Toys should always be new (in the box). Maybe someone doesn't mind to use one with a condom on it; they should be properly disinfected.
Ask us anything part 3
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Honestly here are my 2 cents.. maybe if a provider offers Greek/PSE, but I can't guarantee the person will accept.. Many of us already have our own toys as well and I think some SP would not feel comfortable with you bringing a personal toy that's not in the box for hygiene reasons...
As for a butt plug.. I've used them on occasion with clients but it's rare and it was with regular clients sometimes who didn't book me for a long period of time. I use the smallest size. It's really not my favorite thing. If a client who read my ad asked to use their own butt plug on me I'd say no, definitely.
It doesn't hurt to ask but if it's a deal breaker if she says no I would not waste her time..
Yeah I do not push restrictions so would only think of something like a plug with a girl who gets down with the brown so to speak and who's offering. I'll just forget about it as it's too much of a hassle to buy one for every girl I see who's offering. My thumb or face will have to do.
I would ask the provider about bringing toys.
Bringing your own toys might not result in your toys being used on them, but on you
Many who are down for using toys, have their own toys, and for some it is concidered an extra to include toy play, or for them to bring their toy bag. (It takes time to properly care for toys after play.)
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I like when clients ask if they can bring something. I drive, so alcohol is not on my short list of drinks. Often I just ask for water.
One of my favorite people to visit, whether he has cum or not, by like 30 minutes in always reserves the second half of our time for "coffee time". (I keep a container of hot chocolate mix in my vehicle for when I go see him, because I use hotchocolate instead of sugar in my coffee.)
Drinking is for either when I go out to the clubs (2 times a year), at home when I am unavailable to work (but still rarely do), or mainly when I go to the campground. (They must think me an alcoholic there, my happy place there, is a smirnoff ice in 1 hand, and a tool of some sort in the other. While I get to work on a project that people turn to professionals for, while I figure shit out myself. DIY style.)
I would be tickled pink if I was given flowers.
I've had long term relationships that I was lucky to get a flower by year 3. It is such a sweet gesture. I was given a bouquet of fake flowers once from a precious client. I still have it in my room at home.
Well thank you, I'll start bringing them when I feel like it.I would be tickled pink if I was given flowers.
I was given a bouquet of fake flowers once from a precious client. I still have it in my room at home.
I order online to avoid the draw to areas I can't afford to be drawn to. It is easier to stick to the basics, but I don't think the flowers are an online item.
Hehehe down with the brown...
A lot of girls have a plug of their own. You can ask if they have one
Go on amazon at 5 bucks a plug you can buy as many as you want.
I would never use those cheap toys. I wouldn't put my livelihood at risk!
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Plus, I wouldn't want the cheap toy to break in half in my butthole...
I agree when I have bought toys mostly glass easily cleaned in boiling water. But I was thinking of a one time use product use it and throw it away. You could even put a condom on it.
Where is the thread about online privacy? I now have in my feed Sephora's ad about sex toys. Yes Sephora ...
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Boundaries
Tout d’abord un peu de contexte. J’ai grandi dans un environnement où je n’ai pas développé de saines limites. Aujourd’hui je réalise que j’ai besoin d’en développer afin de vivre des relations plus épanouies et je travaille activement sur moi dans ce sens.
Ça m’a pris quelques jours, mais j’ai lu l’ensemble des threads "Ask us anything". (oui, je suis très curieux de nature et j’ai beaucoup de temps libres). Je tiens d’abord à féliciter toutes celles qui répondent généreusement aux questions. J’ai remarqué à quelques occasions que certaines d’entre vous ont répondues avec fermeté et un doigté impressionnant à des questions inappropriées. Des réponses qui sans être méchantes, ni agressantes envers l’auteur étaient tout de même claires sur les limites à ne pas franchir.
Donc ma question est comment avez-vous développé cette capacité à exprimer vos limites avec autant de classe? Je suis preneur de tout conseil qui peut potentiellement m’aider dans mon cheminement.
Un talent naturel? Du travail sur vous avec des lectures ou des professionnels? Par obligation parce qu’il existe trop de morons? (Si c’est suite à des expériences traumatisantes, je suis désolé que ça vous soit arrivé, mon intention n’est pas de vous les faire revivre / passez à la prochaine question.)
Tout d’abord un peu de contexte. J’ai grandi dans un environnement où je n’ai pas développé de saines limites. Aujourd’hui je réalise que j’ai besoin d’en développer afin de vivre des relations plus épanouies et je travaille activement sur moi dans ce sens.
Ça m’a pris quelques jours, mais j’ai lu l’ensemble des threads "Ask us anything". (oui, je suis très curieux de nature et j’ai beaucoup de temps libres). Je tiens d’abord à féliciter toutes celles qui répondent généreusement aux questions. J’ai remarqué à quelques occasions que certaines d’entre vous ont répondues avec fermeté et un doigté impressionnant à des questions inappropriées. Des réponses qui sans être méchantes, ni agressantes envers l’auteur étaient tout de même claires sur les limites à ne pas franchir.
Donc ma question est comment avez-vous développé cette capacité à exprimer vos limites avec autant de classe? Je suis preneur de tout conseil qui peut potentiellement m’aider dans mon cheminement.
Un talent naturel? Du travail sur vous avec des lectures ou des professionnels? Par obligation parce qu’il existe trop de morons? (Si c’est suite à des expériences traumatisantes, je suis désolé que ça vous soit arrivé, mon intention n’est pas de vous les faire revivre / passez à la prochaine question.)
Hier soir, j'ai attentivement lu ton commentaire et j'ai réfléchi beaucoup aux mots que je souhaitais utiliser dans ma réponse.. Comme toi, j'ai souvent été dans des milieux sociaux où les gens dépassaient les limites des autres et avaient des comportement irrespectueux. Certains milieux artistiques attirent beaucoup les gros égos voire même les personnalités narcissiques.. J'ai toujours eu beaucoup de mal à mettre mes limites avec les autres, et je suis une personne naturellement gentille et généreuse, ce qui fait en sorte que souvent les gens profitaient de moi. On percevait souvent ma façon d'exprimer mes émotions et ma vulnérabilité comme de la faiblesse, ce qui attirait des prédateurs et des ''bullies''.
En devenant travailleuse du sexe j'ai réalisé que je n'avais pas le choix de mettre mes limites avec les clients. J'ai développé une meilleure compréhension de moi même, ce que je peux tolérer, et ce que je ne veux pas subir. Les femmes, surtout dans cette industrie, sont souvent invalidées, et on s'attend de nous que nous restons polies et souriantes sans trop montrer d'émotions et sans dire notre opinion. Souvent, lorsque je donne mon avis sur quelque chose, c'est perçu comme une attaque même si j'ai pris des gants blancs pour y arriver. Certaines réactions peuvent aussi être ignorées ou même ridiculisées car ''trop émotives''.
Ma réponse c'est qu'on n'a pas vraiment le choix.
Si je veux des clients, je ne veux pas avoir l'air négative et méchante.. En même temps, je ne veux pas rester silencieuse et je tiens à donner ma version des choses.
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I did bring flowers when I began visiting SPs and all seems very surprised and appreciative
I don’t do that anymore cause it’s not as special for me to visit SPs as it use be.
Now
The gift from me is a Starbucks drink of their choice before the session and tip at the end of the session
SPs. What are the typical gifts you receive?
And how often do you receive it?
I don’t do that anymore cause it’s not as special for me to visit SPs as it use be.
Now
The gift from me is a Starbucks drink of their choice before the session and tip at the end of the session
SPs. What are the typical gifts you receive?
And how often do you receive it?
There is no typical gifts. I get more gifts at my public job than I get in this private business.
But I have been given a few things over the years, the most regular gift might be an extra tip when I count. It is always appreciated. I believe they see and know that when I thank them. I have been given a bottle of wine, or treats, like some pastry I haven't tried, from some place I've never been. (It's not hard I'm more of a shut in than exploring the city. So adore it all.)
As for how often. Not really often. But I'm not asking, or expecting, one either. It is appreciated, and it does leave a lasting impression on me when I recieve something, but it doesn't make me like anyone less for not recieving something. They are still my lovlies because they choose to spend time with me, and I appreciate them for the good times we have together.
Sure I see others who get gifts, but often I think the value of some of the gifts the higher end recieve would be completely lost on me anyways. No reason to dream about the ocean, when I am perfectly content in my pond.
Talking about tips. What's the usual way to tip?
I get the idea for the envelope before. But for me it feels a bit awkward afterwards for the tip.
For my first time I gave the tip together with the donation. It was my first time and somehow I had the feeling it will be great. I didn't regret my decision
Talking about tips. What's the usual way to tip?
I get the idea for the envelope before. But for me it feels a bit awkward afterwards for the tip.
For my first time I gave the tip together with the donation. It was my first time and somehow I had the feeling it will be great. I didn't regret my decision
It goes however you feel like giving a tip. Most of the time I got it at the start with the initial payment. It does give an extra chipperness to getting the time started. I have rarely gotten it at the end, and once was slipped it by etransfer, after the visit, even though I don't accept transfers as a personal rule.
Either works, at the beginning, says you have faith that you are going to have a great time, and after, says you had such a great time you feel obliged to contribute more.
And for those who don't intend to tip, bring exact cash, because the assumption is overpayment is tip, not your expecting to get change back. ( it has come up before.)
