Ask us anything part 3
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I received from home for a long time. It was an impulsive decision that I made under constraints. I didn't have access to an incall space at first.. I only started renting an incall in 2024, by the hour. I still had to receive from home until last April.. I decided to take a leap of faith and share an incall with other escorts that I pay monthly. It's expensive, but it has paid off. I have a lot more energy to work, I feel more well prepared when I see clients and a lot less anxious. When I decided to host from home I didn't think to myself ''oh I need to completely change the place'' because I was in a tough situation financially. It's a privilege to receive from an incall space if you're independent.. The way my place is decorated is wayyyy too personal and too connected to who I am ''in the real life''. My new incall space reflects ''Luna's personality'' a lot better.
A lot of providers host at their own home and there are different types of risks associated with it for sure but some spaces are more suitable than others. For example, a lot of girls live in condos that are decorated in a classic way and in a discreet area. One girl I did a duo with lives in a small apartment, but it's in a building and there's a lot of people coming and going so the neighbors could never really know what's going on. I live in a triplex, it's not as anonymous. Some people I know have an extra room or space that is separate from the rest of their room where they receive clients. One of my friends has a space that is accessible from another entrance and her clients don't see her living room and bedroom at all.
I can't imagine the preparation before receiving to make sure that no very common personal things are visible such as a card, a letter, etc. also the stress if you realize that during a session
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Honestly, it did add to the stress particularly since my place has a lot of objects.. It's clean but it's hard to tidy up because all of my art materials are here and I don't have enough storage for everything I own, so I always ended up forgetting something.. and even then, I felt judged pretty often. At some point I started making jewelry which was a really healing activity for me after a depressive phase, and a regular client I used to see made fun of me and said ''are you opening a kindergarten?''. I've also had people ask me if I had children because I have a lot of stuffed animals and I tend to like cute and pastel colored things. It's quite embarrassing. lolI can't imagine the preparation before receiving to make sure that no very common personal things are visible such as a card, a letter, etc. also the stress if you realize that during a session
I had a particularly strange experience once, there was a rumor about me being a heroin addict because I used to take THC oil to sleep and it required a syringe without a needle, and it was by my bed. Someone saw it and I started having a lot of questions from clients who were trying to score H... It was pretty scary. My biggest fear honestly wasn't that a client would snoop.. It's more that he would disrespect the space or spread more rumors like this, or that the neighbors would find out. I had a client I had only seen once leave something in my mailbox several months later, too.
I still take a lot of time preparing myself before an incall date, making sure everything is clean and smells good, creating an atmosphere etc. but the stress is much lower. I like that there's a clear separation between my personal life and my life as Luna now.
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Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages ), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers )
), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers
)Ask anything? Been trying to find threads with key words, but I am looking for something specific. I want anyone who can suggest an independent that offers massage with he acronyms without being a SP from a massage salon. I am searching for higher end SP who provides this as « junior » has trouble in other positions. Any suggestions for Indy SPs?
I've only been an active member of the forum for a year but I've noticed a couple of things. I think a lot of clients have a merb account but they don't use it. There are more lurkers than active users here.. and I don't think members are trying to ''hide'' someone by not reviewing her lol. I think a lot of guys don't have the time or the energy to write a review. A lot of men have told me they really don't like writing reviews also, because it's something intimate they don't really want to share, even if they did check the reviews to begin with. This is something that's hard to accept for die hard fans of this forum but the truth is that most clients don't write reviews or participate in this ''community''. American clients often don't read reviews at all.Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers
For me it fluctuates. Lately I'd say only 20% of my clients find me on Merb, but at other times of the year it's more like 35% or even 50%. These people don't necessarily have an active account, either.. Sometimes they just have 10 posts. One advantage of Merb for me is that I can interact with clients and a lot of people actually do like my comments and replies, but I've noticed that the lounge section of the forum seems to be less active than it used to be, and the members who are present the most often fluctuate a lot. Last summer and last fall the atmosphere was a lot lighter but recently things have been feeling really negative which is not really something I thrive on.
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I was this way up until recently. Had an account just to see if someone was legit or if anyone had a major (not preferential) issue with a provider.
I also never used to write reviews bc I was too busy with work, I used my experiences to write erotica in my free time, and honestly I just didn't want to put a great provider on blast thinking it would somehow restrict my ability to see them (stupid, I know, but the dick is a jealous bitch).
One time I told a provider I had an amazing time and they asked if I could write a review (on terb I think) and I posted it and people seemed to really like it and she said it helped her a lot so now I'm amenable to the idea (if I feel we both enjoyed ourselves). Then some drama about a month ago brought me into The Lounge and now I regret all my previous life decisions
I think clients who had a good experience and who know a provider allows reviews are making a mistake by withholding. You are just encouraging the person's business when doing this.I was this way up until recently. Had an account just to see if someone was legit or if anyone had a major (not preferential) issue with a provider.
I also never used to write reviews bc I was too busy with work, I used my experiences to write erotica in my free time, and honestly I just didn't want to put a great provider on blast thinking it would somehow restrict my ability to see them (stupid, I know, but the dick is a jealous bitch).
One time I told a provider I had an amazing time and they asked if I could write a review (on terb I think) and I posted it and people seemed to really like it and she said it helped her a lot so now I'm amenable to the idea (if I feel we both enjoyed ourselves). Then some drama about a month ago brought me into The Lounge and now I regret all my previous life decisions
I've had a lot of positive reviews and I don't have issues finding clients, but I am by no means living like a princess lol. No matter what, a SP will never be everyone's cup of tea. There are also providers I know who have been indies for years and barely have any review or have a NRP, and they are booked and busy. On one hand I think the importance of reviews is exaggerated, but on the other hand I think they can have a major impact on the SP's business and cause a lot of drama, so it definitely helps to have as many good reviews as possible..you can search escorts on tryst. Just get the settings right and things should work out.Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers
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Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers
I don't really know about any ratio.
I've seen merb members before. Don't know who they are on merb for the most part.
I only know of 1 for sure. Everyone I met, I enjoyed my time with, and am sure they did too. Haven't had any reviews written, but I'm alright with that.
The fact that it's been almost 3 years, and there are no negative reviews, and I have only started to be a supporting member, so imagined being an active participating member, not supporting, that if someone did write a good review, might just be shut down anyway. If it was bad it would have stayed for sure.
But those I clocked as merb members, or they told me after, admitted they found the reviewing, dehumanizing, and didn't like to participate in sharing for that reason.
Who knows could be I was bad, but sweet enough they didn't want me to feel negative after. (Not likely from what I have seen in the reviews, but never know. Could be a reason.)
Also I'm not exactly thin. Could be not wanting to be known for liking a bigger person, and there's really no nice way to review a bigger size without it sounding like a jab at attraction. Even for those who like it, there isn't positively charged terms to make it sound desirable, but is something that would likely come up in followup questions, that even a well intentioned review could turn into a fat-phobic thread.
I choose to see it as a positive, no bad news is good news, especially when the day my account was started here, was the day I started being available as a provider. Oct. 2022
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Are you ok with restaurants asking for your credit card numbers to book a table?
No issues with that. If you book from OpenTable it's rather common. Some even have no show policy to charge penalty. If I'm going to there I don't mind leaving it.
If I'm going to just book everywhere and at the last minute then I might be worried ...
No.
I guess I understand the concept, but I don't think I have been, or would be comfortable going to, a place high end enough to require a card number to book a table.
Delicious food can be found at places that don't need this type of requirement.
Sounds like the type of place I would wait for a work holiday party to be held at to expierience. When it's the boss who's paying. (Only time I've ever been to places like that.)
I’ve only had 2 places asked me for a credit card to book but yes I guess they too suffer from last minute cancellations or no shows
