Hello all,
The article concludes with the escort calling all clients untrustworthy: "I can't trust any of them. They're all liars. Some nicer or cuter than others, but all liars." Here is the article:
Wall Street escort reveals how the clients she flatters are actually 'really small and bad in bed'
I've always said, "
both sides in this hobby are equal", and I think this article says a lot to prove that statement.
Simplified, the purpose of hobby is to have fun companionship with a woman, sexual or non-sexual as you may prefer, but without the emotional or commitment complications of dating or marriage. Regardless of the great difficulty of avoiding those complications, neither side should ever forget that when the money is paid and the encounter ends, it's a BUSINESS DEAL. That's what it is after all.
When the business deal ends the two parties may never meet again. No matter what either party may have said or done to make the encounter more pleasurable with enticements that were emotional, physical, or monetary, it's still a clocked business deal with no strings attached that can end permanently with any next closing of the door. If anyone forgets that isn't it their issue.
We all know both sides break the no complications rules, and I don't think it's right or fair to do anything of the sort. But in making the encounter the best it can be I imagine both sides often say and act in ways that create complications. Some persons may be far more devious and deliberate in complicating the more sensible relationship of an encounter experience, but if either side loses sight that what is happening is a clocked business deal, then it's at least partially their own fault for keeping and believing in risky expectations, no matter how devious the other party may have been.
Yes, it's dirty to play games with allusions and promises one has no intention of fulfilling, used as leverage to get more out of the other person. I can't blame anyone for feeling betrayed and angry when the other party goes over-the-top plying the first party with committal inferences or specific promises. But part of the problem is letting yourself be deceived. While I find dishonesty unnecessary and inexcusable, forgetting it's only a business that can end when the door shuts is part of the problem.
But more generally, isn't the same kind of awareness necessary in any real relationship. How many men and women have played each other for sex, or the prospect of much more in real life? So does anyone really have any excuses for allowing themselves to be deceived when the awareness should be the norm any time, inside or outside of the hobby? I've always found it a strange contradiction that so many admire "the player" type and want to be one, but then complain about being "PLAYED!"
'One guy who was in private equity gave me $5,000 a month for four months, but then he disappeared. These men, it's like they die one day.
Well, the reason I've been going on this angle is the statement just above by the escort in the article. We can't know all of the precise circumstances involved between her and one man. She only refers to a regular amount of money and it's sudden end. But it's an indication she wasn't keeping a realistic perspective on her business, deceived or not.
...the young sex worker confesses that sometimes she can't help but feel jealous of the wives of her handsome, well-dressed, successful Wall Street clients...
Having thought that she may find a man 'who wanted something long-term,' the New Yorker realises that this is no longer a realistic goal.
According to the article she reveals feelings of jealousy, envy, and the hope of "something long term", then coming to the realization of my own point that forgetting this is a BUSINESS with relationships that not only can end suddenly without reason or excuses...but is meant to be that way. THAT'S IT'S PURPOSE!
I don't think most of those involved in this hobby on either side are "losers" any more than those outside of the hobby. It's the same situation of trying to keep a realistic perspective about what is going on between two people inside or outside of the hobby as both men and women try to discover what the other is really about inside of the person. If anything, being in the hobby should help keep perspectives real simply because the situation isn't about being real. It's fantasy.
I don't condone any kind of deceptions between two people regardless of the situation. I passed on what would have been one of the best fantasy trips of my life, with sex off the clock, just to "keep it real" (yes, even so I still wish many times I had gone). But the ones that are losers IMHO are the ones in this hobby on either side who feel they have to create gross deceptions and exploitations to enjoy themselves, or forget this is all a business arrangement with no future commitment.
Frankly, the reasons the escort in this article is complaining seems to be reasons that show she forgot she is a business provider in a business meant to be temporary. If the men played upon her wishes and hopes, the odds are she often did the same to the men. Her jealousy, envy, hopes, and expectations for more beyond her business seem to indicate she did. Her plans for herself seem to have been
as dishonest to the guys as the guys who may have played her.
As I said: all equal, good and bad.
Cheers,
Merlot