Yes, I'm sure most of us adapt for the "workplace", but I'm not sure the few clients who participated in this thread are representative of my personal (or anyone else's) clientele. If I targeted my clients to reflect my preferences I'd be having better experiences ...probably, but definitely not making enough to make ends meet.There's some context spread over a few threads, and one of my threads got deleted for reasons unknown but long story short it comes down to: If you want more clients do what they're asking for (little or no makeup) or target your clients to reflect your preferences (less clients but better fit, and presumably experience). If you're shooting for the latter then do whatever you want and decide for yourself hpw big your boutique niche will be. You can also separate your personal esthetics from your business esthetics. In corporate speak they'd say adapted workplace behaviour. That's what they'd always tell me anyway. They'd also say that sometimes I didn't adapt enough. lol. I can't modify my behaviour enough to deal positively with the nitwits. I'd make a terrible SP.
I agree! But I also think it's true that we can't please everyone...
That's why I'm wondering sometimes if asking questions to clients here is that great of an idea. I try to make conversation, but the vast majority of clients who participate actively in this forum are not my clientele, no matter how appealing I try to be to them.. I usually get booked by people who don't participate in the forum or only ever made a few posts..
No, and if that happened I would refuse. I've had a few friends tell me that on their 18th birthday a father figure or older friend took them to see a SP and they were really traumatized and upset by the experience. If someone with little or no experience wants to book me, I will see them, but not if they are brought by someone else because the person could have been pressured. Consent is really important to me.
''Naturally beautiful'' is a social construct in my opinion.. I've always been told I was naturally beautiful but I still prefer wearing makeup when I see clients or when I go on a date or hang out with friends. I don't think women wear makeup because they are unattractive..... We wear makeup because yes on one hand it enhances our looks in a subtle way, but also because it's an art and can be part of a fashion style.
Especially you have beautiful blue eyes so it just adds to your attractiveness
Thats probably because the active members here represent a very small percentage of the overall population of potential clients out there.
It's true that the people here aren't representative of your regular clientele, but they don't need to be in this example, since the preferences aren't tied to hobbying in general, but rather to an overall gender perspective. Whether men prefer makeup or not isn't tied to whether they're mongers or not (or tats, piercings, fake boobs, whatever), but rather what the general group of men prefer, of which hobbyists are a small subset. They're probably still reflective of the whole though. As I mentioned before, you decide how big you want your boutique to be and adjust accordingly to bring enough feet to your door. I have absolutely no idea what that means in your case, or Luna's, or anyone else's, just that it's an individual choice. Still, the more direct information you have from the market the better informed you are about what choices you should be making. There's no right or wrong here.
ok well with a sample size of like 6 (?), no one should use this for a statistical analysis.
Not if you're only counting MERB men, but the evidence is available in numerous studies tied to men at large. Anyway, it doesn't really matter, as everyone will do what they want to do anyway and I don't want to suck up too much oxygen on this. I'll just say again that there's no right or wrong way to go.
I can't be bothered to invest the time, honestly. I'm not managing a business tied to the issue, and not managing anyone's preferences but my own, so I don't really care much. It's pretty well known anecdotally. If someone else wants to do the heavy liftng then more power to them.
That's really kind of you to say!
That's very true. And a lot of the active members seem to favor agencies and parlor over indies and seem to have certain opinions about rates and looks.......
just a reminder that not all clients view themselves as ''hobbyists'' and a LOT of clients have only seen escorts a few times, only hire escorts on occasion, only see an escort or two after a traumatic incident or during a period of grief, or see the same person all the time. that includes inactive members of this board who are just using it to see if someone is legit or not or looking at ads. i'd say most of my clients are not men who consider themselves ''hobbyists'' and they tend to have slightly different reasons for seeing escorts. I've met some clients who were active on this board and they are lovely tho
That is really an interesting topic.
It’s about respect and good company and having someone comfortable with your fetishes I find!
Not all clients have specific fetishes. But yeah, I think seeing escorts should be a way to fulfill a need and take care of yourself in a respectful way.
