A lot of people explore their fetishes with their partners or fwb.. But I do agree that a SP who can provide a certain fetish can fulfill the need of someone who doesn't feel sexually satisfied in their relationship.
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i know of many that cannot even get regular sex so fetishes are out of the question plus you gotta be a fetish guy!
I have a pissing fetish! its so hot when a female does that! glad i took the plunge
Like golden shower sort of thing or what specifically?
I've NEVER had anyone inquire about this..
That is actually pretty common hehe
Yes! Its such a personal thing when a woman does it and a privilege ! its my fav!
It's pretty much window dressing, and hobbyist doesn't really mean anything special or interesting in and of itself. It's just one of the many words that men use instead of calling themselves "johns". Using pooner or monger is the same thing. Monger is generally a more used term elsewhere and people in Montreal seem to prefer to use "hobbyist" and "hobby". It's to avoid using "john" which has negative connotations to men who pay for sex, even though it means the same thing. The same is true for men here normally using the word SP instead of using other words with more negative associations. It's just a form of politenesss within the community. Internationally some men and women like to use terms that to indicate they're not full time either partakers or sellers (jinetera for women in Cuba is an example) which to me just seems like rationalizing, but again it's just social lubricant. I personally don't like either "hobbyist" or "hobby" and tend to use "monger" instead, but that's more just habit and personal preference than anything else. I do use hobby and hobbyist here occasionally just because it's the locally accepted term.
why is john more derogatory than hobbyist lol
just say client
John is just a word, but it has negative associations, much like the ladies here would generally rather be called an SP rather than a hooker, because using the latter term is considered to be rude. It's a more socially acceptable term within the community. Yes, using client is fine, but it is what the SPs might refer to the men as, not what the men use to refer to themselves typically. Men describe themselves as "hobbyists" (or mongers, pooners, brothers, whatever) but not as "johns" because of the negativity associated with the term. It's all just social lubricant.
Exactly,
Golf is a hobby, ( at least for me it is some may differ on that) collecting stamps is a hobby.
John is the male equivalent to hooker.
Yes they are all just words and if anybody hates cancel culture and the nonsense surrounding which pronoun to use it is me.
Having said that there is something to be said about trying to be polite and kind especially when you know the use of a particular word is offensive to someone, it is not that difficult to use another word instead, luckily most languages have enough of a vocabulary to be able to do that easily.
Golf is a hobby, ( at least for me it is some may differ on that) collecting stamps is a hobby.
John is the male equivalent to hooker.
Yes they are all just words and if anybody hates cancel culture and the nonsense surrounding which pronoun to use it is me.
Having said that there is something to be said about trying to be polite and kind especially when you know the use of a particular word is offensive to someone, it is not that difficult to use another word instead, luckily most languages have enough of a vocabulary to be able to do that easily.
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Damn bro, I think you summed it all up in one picture. As the old saying goes "one picture is worth a thousand words".
All this "hobby" stuff might just only 'cum' from our tender childhood memories ... "little Johnny is going to put his choo choo in the tunnel".
Oh damn, who would have known, even "John" 'cums' from our tender days.
Then wouldn't this also apply to masturbation? "My hobby is masturbating" has a weird ring (lol) to it doesn't it?
"My hobby is eating snacks"
"My hobby is taking baths"
"My hobby is visiting my parents on the weekend"
Idk I just think there's a difference between a hobby and an activity you simply enjoy doing. Not everything is a hobby just because it's fun to do imo. If it's tied to basic needs (like food, sex, hygiene, personal relationships) I wouldn't call it a hobby, but that's just me. I don't have a monopoly on language.
It reminds me of the It's Always Sunny line from Frank "One of the things I like most, is banging whores."
For Frank I think it would be his favorite hobby.
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