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I never really understood why the term hobbyists is used also? Is it really a hobby for most guys who see escorts? Maybe that Word gets used because some hobbies have an addictive nature. As stated, each guy might have very different reasons for seeing escorts. I remember A few years ago, one guy stating on a similar thread, it was his only way of fucking younger women. He got a rush from seeing young women. he was married and with kids. Some use escorts to fulfill a certain fetish or fantasy that they could never fulfill with their partner. Worlds “ oldest profession”?? Has been there for all types of reasons.and it didn’t start yesterday.
I just think someone came up with the term « hobby » because service seeker or client was to direct in the early days of these kind of forums. Also it’s a good term when you can’t face the facts of what it really is ... a bit like « aficionado » for cigar smokers or « tasting wines » to cover the facts that smoking is bad and tasting wines every day makes you an alcoholic ...
Exactly ! Fetishes don’t work with partners i find! Its best to find a provider!
My point exactly, it's not a hobby and honestly in my opinion ''wanting to fuck young women'' isn't a need lol. I don't personally feel the need to fuck very young women or men, maybe because I don't objectify these people. I also disagree that hobbies generally have an addictive nature, except maybe for video games, but most people who play video games aren't addicted to them.
I don't think seeing escorts necessarily make you a sex addict tho. But I see your point, someone who has an unhealthy way of seeking services from escorts may use that term to avoid facing the issues behind their behavior.
A lot of people explore their fetishes with their partners or fwb.. But I do agree that a SP who can provide a certain fetish can fulfill the need of someone who doesn't feel sexually satisfied in their relationship.
i know of many that cannot even get regular sex so fetishes are out of the question plus you gotta be a fetish guy!
I have a pissing fetish! its so hot when a female does that! glad i took the plunge
Like golden shower sort of thing or what specifically?
I've NEVER had anyone inquire about this..
That is actually pretty common hehe
Yes! Its such a personal thing when a woman does it and a privilege ! its my fav!
It's pretty much window dressing, and hobbyist doesn't really mean anything special or interesting in and of itself. It's just one of the many words that men use instead of calling themselves "johns". Using pooner or monger is the same thing. Monger is generally a more used term elsewhere and people in Montreal seem to prefer to use "hobbyist" and "hobby". It's to avoid using "john" which has negative connotations to men who pay for sex, even though it means the same thing. The same is true for men here normally using the word SP instead of using other words with more negative associations. It's just a form of politenesss within the community. Internationally some men and women like to use terms that to indicate they're not full time either partakers or sellers (jinetera for women in Cuba is an example) which to me just seems like rationalizing, but again it's just social lubricant. I personally don't like either "hobbyist" or "hobby" and tend to use "monger" instead, but that's more just habit and personal preference than anything else. I do use hobby and hobbyist here occasionally just because it's the locally accepted term.
why is john more derogatory than hobbyist lol
just say client
John is just a word, but it has negative associations, much like the ladies here would generally rather be called an SP rather than a hooker, because using the latter term is considered to be rude. It's a more socially acceptable term within the community. Yes, using client is fine, but it is what the SPs might refer to the men as, not what the men use to refer to themselves typically. Men describe themselves as "hobbyists" (or mongers, pooners, brothers, whatever) but not as "johns" because of the negativity associated with the term. It's all just social lubricant.
Exactly,
Golf is a hobby, ( at least for me it is some may differ on that) collecting stamps is a hobby.
John is the male equivalent to hooker.
Yes they are all just words and if anybody hates cancel culture and the nonsense surrounding which pronoun to use it is me.
Having said that there is something to be said about trying to be polite and kind especially when you know the use of a particular word is offensive to someone, it is not that difficult to use another word instead, luckily most languages have enough of a vocabulary to be able to do that easily.
Golf is a hobby, ( at least for me it is some may differ on that) collecting stamps is a hobby.
John is the male equivalent to hooker.
Yes they are all just words and if anybody hates cancel culture and the nonsense surrounding which pronoun to use it is me.
Having said that there is something to be said about trying to be polite and kind especially when you know the use of a particular word is offensive to someone, it is not that difficult to use another word instead, luckily most languages have enough of a vocabulary to be able to do that easily.
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Damn bro, I think you summed it all up in one picture. As the old saying goes "one picture is worth a thousand words".
All this "hobby" stuff might just only 'cum' from our tender childhood memories ... "little Johnny is going to put his choo choo in the tunnel".
Oh damn, who would have known, even "John" 'cums' from our tender days.
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