreacting and finally gain control over your emotions

 

[talkinghead]

Do they tell you when asian, black or indian?

And what if they tell you they're Indian .. and then happen to turn Black?

 

[LC18]

And what if they tell you they're Indian .. and then happen to turn Black?

The black, brown, Indian thing can be confusing for some.

Some black people will call themselves brown and south Asian people will call themselves brown too

 

[talkinghead]

The black, brown, Indian thing can be confusing for some.

Some black people will call themselves brown and south Asian people will call themselves brown too

I apologize if I was obscure! I was making a joke about the current American election nonsense.

 

[LC18]

I apologize if I was obscure! I was making a joke about the current American election nonsense.

Sorry missed that

 

[talkinghead]

Sorry missed that

Consider yourself lucky....

 

[Fradi]

On a more serious note, I do mention that I am Asian while giving an approximate description of myself. It just makes things easier even if it is not required as part of the screening process.

Like at a border crossing mention only what they ask for lol.

 

[AirBo]

It's not up to the client to "charm" the escort. It's the escort's job to charm the client.

How to stop overreacting and finally gain control over your emotions

Charming the escort is definitely part of the fun for me

 

[Fradi]

Charming the escort is definitely part of the fun for me

I can be extremely charming $$$$$$$$.

 

[AirBo]

I can be extremely charming $$$$$$$$.

"Girls just wanna have funds"

 

[Lunaseraphim]

[Clients]

Why do you feel the need to mention that you’re white? Most of us either have a form on our website or if you message us will send you a few things we require to book. Even when we don’t ask for race, some of you will mention that they’re white. Why?

I am really disturbed by that as well. I couldn't care less that a client is white or not, it doesn't make me feel safer to know that someone is white, and it's become a red flag for me when it's mentioned in a very short intro by someone who doesn't want to screen. Some providers ask for ethnicity and I think in some cases it's because they are racist, and that's not everyone. In some cases, I suspect people ask for it to have a detail about the client's physical appearance since many clients refuse to provide photos.. However, I don't ask for ethnicity and I really don't like someone giving me almost no info except that they are white/caucasian.

I've actually had clients lie about their ethnicity and that really disturbed me, not because I wanted them to be white, but because it's a lie and I felt like they were trying to trick me into seeing them. It's really strange to me.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Have you ever deeply missed someone that you meet as a client that no longer wants to see you again
Can answer yes or no without details if it’s too heartbreaking

Yes, I often miss clients who stopped booking me, but I don't take it personally.. I don't assume it's because they don't want to see me again. I often imagine they can't afford to see a SP at the moment, got a partner, or something similar. There was a client I got along with really well that I saw a couple times last winter. He took me on a dinner date and he would bring me flowers and chocolate. I really liked this person.. He didn't book me for a while and I assumed that he got a gf.. Then out of nowhere I got a message from him. He booked me for 2 hours, and it was a no call no show. I was pretty upset. He never wrote to me again after that.

Sometimes I'm sad because I had an amazing booking with someone I really connected with, and I don't see them again because they don't live in Montreal or even in Canada. I've felt a bit heartbroken a few times hehe